7 Red Flags In Dating You Should NEVER Ignore

  • Published: 07 May 2018
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    7 Red Flags In Dating You Should NEVER Ignore
    One of the difficult things about dating is that sometimes people put a version of themselves forward that doesn't correspond to who they really are. So you can start a relationship, think you're dating this wonderful person and find out after several months that that's in fact not the case. And that's why in this video, I want to give you seven red flags that you absolutely need to be aware of to avoid dating someone that you don't want to be with. And this is true of both men and women and I'm gonna focus on things that aren't so obvious and not just jealousy or clinginess - things that might be happening that you're not noticing that if you did, you could save yourself a lot of pain.
    So the first thing is that if the person that you are dating has friends that you don't like, chances are the person you're not like. dating is someone you eventually will Now, of course you want to treat them as an individual, right? You're saying, "They're not like their friends. They don't have these qualities so why should I ascribe to them qualities that I see in these other people?" And if that's a wonderful feeling but the truth is we are all products of the five people that we hang out with the most. We're like our friends especially if we spend a lot of time with them.
    0:37 Check out the friends of the one you're dating
    1:20 Check out how they treat waitstaff or service people
    2:17 Be wary when they tell secrets that aren't supposed to be told
    3:18 They're heavily engaged in social media
    4:33 They had short-lasting relationships
    5:38 They put all the responsibility onto their ex when they broke up
    7:05 They have the idea of their partner being perfect
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Comments • 2 768

  • Vanessa D.
    Vanessa D.  Hace 12 horas

    Not that I needed any kind of assurance, BUT I think as general as this is, it's very true. I'm 100% sure, like hands down, that I'm in a relationship with my future husband.

    • Michael Pare
      Michael Pare  Hace 14 horas

      gold diggers with expensive tastes, most women fit this category these days, gone are the days of liking the person instead of their bank account.

      • bernardthedisappointedowl

        That is why I make absolutely no attempt to wash my cabbagy musk away - might as well be authentic to how it will inevitably end up, ^oo^

        • Bexa Cole
          Bexa Cole  Hace 2 días

          When a person is wanting to save another person (or pushing the person into situations so they can save them... (so they feel better about themselves)... it goes both ways on that one... the last guy I was close to was always saying he was helping/saving all these people (and as our relationship got deeper he was setting up situations where it would upset me/put my life in danger so that he could come in and "save me"/be the one that looks like they were doing all the work to resolve the situation... which the public saw him as the good guy and I was messed up girl). It's called "Knight in Shiny Armor" Syndrome...

          • Garrett Lees
            Garrett Lees  Hace 2 días

            I was dating a girl from China -- BIG red flag (with a few yellow stars)

            • Carolyn Nigro
              Carolyn Nigro  Hace 2 días

              would not have guessed he dated chicks.

              • *Heretic
                *Heretic  Hace 2 días

                Red Flag, people who always talk with : me and I

                • Nichole Hobson
                  Nichole Hobson  Hace 3 días

                  So I love your videos! Hope you can make a video about why men chase? And if chasing is something healthy that women should want to take place? · Is there a difference between courtship and chasing ·Can women chase ... Should they? Lastly what is the difference between pursuing a man or women opposed to chasing them? I am a fully confident women who let men approach me but when they do I cling on way to hard to try to skim through the exhausting getting to know your favorite color and skipping right into the deep and nitty gritty. It seems like I'm obsessed with figuring out who people really are and I get annoyed when they wont let me into thier world. Anyways that got me friendzoned quickly. Which eventually My persistence after bieng friendzoned got me blocked. So what Is it about men who dont like to be heavily pursued by a girl when they initially started the interest. Why does it turn men off when women show to much interest? Do we really need to pretend we aren't interested or play hard to get because I just can't do that. I get excited when I meet people and I wanna dive right in. I am learning to slow down And not rush people.

                  • Jake State Farm
                    Jake State Farm  Hace 3 días

                    The game is rigged; the only way to win is to not play, I decided not to play-MGTOW FOR LIFE.

                    • Donald Piniach
                      Donald Piniach  Hace 4 días

                      It is a popular misconception that you tend to have characteristics of your give closest friends, popularized by self help gurus, mass media and pop psychology. NO evidence suggests this, it is unfounded. The statistic shows a higher corellation than chance that friends share some commonalities. Imagine that! Friends have things in common, and a study shows it isn't chance. Like people choose friends they have something in common with! Astounding revelation!

                      • John Bower
                        John Bower  Hace 4 días

                        Be hard to judge me by my friends; lol I don't have any real friends.

                        • Jake Miller
                          Jake Miller  Hace 4 días

                          Seems like you took five minutes of google searching before you made this video -_-

                          • Roxas13XIII
                            Roxas13XIII  Hace 5 días

                            Ehh number 6 you gotta be careful with. If your ex cheated on you when you stayed loyal, then that's not really anything about you.

