Why he acts interested, then disappears... (The inside answer most don't know)

  • Published: 26 August 2015
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    This video explains whey men act interested and then disappear. Or in other words why men pull away.
    This can be one of the most confusing and frustrating situations in dating, and this explanation will help you stay in your power, stay grounded in love abundance and move your love life forward - even if a guy turns into a vanisher.
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Comments • 3 792

  • amanda navarro
    amanda navarro  Před 10 hodinami

    He stopped himself from saying good enough for him 😂. Oh these men, dating is hard. Guys go through the same thing!

    • lainey andres
      lainey andres  Před dnem

      I like all ur videos. Its all interesting!

      • Jemila Ahmed
        Jemila Ahmed  Před dnem


        • MeggzBott
          MeggzBott  Před 2 dny

          Yeah i experienced this..since i am dating now at 26 years old. But i actually get why guys ghost & don't communicate. Cuz to me, i feel thats a nice way to not deal with things that they dont want anymore etc. Some would vanish & then come back & that makes me roll my eyes, cuz i know i am just fooling myself..when i do text back, even tho i did try to ignore them at first, for the fact..they dont inform you, when something comes up. The excuse they use is..they were busy with work & etc. Sometimes i like to amuse myself & wonder what new excuse they got. But one thing i do know, is that i am not much of a catch at all, for a long time thing with someone..so i know i wouldnt have a 2nd date guaranteed or whatnot. So thats why i am okay with hookups on the first date, cuz i like meeting new people. Plus i am not looking for a relationship, for i am new to dating & sex..so i am just seeing whats out there & what i do or dont like. I have to admit, i am confused where i stand sexually. Cuz i cant feel much or get anything out of physcial sexual contact, but that i want to keep trying & see if i am for sure. Plus i know i am attracted to them & like when i get it from those i dont mind & like. But i just am not in a place..where i can be much, when it comes to sex though unfortunately, other than just being there, when they are lonely. But i am finding myself & i think that is all that is important for me now..in the long haul. Even tho it sucks when they do that, if it wasnt for me or they wasnt for me..then its a favor i feel.

          • LA Muel
            LA Muel  Před 2 dny

            I literally tell them go find some one else, get married , have babies, be happy. They come back for more. Wtf .

            • Dena Adelle
              Dena Adelle  Před 2 dny

              Serious question.... I cannot even tell you how many guys have wasted my time on online dating sites/apps and end up ghosting without even meeting up with me. I am so tired of going through the beginning of talking only for it all to vanish and waste my time once again... can I put in my profile “Please do not connect with me unless you will meet up with me?” Or something to that effect?? I in no way want to be rude but seriously? You don’t even know me and you are not giving me a chance. I’m sick of the matching and then vanishing. Our culture has tanked for sure. Ugh! If not that... what can I add (if anything) to my profile to try to weed out the people who aren’t intentional/serious? Thanks

              • S Siberian
                S Siberian  Před 3 dny

                I have been single for 10 years...maybe my man got hit by bus or took a wrong turn at Albuquerque 🤔

                • Nallely Santiago
                  Nallely Santiago  Před dnem


                  • Nadia Asencio
                    Nadia Asencio  Před 3 dny

                    Great job, Matt. Love your positive energy and your lucid explanations, keep it up! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

                    • Nthaby Seng
                      Nthaby Seng  Před 4 dny

                      Yep I call my crush the magic man...

                      • Big Gus
                        Big Gus  Před 5 dny

                        Men disappear because they were originally interested because they thought you looked sexy, but either you turned him off with feminist bull crap, or because you act self entitled (men hate that), or you are too busy working too much or always going out to be worth the effort. Women are the ones playing games and men are not into that crap. If you want a man then make him feel like a man, otherwise he will find someone more appreciative. Remember this: it is the men that always make the first move. It is the woman’s job to accept or deny his move. Women, for the most part, could get any guy they want, but men are the ones that have to settle down.

