The #1 Dating Mistake Men Make With Women

  • Published: 18 February 2019
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    Dating certainly isn’t easy, and if you’re like me, you may have had made some mistakes in your dating life.

    These are the mistakes that actually resulted in why my ex and I broke up… If I simply understand what I was doing wrong, chances are we still would’ve had an awesome relationship.

    Since I’ve realized these common dating errors, it’s had a tremendous benefit on my life and I want to share them with you.


    3:57 - Point #1: Don’t Go Anywhere You Don’t Want To Go
    4:23 - Point #2: Don’t Stick To Things That Are Safe
    4:50 - Point #3 See If You Have Created A Split Personality

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  • Lainie Bain
    Lainie Bain  4 days back

    The #1 mistake is inviting yourself over to her house.

    • Inkling
      Inkling  4 days back

      Best dating advise in the internet

      • Chad, Tyrone, Pookie and Ray Ray

        #1 dating mistake men make with women is dating. Let that sink in

        • Ducatista
          Ducatista  5 days back

          You mean, be yourself? What a concept.

          • Rory McEniry-Brash
            Rory McEniry-Brash  5 days back

            This is exactly what I needed today

            • ǟȶɦɛɨֆȶ ֆʟǟʏɛʀ

              I'll tell you the number one mistake you made was thinking that a woman would love you. Women only love themselves. They're always looking for the leg up even after they've hit the wall. Prove me wrong.

              • natalie
                natalie  1 weeks back

                and don’t tell her odd personal info and your medical history and all of your family members’ traits within the first 30 mins of talking to her 😬

                • Aviation Cinematics
                  Aviation Cinematics  1 weeks back

                  Most of the time you mention your ex.
                  C'mon move on from the past and apply what you teach us and talk about.
                  Am sure you won't lack one lady that is worth it and effortlessly grows you and support you fully and loves you.
                  You really have to let go.

                  • Darium
                    Darium  2 weeks back

                    This advice seems to be more aligned with Mark Manson's attract women through honesty advice rather than a lot of Robert Greene's advice, "“[M]any believe that by being honest and open they are winning people’s hearts and showing their good nature.They are greatly deluded. [...] Your honesty is likely to offend people; it is much more prudent to tailor your words, telling people what they want to hear rather than the coarse and ugly truth of what you feel or think."

                    • KaiserShock
                      KaiserShock  2 weeks back

                      Oh my god these are straight facts... This can destroy any relationship. Moral of the story is to always be yourself, as cliche as it sounds.

                      • chung lu
                        chung lu  2 weeks back

                        Pretty good video on being true to yourself

                        • Demarco Bufford
                          Demarco Bufford  2 weeks back

                          I agree with this 90%, mystique is a mans superpower. Don't completely expose yourself entirely to fast.

                          • Mr Everybody
                            Mr Everybody  1 weeks back

                            Or just wear one of those trench coats.

                        • William Morse
                          William Morse  3 weeks back

                          good job, Charlie.... you are a balanced person and a very effective speaker.... respect from Bellows Falls, Vermont

                          • Impractical0
                            Impractical0  4 weeks back

                            Dude, you basically just described my first relationship. Buying stuff to impress, barely sweared to look mature, all the 9 yards. Keep dishing out advice for the folks who need it. Cause I'll keep learning it.

                            • InfinitePiechotta
                              InfinitePiechotta  4 weeks back

                              Is this man a psychopath?

                              • Speedbird
                                Speedbird  1 months back

                                Has not worked for three years. I am getting that I should just kill myself.

                                • Felix Thecat
                                  Felix Thecat  1 months back

                                  There would probably be a "dating me" if I could get a date.

                                  • Zachary Farrell
                                    Zachary Farrell  1 months back

                                    I talked about aliens with my date. Ya. That was tight.

                                    • Samantha Gil
                                      Samantha Gil  1 months back

                                      Men, here is a tip; JUST BE YOURSELVES. AND IF THE GIRL DOESNT LIKE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE THE ITS THAT CHICKS LOSS.

                                      • Melvin L
                                        Melvin L  1 months back

                                        It's different when a woman says that. Thank you.

                                    • Samantha Gil
                                      Samantha Gil  1 months back

                                      But what if all a girl wants to do for the first date is eat a whole bunch of chicken nuggets, watch a funny movie, make jokes, and WATCH WWE. THEN FIGHT YOU.
                                      Is this just me or.....I'm gonna be single for a looooooooooooooooonnngg time

                                      • David
                                        David  1 months back

                                        In other words, be yourself.

                                        Just don’t go crying when they dump you bcz they think you don’t really care to try and improve yourself.

                                        So be yourself who cares enough to try and improve yourself.

                                        • Trash Panda
                                          Trash Panda  1 months back

                                          Normal foot? What if I'm a weird foot

                                          • Requies Art
                                            Requies Art  1 months back

                                            Love this video thank you!

                                            • Matt El_Es
                                              Matt El_Es  1 months back

                                              Yay! I hate button-ups, also.

                                              • AscensionMC
                                                AscensionMC  1 months back

                                                i came here out of curiosity, turns out I was doing everything right without even realising, glad I was myself around my gf

                                                • Anthony Visco
                                                  Anthony Visco  1 months back

                                                  Be yourself. Saved you 9 minutes.