                            • sponge bob
                              sponge bob  Hace 5 días

                              I'm toxic. I tell my boyfriend everything. Even secrets.

                              • Harry Barry
                                Harry Barry  Hace 5 días

                                If you are dating a feminist, run and don't look back

                                • Britt
                                  Britt  Hace 5 días

                                  The social media thing is ALWAYS a red flag to me!! I prefer guys that barely spend time on social media or it’s simply not a big part of their lives. Guys that care too much of their image are a major turn off

                                  • PK Cazadores
                                    PK Cazadores  Hace 6 días

                                    2019, no American woman has had a long term relationship. Which is why we quit dating them... lol

                                    • field north
                                      field north  Hace 6 días

                                      You’ve described my mother. And that’s why I don’t speak to her.

                                      • mujjuman
                                        mujjuman  Hace 6 días

                                        i have all of these redflags

                                        • Asma Y
                                          Asma Y  Hace 6 días

                                          About point number 8, you can't really generalize it to all people. What if I married a psychopath and didn't know that before? Got manipulated, my money had been stolen by him, had to fix all what he ruin in our relation and was even forced to appologize for his own mistakes? Otherwise we would not survive. Untill I've had enough cuz the abuse never ends unless I move myself out.

                                          • Sheyn Berkin
                                            Sheyn Berkin  Hace 7 días

                                            Not all relationships end because of a fight on conversation some end or not work because of distance.

                                            • Jack Lan
                                              Jack Lan  Hace 7 días

                                              Biggest turn off is when they're always on their phone. It's so annoying and rude when you're trying to have a conversation and they are focused on their phone.

                                              • Amy Emerson
                                                Amy Emerson  Hace 7 días

                                                These are on point!

                                                • Dan Venus
                                                  Dan Venus  Hace 7 días

                                                  this is spot on

                                                  • Justin Wilhite
                                                    Justin Wilhite  Hace 9 días

                                                    the "not having long-lasting relationships" part is iffy. The one after is more accurate. It's not about how long their relationships lasted, but how they TALK about them that matters most. You can be in a meaningless 3 year relationship, or a meaningful 3 week relationship. What did you take away from it?

                                                    • Davis Johnson
                                                      Davis Johnson  Hace 9 días

                                                      jokes on you im single

                                                      • The Little Pasty
                                                        The Little Pasty  Hace 9 días

                                                        People with no self awareness bug me

                                                        • Freya Burgess
                                                          Freya Burgess  Hace 9 días

                                                          Oh my god! His mouth

                                                          • mohd yusuf ali yusuf ali
                                                            mohd yusuf ali yusuf ali  Hace 9 días

                                                            7th flag just deeply touched....this is wats happening with me

                                                            • Gideon Jordaan
                                                              Gideon Jordaan  Hace 10 días

                                                              Amazing video, made me do some introspection myself. And I just started dating someone as well, (almost) guilty of the idolising thing.

                                                              • Boviss1
                                                                Boviss1  Hace 10 días

                                                                Nonsense. If anyone knew why person a) feels attracted to person z) and not b) or c) or d) and so on then Coca Cola would have the patent and be making gazillions out of it. These American rules about who you should be attracted to are just socio-economic indicators for transactional relationships. But love makes no sense. I dont believe yaboy here knows a thing about it.

                                                                • Peter Hedlöf
                                                                  Peter Hedlöf  Hace 10 días

                                                                  Let say that Guy falls in Love with THE same person as you do. Why would he revel His tactics to whole world ? Just be honest THE Zionist need to destroys other people's look by Making Them bald before dating. When he needs to block other people's income to secure win. And if that wasnt enough he needs to make sure your sleeping habits crash. When as top of THE iceberg THE zionist tryed to kill you just to be sure to win. IF you survive you have to listen when THE Zionist explain how he Hates to lose and that he was a natural Born winner. IF you say Shallow & deep!

                                                                  • Lord Of Chaos Inc.
                                                                    Lord Of Chaos Inc.  Hace 10 días

                                                                    Was sceptic at first but there are some good points here. Also applies well to hiring staff and such things. Some common things here are being deceptive and correlated with this having a warped world view whatever came first.

                                                                    • becky Sawyer
                                                                      becky Sawyer  Hace 11 días

                                                                      Red flag: they don’t like animals

                                                                      • becky Sawyer
                                                                        becky Sawyer  Hace 11 días

                                                                        My red flag? They’re democrat. Hell nooooo

                                                                        • Ron Isaacs
                                                                          Ron Isaacs  Hace 12 días

                                                                          How about just NOT DATING? Women aren’t worth it MGTOW

                                                                          • Anthony Teggart
                                                                            Anthony Teggart  Hace 13 días

                                                                            I watch a lot of your videos and in this I noticed excessive blinking compared with all your other videos.