                        • keylime pie
                          keylime pie  Před 5 dny

                          I'm just getting tired of meeting these guys online investing time and conversations good morning goodnight texts ... and then sometimes they just disappear... like as if we never even talked. What a waste

                          • Chantall Green
                            Chantall Green  Před 5 dny

                            Just disgusting... 🤦🏾‍♀️

                            • krazisanada1
                              krazisanada1  Před 5 dny

                              I just disappear because I get depressive episodes and don’t want to drag her down with me

                              • Emmeline Candy
                                Emmeline Candy  Před 6 dny

                                New subscriber here thanks for the advice I really need this now 😢

                                • Arturo Ramos
                                  Arturo Ramos  Před 8 dny

                                  Sorry to read all the comments but I’m never rejected 😂😂😂 lol

                                  • Arturo Ramos
                                    Arturo Ramos  Před 7 dny

                                    Flibgonrt Sheglis lol thank now I feel special ♥️

                                    • Flibgonrt Sheglis
                                      Flibgonrt Sheglis  Před 7 dny

                                      I just rejected you. Next!

                                      • Johnson Yuen
                                        Johnson Yuen  Před 8 dny

                                        Greedy asshole

                                        • Pradatoru
                                          Pradatoru  Před 8 dny

                                          The problem is when you chase a girl and she keeps in touch with you but doesn't show any interest in him he will think you just friendzoned him but all you wanted was for that chase to keep going forever because all men know girls always have plan B

                                          • Luc O'Reilly
                                            Luc O'Reilly  Před 9 dny

                                            I've ghosted and been ghosted it sucks. You're left wondering what you've done or what's wrong with you. I honestly hate ghosting, it makes me feel like a coward. But I do it because there's something I don't like about them and telling them why would just make me feel like a bigger asshole. So instead I don't say anything. The cold hard truth is that people ghost, believing that something better is waiting for them. If this keeps happening to you, maybe the people ghosting you aren't the problem.

                                            • Mille
                                              Mille  Před 9 dny

                                              I will say to any woman WHO experiences a man WHO disappears, he is NOT worth it. It is as simple as that. Live your life fully for you and if he chooses not to be in it, it is his loss. He could never have made you happy anyway

                                              • Mckenna Omoruyi
                                                Mckenna Omoruyi  Před 10 dny


                                                • Heather McLean
                                                  Heather McLean  Před 11 dny

                                                  Such a terrific video, Mat! Gratitude ultimately helps you in immense ways in your life! I’m always grateful to meet wonderful men, and even if it doesn’t work our romantically, I have made a good friend!

                                                  • Menina Milenia
                                                    Menina Milenia  Před 12 dny

                                                    I had a guy message me acting interested and gung ho and after a week of texting and really connecting, I tried to meet up with him. He said "oh lemme see what's going but we'll be hanging out really soon" and I didn't hear from him again until I decided to text him myself 10 days later (yeah, I know). Btw, I saw him active on the OKCupid the day before I decided to text him. He did answer but seemed different. He told me he had gotten sick from smoking weed. I told him how I felt the next day (that I liked him and thought he was cute and genuine and non-jaded, etc). He said "I think everyone's jaded in some way, I've had a very tumultuous past but I appreciate the compliments. Maybe we could hang out as time allows. You're nice." I was really bummed because he seemed to be interested in me before. I was getting those vibes. He called me a very intelligent person who thinks differently than most people and that I'm an amazing person and he even called me sexy. He went from hot to cold right after I wanted to meet up because of the kindness he displayed. I'm still hurt by it and angry that he played with me like that. I basically told him I respected his decision because I'm an adult. 6 hours later he hits me with "I'm down to hang out sometime. I'll let you know." This made me mad af. I told him "I am not interested in hanging out. It's fine if you're not into me, not everyone's gotta like everyone. But for goodness sake have some fucking tact to not be an ass or a flake and say stuff like that. I'm a person. I'm nice but I'm not a doormat." I immediately blocked his number and unmatched him on the app. To this day, I'm just mind fucked about it. People suck.