                                                  • Shayan
                                                    Shayan  1 months back

                                                    you are man of insights

                                                    • Zaori
                                                      Zaori  1 months back

                                                      OR (to quote my parents): BE YOURSELF!

                                                      • K L
                                                        K L  1 months back

                                                        what if you feel that you are lazy and that is true to yourself. should you just display that?

                                                        • S
                                                          S  1 months back

                                                          Yea but I’m not good looking

                                                          • Bjørn B
                                                            Bjørn B  1 months back

                                                            Flat earth it is, then...

                                                            • Roger Valor
                                                              Roger Valor  1 months back

                                                              note, that having parts of you, that you know the other person does not like, but still wants to be with you, is perfectly possible. hiding those parts, from time to time, is completely normal. so i would not completely turn around the ideology, and try to think too much into it, either. otherwise you might see problems in a relationship, that simply are not there. the question then becomes how important that part of you is for yourself. e.g. "swearing me" (who comes out playing computer e.g.) is not so important, that i cannot behave when my wife is around.

                                                              • Evaline van der Wiel
                                                                Evaline van der Wiel  1 months back

                                                                Everyone knows this, you just have to be who you are, eventually everyone will be just who they are, and it will fit or not,

                                                                • John L
                                                                  John L  2 months back

                                                                  Number one mistake men make is dating her in the first place. You can’t get another person to like you or love you no matter how much time or money you spend.

                                                                  • Former Nice Guy 27
                                                                    Former Nice Guy 27  2 months back

                                                                    The biggest mismtake is put women in a pedestal.

                                                                    • William Messenger
                                                                      William Messenger  2 months back

                                                                      I can't be the only one that learned more from the thumbnail than from the entire video...

                                                                      • Thot Patrol
                                                                        Thot Patrol  2 months back

                                                                        being goofy is the name of the game for me lmao, just have fun with it

                                                                        • Error
                                                                          Error  2 months back

                                                                          At first I thought this was coaching for sociopaths, but I hear your advice as actually really genuine and healthy. Cheers dude!

                                                                          • Mr Everybody
                                                                            Mr Everybody  1 weeks back

                                                                            That sounds like a good Youtube channel name...

                                                                        • N G
                                                                          N G  2 months back

                                                                          This video: "Be yourself".... other videos comparing to me: "Everything about you repulses people" great.

                                                                          • Caleb K
                                                                            Caleb K  2 months back


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                                                                                • _ studio
                                                                                  _ studio  2 months back

                                                                                  So, be normal. We are full circle now with the advices lol

                                                                                  • Sketchy Akechi
                                                                                    Sketchy Akechi  2 months back

                                                                                    Oh God, this one guy who liked me tried to seem really into Smash Bros. and I asked relatively easy questions to which he obviously had no answers because he didn't know.


                                                                                    Me: Who's your main?
                                                                                    Him: I don't have all the characters.
                                                                                    Me: How many do you have unlocked?
                                                                                    Him: I don't know, I'm not that far
                                                                                    Me (talking to friend who was with me): I highkey feel I like I could beat Janet (another friend who plays, also not her real name).
                                                                                    Him: Oh, I haven't beaten that character yet.
                                                                                    Me (mentally): Okay, I think we're done here.

                                                                                    • Mr Everybody
                                                                                      Mr Everybody  1 weeks back

                                                                                      That's some cringe level....I don't need to watch any Cassidey Cambell today now.

                                                                                  • Callum Maurer
                                                                                    Callum Maurer  2 months back


                                                                                    • Mr.Sylvestre
                                                                                      Mr.Sylvestre  2 months back

                                                                                      Hey man, it's my first time commenting on one of your videos, so first, I really want to thank you for your work. I always appreciate watching your videos. However in this video at around 05:03 you talk about things that matter and should be adressed during the first date (or early on). And you also use some cliparts of ticking boxes.
                                                                                      And when dating, especially with dating apps, I often felt like, people will talk about their needs early on, to see if you fit into their boxes and they will never give a second chance if it's a miss.
                                                                                      So even if I get your point, you should make sure that the other person has a good mindset etc, I think one could also say to himself "Ok this is not perfect, but we can both make efforts".
                                                                                      I mean, it's a good thing to acknowledge what is important to you, but being careful to not go the other way around, and to only focus on you could also be a good tip, imo.
                                                                                      Anyways, if you read this comment, I still really enjoyed your video, as always !

                                                                                      • Connor Ryan
                                                                                        Connor Ryan  2 months back

                                                                                        Instead of asking yourself, “do they like me?”, you should be asking “do I like them?”

                                                                                        That way you automatically become way more interested in learning about the other person and don’t become self conscious. And of course, you’ll find out if you actually like that person. Which is VERY important.

                                                                                        • BoomBoxJava
                                                                                          BoomBoxJava  2 months back

                                                                                          I usually talk about things I like I feel are interesting. However, I also ask them about their interest. There's women that will just talk about what you like. While Some times that fine, it comes off as ingenuie. Talk about what you like, and if the other person does not like it, there's plenty of fish.