                                                                            • Matthew Carbone
                                                                              Matthew Carbone  Hace 13 días

                                                                              This humbled me. Thank you.

                                                                              • Hart Weber
                                                                                Hart Weber  Hace 13 días

                                                                                I'd like to add an addendum to Red Flag 1: If her friends or family don't like you, run. She will not choose you, the new guy in her life, over the people who have been in her life for years.

                                                                                • Spam Mail
                                                                                  Spam Mail  Hace 13 días

                                                                                  Someone who is heavily engaged in social media or anything that is very appearance based? So I should become a monk is what you're saying?

                                                                                  • Robert Dawson
                                                                                    Robert Dawson  Hace 13 días

                                                                                    So you’ve met my ex wife?

                                                                                    • Kenny Arias
                                                                                      Kenny Arias  Hace 13 días

                                                                                      his face is so happy I wanna punch him

                                                                                      • Akami Channel
                                                                                        Akami Channel  Hace 13 días

                                                                                        Charisma on Command likes numbers. We are the 5 people we hang out with most. 4 ways to make a great first impression. 7 red flags that you shouldn’t date someone.

                                                                                        • Captain Dildoface
                                                                                          Captain Dildoface  Hace 14 días

                                                                                          If they have a gob like a letterbox.

                                                                                          • captain skeptical
                                                                                            captain skeptical  Hace 14 días

                                                                                            you date girls with friends...then you "date" with her friends. avoid girls with friends circles.

                                                                                            • Miranda Scott
                                                                                              Miranda Scott  Hace 14 días

                                                                                              I can’t even think of 5 people I see every week. And I spend almost all my time alone... sad stuff

                                                                                              • Veren Rivs
                                                                                                Veren Rivs  Hace 14 días

                                                                                                The fact is being in Love make people have UnLogical experience beyond the head it just happened until you realized what s going on in the end.

                                                                                                • Defhrone
                                                                                                  Defhrone  Hace 14 días

                                                                                                  nr 5 really hit home. Especially since you mentioned the desire/drive to help people in dire straights. Litterally picked someone of the streets and sorted a home for them and helpt them get psych help and a job, because of said stories of evil parents kicked her out and such. Turns out, her parents are lovely people she's just a demon and got kicked out because of it and was basically exploiting me for all the help I offered

                                                                                                  • smack dabular
                                                                                                    smack dabular  Hace 15 días

                                                                                                    I hang out with Hitler, Stalin, Mao, kim, and amin but Im a good guy

                                                                                                    • Northern Gryphon
                                                                                                      Northern Gryphon  Hace 15 días

                                                                                                      #7 is not a red flag. It's just your own poor judgement caused by blind in love. #3 is marked as #2. Other than that, it's a good video. Thumbs up.

                                                                                                      • GreenskinHolland
                                                                                                        GreenskinHolland  Hace 16 días

                                                                                                        I am guilty to the bone of flag nr 7.....

                                                                                                        • Mark Tucker
                                                                                                          Mark Tucker  Hace 16 días

                                                                                                          The girl in the thumbnail appears to have originally been giving a thumbs up, but Charisma guy cropped out her thumb and replaced it with a flag... So! If you ever meet a girl with a small flag implanted where her thumb should be... Look. Out.

                                                                                                          • E.M. Scott
                                                                                                            E.M. Scott  Hace 16 días

                                                                                                            I was impressed that my ex didn't gossip or have external social issues. She was Filipina and the only thing that mattered was HER family. This is a fact; ask other people who have dated Filipina's. "Clanish" is the sanitized version. Proceed at your own peril!

                                                                                                            • TagPlugsTV
                                                                                                              TagPlugsTV  Hace 16 días

                                                                                                              My crush killed my neighbor's dog Is that a red flag?

                                                                                                              • E.M. Scott
                                                                                                                E.M. Scott  Hace 16 días

                                                                                                                Was it a pitbull or a wolf breed? Some heel biters are asking for it

                                                                                                                • Winters Music
                                                                                                                  Winters Music  Hace 16 días

                                                                                                                  Can you suggest a way to combat the "perfection" image? Is there a response to that you can use so that the person accepts early on that you have flaws but you're working on them?

                                                                                                                  • bthebest
                                                                                                                    bthebest  Hace 16 días

                                                                                                                    Put out or get out!!

                                                                                                                    • blaaa
                                                                                                                      blaaa  Hace 17 días

                                                                                                                      no blowie is the worst red flag. she gave her share of blowies and decided she had enough but would like to date anyways.

                                                                                                                      • Rachel Murphy
                                                                                                                        Rachel Murphy  Hace 17 días

                                                                                                                        Are you trained in psychology? I watched your videos for a while and you use actual points from psychology and give the same advice and points that a fully qualified psychiatrist use. Makes me wonder if you have a DSM.