                                                    • Michel bell Peter
                                                      Michel bell Peter  Před 12 dny

                                                      Let’s not judge men they have promplems I’m 10 year old and I understand

                                                      • Lilly Cham
                                                        Lilly Cham  Před 13 dny

                                                        They think they can do better than you, found something better, grass is greener on the other side. Just let go ....you will find them making a uturn back to you after they have been used up where they ran to 🤦‍♀️🙄 jerks.

                                                        • Johanna Littleman
                                                          Johanna Littleman  Před 14 dny

                                                          I'm 32 and the man I was talking to was 50. I know age is just a number. But, I was talking to him on the phone for a while and he sounded like he was interested. But than one night he called me and said he is going to stop calling me. He said he is afraid. I don't know why he is afraid. I never had the chance to ask him. I was careful to not get attached or get close to this man. So it doesn't bother me. I don't give my heart away to someone until I am really really sure about it. Never again with this person. I checked him off. No more!

                                                          • Astrid Slaughter
                                                            Astrid Slaughter  Před 14 dny

                                                            These are all shallow things that a man needs.. it's about companionship not entertainment. Poor guy, cant handle disappointment. Those guys like drama queens who want a shallow relationship.

                                                            • Paula C
                                                              Paula C  Před 15 dny

                                                              Online dating does not work! People think you are disposable. They have no regard anymore. Hell I'm happy when these clowns. Don't come my way . I had to cuss several men out. For coming at me this weekend with their playa attitude mist dont know shit about women!.. be glad the manchild is gone. You dodged a bullet! That's all they want is hit it and quit it!!

                                                              • Claire Gordon
                                                                Claire Gordon  Před 8 dny


                                                                • Paula C
                                                                  Paula C  Před 15 dny

                                                                  I'm glad he's gone. I am not dating for a while. I feel he got mad because I wouldn't sleep with him!

                                                                  • Paula C
                                                                    Paula C  Před 9 hodinami

                                                                    @Nallely Santiago he would have bounced any way. Hes mad because his motive did not work so he's punishing me I guess.

                                                                    • Nallely Santiago
                                                                      Nallely Santiago  Před 23 hodinami

                                                                      Be glad you didnt. It hurts when you do...and poof theyre gone. 😔

                                                                      • Paula C
                                                                        Paula C  Před 15 dny

                                                                        U have valid points.. but it still hurts. I gave him a piece of my mind. He blocked me. I blocked him first.. he blocked me from Instagram I never contact him on Instagram. . Its cheesy when a man cannot call send a breakup text. Avoiding. Immature as hell, u ask me.

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                                                                          • blue
                                                                            blue  Před 16 dny

                                                                            It happened to me for more than 2 years he was there then suddenly gone. No phone calls no explanation. Just gone. After few years he suddenly shown up no explanation was he suddenly gone for few years. After that he started texting me again asking to go out then everything gone again. One day I looked at his friendster I saw his wedding picture. I knew he will be gone forever. After more than a year I received a message from unknown person in yahoo.. I dont know how that person got may email add. The person keeps asking me to add him/her and keeps sending me message until i deleted stopped using that yahoo. He doesnt want to tell his name. After 7 years I saw him, that zombie guy in instagram. He is using the same username of the person kept sending me message on yahoo 7 years ago. The zombie in my life is the same person who was sending messages on me in yahoo. This year, we saw each other. He pretended he never saw me and didnt know me.

                                                                            • MORE〈3
                                                                              MORE〈3  Před 17 dny

                                                                              Because they meet somebody else and they feel good with the other person. Daaaah

                                                                              • Lyndsie Stremlow
                                                                                Lyndsie Stremlow  Před 17 dny

                                                                                Who cares why they do it?

                                                                                • Afia Agyeiwaa
                                                                                  Afia Agyeiwaa  Před 18 dny

                                                                                  Its fine to let go. But thinking that a man you really love and want to be with will end up adoring someone else for the rest of his life and that person not being you hurts a lot. You totally start to question yourself. But its whatever.

