Have you met your soul mate? | Ashley Clift-Jennings | TEDxUniversityofNevada

  • Published: 15 February 2017
  • What does it mean to be married to someone who is transgender? Ashley Clift-Jennings had to answer that question six years into marriage to her husband. After overcoming her fear of what other people would think, she now appreciates that her spouse is her soul mate, and she would know how to find her in a dark room.
    Ashley is the rare combination of big ideas and big action. With an innate ability to see the larger picture and connect seemingly unrelated dots, Ashley has advised dozens of small businesses from startup into growth. She believes strongly in community and is a powerhouse in her hometown of Reno, organizing meetups and events like Reno Maker Faire and Startup Weekend Reno. She is the founder and former CEO of Girlmade, an accelerator program for women to encourage a new, positive narrative that girls can run their own startups. Now with Parlor, Ashley is combining all her natural talents as a super-connector, problem-solver and music lover to push back on the “starving artist” myth. Ashley graduated from Columbia University and is a member of Nevada Lieutenant Governor Mark Hutchison’s Northern Nevada Entrepreneurship Task Force (EFT).
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Comments • 2 053

  • Tracy Clingings
    Tracy Clingings  5 시간 전

    I was married to my soulmate and lost him in 2012. He wasn't supposed to go before me and now I'm not sure what to do! Great speech! Hugs 🤗

    • Jordan Nangwala
      Jordan Nangwala  14 시간 전

      Bombshell wtf😂😂😂


        Respect for her, and salute to u maam

        • Athenix 5
          Athenix 5  일 전

          Does a soulmate have to be romantic, could it just be a best friend?

          • Izzy MacC
            Izzy MacC  2 일 전

            i stan

            • Jinzo Krim
              Jinzo Krim  2 일 전

              Is that a misleading title ?

              • S. O.
                S. O.  3 일 전

                Oh wow, im INFJ too

                • B
                  B  3 일 전

                  I believe she transitioned as well, and they go by the name Ethan

                  • The Mellow Lyfe
                    The Mellow Lyfe  5 일 전

                    What beautiful story about love, unconditional love.

                    • mylife 23
                      mylife 23  6 일 전

                      I'm panromantic asexual n I'm genderfluid.

                      • Sarah Sanusi
                        Sarah Sanusi  7 일 전

                        Who else had to pause the video and do the calculations?

                        • ImSuperAirish
                          ImSuperAirish  7 일 전

                          I met him already when I was 6 years old there I knew red strings is true but the world seems too crowded that our strings were tangled all around the corner and it makes love a great confusion. I'm untangling strings in me to come closer to you but your too tangled with someone else that I wish I can make you see that the love you have right now is a lie. He makes me happy but his happy with someone else now so I have to let go. I'm letting you go but not this strings, even if it hurts. Knowing it is only you who holds my heart. A token I keep in order to remember what love is so that I will never be deceived. I hope one day you will realize that your tangled on those strings around you but I hope you find me there patiently waiting for you.

                          • Dehydrated_Slime Shuvro


                            • Kris Duboise
                              Kris Duboise  8 일 전

                              She’s still out here looking for Prince Charming....

                              • OnTheBrightSide
                                OnTheBrightSide  5 일 전

                                She IS now 'Prince Charming'............

                                • Kyle Leigh
                                  Kyle Leigh  8 일 전

                                  sooo hot omg

                                  • SHERMARV
                                    SHERMARV  9 일 전

                                    It's not always about looks...her story is inspiring like wow. My perspective has now been transcended.

                                    • Jos Strebe
                                      Jos Strebe  7 일 전

                                      trans* no pun intended 😉

                                      • madmarvin99
                                        madmarvin99  9 일 전

                                        if you don't believe in god then how do you believe in a soul and the how can you believe in the drivel about soul mate

                                        • Liam Murray
                                          Liam Murray  9 일 전

                                          The belief in a soul, the belief in a god and the belief in a soulmate aren't mutually inclusive. I believe that gods and souls exist, but not soulmates.

                                          • DannyDaDuffyDucking Daffer

                                            The true test is they also know how to sing ww2 songs in Greek in the same pitch at the same time That's how you know😏

                                            • Molly Mathew
                                              Molly Mathew  10 일 전

                                              So beautiful!! Love the purity of your soul!!

                                              • Suraj Thakur
                                                Suraj Thakur  10 일 전

                                                @tedtalks please mention subtitles

                                                • Truth Seeker
                                                  Truth Seeker  12 일 전

                                                  I wonder if her needs are being met & if she isn't cheating herself.

                                                  • Brave Heart
                                                    Brave Heart  13 일 전

                                                    Don't believe in soul mates

                                                    • Sophie Elsom
                                                      Sophie Elsom  13 일 전

                                                      Is Alison now a trans male called Ethan?

                                                      • Kelzie tsoku
                                                        Kelzie tsoku  14 일 전

                                                        Soon as she said “INFJ”. Everything suddenly made sense...

                                                        • Wynstan'sMom
                                                          Wynstan'sMom  3 일 전

                                                          MBTI? What channels do you follow?