                                                                                                                        • Jeff Carter
                                                                                                                          Jeff Carter  Hace 17 días

                                                                                                                          You wanna see your future with someone? Listen to how the talk to the people closest to them in their lives. Are they respectful? Loving? Kind? Or are they selfish, manipulative? Rude? This will be how they treat you. Just s matter of time.

                                                                                                                          • Garry Virk
                                                                                                                            Garry Virk  Hace 17 días

                                                                                                                            I am only here for his smile.......

                                                                                                                            • A Singh
                                                                                                                              A Singh  Hace 17 días

                                                                                                                              Very very good insight 20 years too late for me looool But a must for people in their teens

                                                                                                                              • Miss Janeen
                                                                                                                                Miss Janeen  Hace 17 días

                                                                                                                                Although I would not continue to date anyone who is rude to people they think are beneath them, the waitstaff one isn't always the best indicator. Twice I've dated guys who were super friendly to servers but turned out to be complete dill holes.

                                                                                                                                • Care4Cats - Ibiza
                                                                                                                                  Care4Cats - Ibiza  Hace 18 días

                                                                                                                                  I punish bad servers by following them home and humiliating them in front of their friends. Never had bad service again from those peasants..

                                                                                                                                  • lexvj Vjxelj
                                                                                                                                    lexvj Vjxelj  Hace 18 días

                                                                                                                                    I got 6/7

                                                                                                                                    • fulltimespy
                                                                                                                                      fulltimespy  Hace 18 días

                                                                                                                                      Chicks with horses is a big no no.

                                                                                                                                      • James on Stuff
                                                                                                                                        James on Stuff  Hace 18 días

                                                                                                                                        Wise beyond your years! Nice video

                                                                                                                                        • Emo_Pug
                                                                                                                                          Emo_Pug  Hace 19 días

                                                                                                                                          you ok man?

                                                                                                                                          • Captain Thumper
                                                                                                                                            Captain Thumper  Hace 19 días

                                                                                                                                            To date a woman in this day and age serves only to demonstrate stupity. Women ain't worth the hassle.

                                                                                                                                            • Marc Rover
                                                                                                                                              Marc Rover  Hace 19 días

                                                                                                                                              Good video. Here's some other things about dating I've realized or learned to watch out for: 1.) Do they constantly play the victim? If so, drop them. 2.) Do they CRAVE attention like a dope fiend? If so, this is a SURE FIRE SIGN they are totally devoid of character. 3.) Most importantly, OBSERVE THEIR PASSIONS. Are their passions something you can relate to? Or at the very least, respect? If not, you're headed into a doomed relationship.

                                                                                                                                              • God hand Mishima
                                                                                                                                                God hand Mishima  Hace 19 días

                                                                                                                                                I have to disagree with number 5. Sometimes it just doesn't work out or you just keep meeting the wrong people.

                                                                                                                                                • God hand Mishima
                                                                                                                                                  God hand Mishima  Hace 15 días

                                                                                                                                                  @E.M. Scott I mean sometimes you just don't find someone you click with or you just have bad luck. I wouldn't say it meant you were a bad catch

                                                                                                                                                  • E.M. Scott
                                                                                                                                                    E.M. Scott  Hace 16 días

                                                                                                                                                    Life is getting shorter not enough time to mellow like wine

                                                                                                                                                    • Zacke Feller
                                                                                                                                                      Zacke Feller  Hace 19 días

                                                                                                                                                      Haha story of my life 😭

                                                                                                                                                      • Brandi Lindsay
                                                                                                                                                        Brandi Lindsay  Hace 19 días

                                                                                                                                                        These are good ideas, but I don't think they apply to everyone's circumstances.

                                                                                                                                                        • weasley potter
                                                                                                                                                          weasley potter  Hace 19 días

                                                                                                                                                          Probably one of the most ignorant things I have heard in a long time. "If you have very different social media habits, then the relationship will not work." Wow. Who are you

                                                                                                                                                          • Noodlepancak
                                                                                                                                                            Noodlepancak  Hace 19 días

                                                                                                                                                            weasley potter bro did you listen to everything he said before that?

                                                                                                                                                            • Sunmoon Stars
                                                                                                                                                              Sunmoon Stars  Hace 20 días

                                                                                                                                                              There are situations where it is completely the other person's fault, examples being, a) they were philandering from the start, b) they are violent thugs, c) they've burgled your house, etc etc. The veneer of a good first impression can lead someone to dark places in a relationship, where we have to get out, because it is COMPLETELY THE OTHER PERSON'S FAULT (CAPS just for emphasis)!!!

                                                                                                                                                              • Wedrowny GrajeK
                                                                                                                                                                Wedrowny GrajeK  Hace 20 días

                                                                                                                                                                Guess what!