                                                                                  • Ariadne Wolf
                                                                                    Ariadne Wolf  Před 18 dny

                                                                                    Wait. WAIT. So if a guy isn't doing a decent job making me happy, he just runs away? Like a child? Who decided this was a good idea?? Sometimes the guy just flat-out screws up. The answer is FIX IT. Not flee. That fixes nothing.

                                                                                    • Aykse
                                                                                      Aykse  Před 19 dny

                                                                                      Many women crying and complaining about they've been ghosted, is his fault, I deserve one better person, thank you God for cutting off toxic people away from my life, he is a boy and the list going and going on.. But, before going to judge, think about yourself, your actions and judge after, many GIRLS, not women, haha, does this, I'm sorry to say it, but is the truth. Why? I may tell you many reasons, so pay attention here : 1) you are so clingy with your texts, call phones, I can't get my out space to deal with my thoughts and emotions, need to recharge myself after interactions with people 2) you speak with more people, I mean men, in text messages or something like this, doesn't matter, is so disturbing and disrespectful to doing that while you have partner ( now come and say to me you got a huge bond and he'll accept it, really? How about if he would do the same, flirting with other girls while you are in relationship) 3) you got to talk only trashtalking and nothing deep, have a huge ego and so much arrogance, this a huge turn off 4) you got a huge list with exes, you're talking about loyal man? ( come with argument you've been cheated by your exes every time, it's just stupid ) 5) you don't have a mature character at your age, like a childish acts, wasting your time on nonsenses, wasting money on shits while you can grown up 6) you're too selfish, spending so much time on your own, like playing videogames, watching Netflix and text at 11 pm. There are just many reasons, just wake up and stop crying about this, is your fault too, just analyze your actions before and you'll find out where did you made mistakes. Wish u a nice day, no hate, no sarcasm comment, just honest

                                                                                      • Adriana B.
                                                                                        Adriana B.  Před 19 dny

                                                                                        First time watching a video from you. I can feel the elevated conversation dialogue and kindness. No Toxic masculinity here. Thanks for the respect.

                                                                                        • Inkk Vibe
                                                                                          Inkk Vibe  Před 19 dny

                                                                                          Ugh...but whatever, their loss, I'll just stay an old maid and become a famous author like Jane Austin, still, wish my luck would change, rarely fall in love and it's usually one-sided :(

                                                                                          • Claudia Bothner
                                                                                            Claudia Bothner  Před 19 dny

                                                                                            Our times are not simple, bodies and souls stressed and weakened and it is not easy to mature in the ´emotionally dysfunctional backgrounds most ppl come from. Blaming the men is not correct and is not the way to go. How much real women are we most of us, ourselves? How grounded, self-disciplined, with healthy interests and knowing our true innermost worth? How easy it is to complain and blame and too think we are ínnocent and have no part in it. Sometimes some of us don't, but most ppl do. We can only have the kind of man that matches us. If we want some better one, we have to improve to meet that standard. One big obstacle to love is we don'ät know the other sex. And mostly, we don't really know our own either. Reading some comments here: They say and feel the same things about us. They are hurt too. Bad things are not always done on purpose or even knowingly. There is much pain and confusion to be healed.

                                                                                            • Paula Rost
                                                                                              Paula Rost  Před 20 dny

                                                                                              Men are much complicated than women! Huge fact!!!!

                                                                                              • Penny Hope
                                                                                                Penny Hope  Před 20 dny

                                                                                                Men and women are both guilty of ghosting each other. You have to just move on - both of you - so you are saved from the type of person who does this, regardless of gender. We are all worthy of having a respectful relationship so people who do this need to be removed from contacts and then move on.

                                                                                                • Kalini Green
                                                                                                  Kalini Green  Před 21 dnem

                                                                                                  When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. When people give a percentage of who they are to many, they can't ever give 100% to you. Authentic people don't play games or create drama in your life. Don't sacrifice your happiness for someone else's.