                                                          • E. I. M
                                                            E. I. M  16 일 전

                                                            Ashley is a male now

                                                            • Varun Chauhan
                                                              Varun Chauhan  16 일 전

                                                              What I feel is there is no soul mate that exist . Your soul is your only mate . Your soul is complete it does not require any mate . We go from one place to another , from one person to another to find happiness where as happiness is inside us no need to wonder here and there . When the ultimate point of absolute contentment , fulfilment arises then the soul simply dissolve intu existence.

                                                              • N DiPasquale
                                                                N DiPasquale  18 일 전

                                                                Woo INFJs

                                                                • chocolate vanilla books

                                                                  the man i thought was my soulmate dumped me two days ago

                                                                  • Jos Strebe
                                                                    Jos Strebe  20 일 전

                                                                    And she didn't sign up for this

                                                                    • Jos Strebe
                                                                      Jos Strebe  20 일 전

                                                                      She should leave in a heartbeat

                                                                      • I love myself bishh
                                                                        I love myself bishh  21 일 전

                                                                        I met my soul mate when I was very very young...I love her Btw, she's my username😅

                                                                        • Anika Klassen
                                                                          Anika Klassen  21 일 전

                                                                          My soulmate is my best friend 💗

                                                                          • Carmen Benitez
                                                                            Carmen Benitez  21 일 전

                                                                            "If our relationship ends I won't transition" that sounds very manipulative to me!

                                                                            • Isa Lola
                                                                              Isa Lola  22 일 전

                                                                              Wauw unconditional love 💕❤💕❤💕

                                                                              • mn m
                                                                                mn m  23 일 전

                                                                                Nothing to what I expected. The better title should have been "I met my soulmate".

                                                                                • Nika Weller
                                                                                  Nika Weller  27 일 전

                                                                                  The title does not really meet the video. The video was just an auto-biography that legit had nothing to do with “finding your soulmate”.

                                                                                  • Nika Weller
                                                                                    Nika Weller  9 일 전

                                                                                    @Liam Murray I thought, judging by the title, that she will talk more about the emotional part, how she felt that this person is truly her soulmate and stuff. I didn't mean to sound rude whatsoever :)

                                                                                    • Liam Murray
                                                                                      Liam Murray  9 일 전

                                                                                      I took the title as a hypothetical question that she then answers by saying "This is how I knew that the person I married was my soulmate." Not as a recipe for how to find a soulmate that works for every single human who's ever lived.

                                                                                      • Serge Rambert
                                                                                        Serge Rambert  27 일 전

                                                                                        A treason is a treason, whatever you call it.

                                                                                        • Jos Strebe
                                                                                          Jos Strebe  20 일 전

                                                                                          try more backstabbing 💁

                                                                                          • N V
                                                                                            N V  28 일 전

                                                                                            No such thing, and a sad idea, There is no specific person out there for you, Just who you decide to be with. Thinking that god provides or the fates decree, or that one special person is the only one... No I don't believe in that, soulmate expectancy, it's a horrible idea. Touted by people that dont know but pretend to know.

                                                                                            • Sakuri Sake
                                                                                              Sakuri Sake  28 일 전

                                                                                              All that time wasted and your spouse comes out as trans gendered.

                                                                                              • wolfregg .d
                                                                                                wolfregg .d  29 일 전

                                                                                                I would stand by my partner either way . Marco I love you , you can be a women if you want , you probably can’t eat it any less then you do now !!

                                                                                                • Q
                                                                                                  Q  개월 전

                                                                                                  Wow ....

                                                                                                  • Linda Jackson
                                                                                                    Linda Jackson  개월 전

                                                                                                    Hi edagdwg thanks for sharing hi your real soul mate is in you God is the greatest soul mate you will ever have a gift only God can give 💯 💯💯💯❤️💯🙏 linda j ☮️

                                                                                                    • Cindi Girouard
                                                                                                      Cindi Girouard  개월 전

                                                                                                      Wow, totally not what I expected, but what a beautiful story. Unconditional love!

                                                                                                      • Kara
                                                                                                        Kara  개월 전

                                                                                                        Ashley now presents as Ethan, glad they both discovered themselves together

                                                                                                        • Christian Joseph
                                                                                                          Christian Joseph  개월 전

                                                                                                          Yeah I met her and she ended up cheating on me and destroying our family and marriage. I've come to the conclusion there is no such thing. I've never felt like I did about her with any one before her or after her...so no more soul mates for me. I think you are lucky if you get one in your life. People are just unreliable.

                                                                                                          • Tiffany Bp
                                                                                                            Tiffany Bp  개월 전

                                                                                                            They both seem confused. But at least they’re on that journey together.

                                                                                                            • Fetch Quest
                                                                                                              Fetch Quest  개월 전

                                                                                                              Yep. She’s the yin to my yang but she’s in Idaho and im in Florida. Wha whaaa

                                                                                                              • Space Firebird 2772
                                                                                                                Space Firebird 2772  개월 전

                                                                                                                It's all in the similarities...