                                                                                                  • Potassuim_Cation
                                                                                                    Potassuim_Cation  Před 22 dny

                                                                                                    Can you write a thank you note saying "thank you so much for helping me deal with my traumatic fear of abandonment. You're the best person who's ever just disappeared without saying goodbye."?

                                                                                                    • Vesta Talebi
                                                                                                      Vesta Talebi  Před 22 dny

                                                                                                      Gurls I’m gay and I feel the same way Ughhh it sucks 😭😭😭

                                                                                                      • Eliza Fearless
                                                                                                        Eliza Fearless  Před 23 dny

                                                                                                        Love this

                                                                                                        • Huge Disappointment
                                                                                                          Huge Disappointment  Před 23 dny

                                                                                                          We've texted every day (on Snapchat) for almost 40 days and he hasn't contacted me today even though I sent streaks both this morning and tonight. I kinda feel like he's not over his ex and that stings. I'm just done with him. Unless something was really wrong, I don't want to talk to him again

                                                                                                          • Jordanne Brasher
                                                                                                            Jordanne Brasher  Před 23 dny

                                                                                                            I Love the Asshole but I am realistic and we both disappear and been doing it for 5 years off and on. I am a lot older than him and it’s been “ safe” to do it this way. Something I should think about. Shit!

                                                                                                            • Tori Alexander
                                                                                                              Tori Alexander  Před 23 dny

                                                                                                              5 guys did this to me got me so hurt and pissed

                                                                                                              • John S Prince
                                                                                                                John S Prince  Před 23 dny

                                                                                                                Listen stupid people! You are both going to have to chase each other if you want a real relationship. It's not the mans job or the woman's job to chase the other. its a two way street, and when he or she feels like you aren't chasing at least as much as they are, then there is a good chance that the neglected party will pull away. Perhaps thinking the other person is simply not that interested, or motivated to be a couple.

                                                                                                                • Imogen Heche
                                                                                                                  Imogen Heche  Před 24 dny

                                                                                                                  Your simply amazing. Thank you for your honesrly... I'm grateful lol

                                                                                                                  • Mara Althea Dimaculangan
                                                                                                                    Mara Althea Dimaculangan  Před 24 dny

                                                                                                                    when will they be mature and have balls

                                                                                                                    • Mara Althea Dimaculangan
                                                                                                                      Mara Althea Dimaculangan  Před 24 dny

                                                                                                                      ive been in ghosting game for 4 years. then finally leaves me for real.

                                                                                                                      • Nicki Daisy Reddwoodd
                                                                                                                        Nicki Daisy Reddwoodd  Před 25 dny

                                                                                                                        1:58 I know. He doesn't do it for the woman and instead does it simply for his own validation.

                                                                                                                        • John S Prince
                                                                                                                          John S Prince  Před 25 dny

                                                                                                                          I think a guy vanishes because you did or didn't do something that pissed him off to the point that rather than be mean or hurtful to you, he removes himself like a gentleman or a beast, till he's given you the opportunity to say hey? Can I make it better? Or whatever, as long as it isn't "I didn't do anything wrong, I shouldn't have to defend myself, and I'm just going to wait till he calms his unreasonable ass down. At that point you better hope you are good in the sack, because otherwise you no gonna see dude anymore kinda thing.

                                                                                                                          • John S Prince
                                                                                                                            John S Prince  Před 25 dny

                                                                                                                            I have rejected so many women for not being needy enough, I take it as laziness or a lack of interest, but I have never even had a relationship with a needy girl. Uhm, let me rephrase that. I have never had a relationship with a girl that had less relationship education on how to attract a high value alpha male than me. But still nothing pisses me off more with women than a female who tries to play a patience game with me for control or power in the relationship. I just see it as disrespectful, stupid, lazy, uncaring, and nothing much that benefits her in any way.

                                                                                                                            • Nicole DePietro
                                                                                                                              Nicole DePietro  Před 26 dny

                                                                                                                              I really was looking for these answers thank u

                                                                                                                              • Belinda Joy
                                                                                                                                Belinda Joy  Před 26 dny

                                                                                                                                3:54 Oh I see, that makes sense.

                                                                                                                                • Traditional Harmonicas
                                                                                                                                  Traditional Harmonicas  Před 28 dny

                                                                                                                                  Mans self worth = ability to provide happiness to women. Really

                                                                                                                                  • Kn allaboutme
                                                                                                                                    Kn allaboutme  Před 29 dny

                                                                                                                                    Wow man! all of my life as a girl, I thought women were complacated. That such a typical stereotype were are trying ourselves to prove otherwise.

                                                                                                                                    • Stephanie
                                                                                                                                      Stephanie  Před 29 dny

                                                                                                                                      People are where they want to be and talk to who they want to talk to. Period. End of.

                                                                                                                                      • J.S. Volgers
                                                                                                                                        J.S. Volgers  Před 29 dny

                                                                                                                                        because men are arseholes..mostly annunaki or reptoid, no manner..

                                                                                                                                        • martha black
                                                                                                                                          martha black  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                          I have only meet crappy guys. End up in a crappy marriage. I don't think any man can love me. Ever

                                                                                                                                          • Calvin M
                                                                                                                                            Calvin M  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                            This is inaccurate. A man doesn’t feel validated by taking you out. I just disappear if I decide I don’t like the girl too much. Thats ALL. We don’t have to feel mr chivalry or like we’ve outdone competition - that’s just childish. Don’t make it complicated. We disappear because: 1. We don’t like you 2. We like someone else 3. We want you to chase us 4. We are busy or circumstances came up How to get him back? Text or call him and see if he asks you out again. If not, ask him out. If none work then move on. It’s done. This video is just complicated and men don’t think this way at all. Please don’t hear the BS.

                                                                                                                                            • Calvin M
                                                                                                                                              Calvin M  Před 27 dny

                                                                                                                                              Louisa Toohey I don’t understand how I’m fooling myself...

                                                                                                                                              • Louisa Toohey
                                                                                                                                                Louisa Toohey  Před 27 dny

                                                                                                                                                Calvin M haha you see you would wonder why , but even then moving on and convincing yourself that is wasn’t enough , is you are trying to fool yourself. Anyway I’m just saying

                                                                                                                                                • Louisa Toohey
                                                                                                                                                  Louisa Toohey  Před 27 dny

                                                                                                                                                  Calvin M firstly, this does not apply to me, I am not needy! I couldn’t care less if someone disappeared, I honestly couldn’t care what I was making you aware of is the fact that the disappearing act short or not may not be good for ones emotions of you had a heart maybe you would actually listen not assume to think I am needy. Just think bro is all I was trying get you to do

                                                                                                                                                  • Calvin M
                                                                                                                                                    Calvin M  Před 27 dny

                                                                                                                                                    Louisa Toohey in the short timeframe, it’s okay if you disappear. Just stop being so needy. So what if they tick all the boxes for you? You didn’t tick it for them! Don’t get attached. On the other hand if it’s long term AND you’re unofficially dating for a while then its not right to disappear. If you dated me and disappeared then I’d try to find out why. If I can’t then I move on and consider the fact that you didn’t like me enough.

                                                                                                                                                    • Louisa Toohey
                                                                                                                                                      Louisa Toohey  Před 27 dny

                                                                                                                                                      Calvin M May I ask, what if a woman who you were dating and you were interested in, decided that you were not worth her time and just disappeared, with no reason, or even a tell tale as to how she was having second thoughts... here you are thinking “hmmm I actually do enjoy her company, she ticks all the right boxes, she is my kinda gal” you work yourself up then she just vanished, no reason what so ever . You are there now thinking what happened. How would that make you feel? Now , it’s perfectly fine to go date other people and if it’s not working , be honest it’s not working, however to leave without the other person knowing what happened can be very damaging to the receiving party. That is something that people need to understand, it’s a long term psychological effect , it’s depreciates the value of the individual, not only self esteem, the rest of the opposite sex will be blamed for some other people lack of maturity to be honest. The fact that you are taking the time to speak to someone, the same effort you put in to get to know that person should be the same effort you put in to let them know , how you think this is going, set them free. And then move on. Disappearing is never the answer , I don’t care how long or short of the time you spent getting to know someone, it does not give you the right to ask someone to open their doors and for you walk out just because “ you feel like it” or it’s not working, leaving damage behind. That takes a real man or woman.