                                                                                                                • Nur Salina
                                                                                                                  Nur Salina  개월 전

                                                                                                                  I have a soulmate who always help me

                                                                                                                  • Seeking the truth
                                                                                                                    Seeking the truth  개월 전

                                                                                                                    Gosh… why ist this LGBTQ kinda EVERYWHERE now ? ……. -.-

                                                                                                                    • MsKawi300
                                                                                                                      MsKawi300  개월 전

                                                                                                                      Ummmm... its a no for me. Deception: 💯

                                                                                                                      • Cess ily
                                                                                                                        Cess ily  개월 전


                                                                                                                        • Kylie Jonkman
                                                                                                                          Kylie Jonkman  개월 전

                                                                                                                          Beautiful thank you for sharing your story and your strength xxxx

                                                                                                                          • kiwis91
                                                                                                                            kiwis91  개월 전

                                                                                                                            It's gonna be a no from me

                                                                                                                            • Izuhia
                                                                                                                              Izuhia  개월 전

                                                                                                                              I wanted a good looking man who can like me for who I am =))

                                                                                                                              • geo metric
                                                                                                                                geo metric  개월 전

                                                                                                                                Trans-WHAT??????! Transpho....what???! This world is totally UPSIDE DOWN! Coining words on a daily basis literally!!!!!

                                                                                                                                • dalila boutouatou
                                                                                                                                  dalila boutouatou  개월 전

                                                                                                                                  We have many things in common

                                                                                                                                  • dalila boutouatou
                                                                                                                                    dalila boutouatou  개월 전

                                                                                                                                    My Soul Mate reads my mind to the point of knowing what I want, how I think , and what I plan to do. He is really so close to me though Being far.

                                                                                                                                    • Jojo Wear
                                                                                                                                      Jojo Wear  개월 전

                                                                                                                                      These Ted talks are AMAZING 😁☺️😊🙂🤣😆😂🤩🥳

                                                                                                                                      • FeelGood Within
                                                                                                                                        FeelGood Within  개월 전

                                                                                                                                        Intresting 😝 😍

                                                                                                                                        • Aimee Thomson
                                                                                                                                          Aimee Thomson  개월 전

                                                                                                                                          Didn't know if i met up with him????? Was that the catalyst paperwork?

                                                                                                                                          • sandra candelas
                                                                                                                                            sandra candelas  개월 전

                                                                                                                                            Wow , she says white as a privilege . How arrogant and cocky . I have no respect for people like this or who think this way.

                                                                                                                                            • Colin Cake
                                                                                                                                              Colin Cake  개월 전

                                                                                                                                              people who think what?

                                                                                                                                              • Athenathe SheWolf
                                                                                                                                                Athenathe SheWolf  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                For all of you saying there was secrets and lying, some people don't understand they're trans and only realize such after some time. They probably got married, she realized she was trans, and came out.

                                                                                                                                                • Zara Topchieva
                                                                                                                                                  Zara Topchieva  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                  Tedx not for Christians!!! They invite only "special"people. Who is more like against God's creatures. May God block your sites!!!!

                                                                                                                                                  • A.A. Kif
                                                                                                                                                    A.A. Kif  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                    And I thought I was screwed when I discovered that my Soul mate is already married to someone else. Wow! This beats that!

                                                                                                                                                    • ETERNAL BLISS جنت الفردوس 💦

                                                                                                                                                      Dont know about soulmate but HORROR MATE ? Yes i did !!!

                                                                                                                                                      • Zach G
                                                                                                                                                        Zach G  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                        First bit of the video was alright, but after the trans talk started it was a nose dive into the culture of forcing ideology onto others

                                                                                                                                                        • J F
                                                                                                                                                          J F  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                          I hope that when she mentions a condition that is treatable, she means that the dysphoria us treatable through transitioning. But, judging by how she's talking, she has such love and respect for her partner. So I'd say it's a safe bet that she was referencing dysphoria.

                                                                                                                                                          • Thea Doumit
                                                                                                                                                            Thea Doumit  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                            She transitioned to male, so what do I believe now

                                                                                                                                                            • ilovehouse888
                                                                                                                                                              ilovehouse888  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                              Transitioning....? That’s a ride on the nope train 🚂 for me. Why didn’t her spouse disclose this up front? Not cool. I appreciate her sharing her story though.

                                                                                                                                                              • Chris Corbett
                                                                                                                                                                Chris Corbett  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                weird how a woman's soulmate is never a homeless man? I guess it isn't random afterall...

                                                                                                                                                                • WarMask
                                                                                                                                                                  WarMask  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                  I hate mankind... This talk is depressing. I just want to end this suffering, end mankind... Seriously, spare us your BS. I'm going to watch Chinese assholes torture dogs and cats before eating them for some positive energy... Damn... Degenerates... That's what you are... Trans BS... Ridiculous!

                                                                                                                                                                  • Sadi Islam
                                                                                                                                                                    Sadi Islam  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                    Worse ted talk ever

                                                                                                                                                                    • ditto303
                                                                                                                                                                      ditto303  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                      Lost me at "my partner has got to be my soulmate"