                                                                                                                                                      • Amanda K
                                                                                                                                                        Amanda K  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                        Both women and men are guilty of this. Why not just be honest and upfront, stop playing these fucking games. It’s wasting time and emotions honestly.

                                                                                                                                                        • Slim
                                                                                                                                                          Slim  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                          Thank you

                                                                                                                                                          • Barrel Link
                                                                                                                                                            Barrel Link  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                            That happens to me and my crush in 6th grade and I feel so stupid because he said heyyyyyyyyyy and I didn’t know that he was interested in me and then 1 day before our school year ended I told him how I felt on text and he said we could be friends..I was heartbroken and thought everyday since then what I did wrong...and that was a couple weeks ago. From now on I’m dating girls and never trusting boys

                                                                                                                                                            • Vincent Sajid
                                                                                                                                                              Vincent Sajid  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                              You know what now he UNBLOCKED ME ,, what does it mean? Please help❗

                                                                                                                                                              • MrsQuietMusic
                                                                                                                                                                MrsQuietMusic  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                He wants to see if you will message him. Dont message him.

                                                                                                                                                                • SexyWellness
                                                                                                                                                                  SexyWellness  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                  Bottom line (straight) Ladies -- statistically, there are twice as many gay men than gay women. So there are just not enough guys to go around, and the straight ones have the play of the field !!! But other than that, Matthew is spot on. The only thing is: if you've been dumped by a narcissist, player, or otherwise (emotionally) unhealthy person after an LTR, you might be so devastated as to not be able to stop yourself from dissing the ex big time. (not classy)

                                                                                                                                                                  • Susan Ghera
                                                                                                                                                                    Susan Ghera  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                    Your explanation makes so much sense! Thank you Matt for always helping the female species better understand male mentality!

                                                                                                                                                                    • Ess Cee
                                                                                                                                                                      Ess Cee  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                      He was not Mr Romantic or Mr Chivalry. He was Mr Rookie lol hahaha

                                                                                                                                                                      • Jackie Olvera
                                                                                                                                                                        Jackie Olvera  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                        U r confused

                                                                                                                                                                        • Kgaitsewe Mofolo
                                                                                                                                                                          Kgaitsewe Mofolo  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                          Will never ever chase a man. I am tried . Will never ever be emotionally attached anymore. I will always be ready for a break up

                                                                                                                                                                          • Good Reads
                                                                                                                                                                            Good Reads  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                            That's why you cuss them before you cut them off... this punk vanished for over a week from talking everyday and sleeping together for the second time... but still happily watched my snapchats. I told him what's on my mind and blocked him. His response was as trash as he was.. he can go eat a dick.

                                                                                                                                                                            • Emokiriemi Abednego
                                                                                                                                                                              Emokiriemi Abednego  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                              Smartness is mandatory in a relationship and cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my spouse device and I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his devices. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from a cloned device without having to touch his phone. I read all his Whatsapp, Facebook,Instagram and Snapchat messages Including the deleted text messages and iMessages. You can contact him via Gmail (cyberhackinggenius) or speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146 and don’t forget to thank me later

                                                                                                                                                                              • Adriana K
                                                                                                                                                                                Adriana K  Před měsícem

                                                                                                                                                                                This guy I was seeing left me for no good reason and I feel so dumb for letting him hurt me and use me like that...breaks my heart

                                                                                                                                                                                • Emokiriemi Abednego
                                                                                                                                                                                  Emokiriemi Abednego  Před měsícem

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