What a time to be alone! Releasing the fear of being alone. | Chidera Eggerue| TEDxMauerPark

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  • Published: 19 July 2018
  • Chidera Eggerue ‘The Slumflower’ is a young author, style blogger and creative director of Inclusive​- a travel property company without racial bias. She has amassed a large following of women through opening up important dialogues that women often struggle to have, including topics like body image, dealing with emotions that scare us, the journey to success, and feeling out of place in society. Due to her extremely high social media engagement and exciting content at www.theslumflower.com, this following has quickly turned into a small community full of like-minded people who want to change the world around them. Being a woman of colour who deals with a lot of subtle friction in her industry, she’s managed to find the balance between speaking up and calling out inequality in the industry whilst maintaining a relatable, fun and infectious attitude.​ Chidera Eggerue ‘The Slumflower’ is a young author, style blogger and creative director of Innclusive- a travel property company without racial bias. She has amassed a large following of women through opening up important dialogues that women often struggle to have, including topics like body image, dealing with emotions that scare us, the journey to success, and feeling out of place in society. Due to her extremely high social media engagement and exciting content at www.theslumflower.com, this following has quickly turned into a small community full of like-minded people who want to change the world around them. Being a woman of colour who deals with a lot of subtle friction in her industry, she’s managed to find the balance between speaking up and calling out inequality in the industry whilst maintaining a relatable, fun and infectious attitude. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Comments • 510

  • Lafayette
    Lafayette  10 jam yang lalu

    Thank You

    • TheKapias
      TheKapias  Hari Yang lalu

      Amen! Well done! Thank you!😁😁

      • GozerTheGozerian
        GozerTheGozerian  2 hari yang lalu

        A bunch of nonsense from a woman wearing outfits worth thousands of dollars, telling others to feel comfortable being themselves.

        • Cordell Haywood
          Cordell Haywood  2 jam yang lalu

          Should she have worns rags?

          • Aleksandr Smyshlyaev
            Aleksandr Smyshlyaev  2 hari yang lalu

            She is brilliant!

            • Jennifer Morgan
              Jennifer Morgan  6 hari yang lalu

              She says it directly . Love that And its so spot on.

              • Leonardo Segura
                Leonardo Segura  9 hari yang lalu

                She's cute. I love her smile and energy. Great topic too.

                • Walter Paton
                  Walter Paton  12 hari yang lalu

                  I'm 60. And recently, fiveish years ago, I have begun to F.L.Y. First Love Yourself.

                  • katya стецьків
                    katya стецьків  9 hari yang lalu

                    ❤️

                    • John smith
                      John smith  19 hari yang lalu

                      Your a wise young lady. Great video.

                      • Emina Hist
                        Emina Hist  20 hari yang lalu

                        love her. so full of thoughts.

                        • CB
                          CB  20 hari yang lalu

                          omg yes

                          • Chelsey Chevalier
                            Chelsey Chevalier  27 hari yang lalu

                            she’s so cute 🥺

                            • Sol Monroe
                              Sol Monroe  27 hari yang lalu

                              "Even when it hurts, choose yourself" this is SO important

                              • jorge brasileiro
                                jorge brasileiro  Bulan Yang lalu

                                Audio is too low. It undermines the purpose of divulging it.

                                • Natalia Lewandowska
                                  Natalia Lewandowska  Bulan Yang lalu

                                  I love your outfit, I love your face, and I love what you are saying

                                  • J G
                                    J G  Bulan Yang lalu

                                    What an intelligent woman and great talk!

                                    • cindy elizalde
                                      cindy elizalde  Bulan Yang lalu

                                      People who dont know what they want..."You will never be enough for them." Took me 10 fucken years to figure this out i was always changing to make him happy just for him to cheat, lie, and treat me like less than. It has been a struggle being alone after so long but i am feeling like a person again. Like I can be myself agan.

                                      • Fusion Fitness
                                        Fusion Fitness  Bulan Yang lalu

                                        Loved this! And loved the delivery of it. Thank you

                                        • Marina Medina
                                          Marina Medina  Bulan Yang lalu

                                          I've already watched this video four times. I'm currently going through a rejection that stings so bad but when my thoughts get really low, I put on this video and it helps me feel better and excited for the future where I get to spend time with myself and get to know myself and perhaps love myself and become the person I would want to love.

                                          • Sjksjsjs Shnsjsjs
                                            Sjksjsjs Shnsjsjs  Bulan Yang lalu

                                            I absolutely loved this so much

                                            • R.I.S.E Edutainment
                                              R.I.S.E Edutainment  Bulan Yang lalu

                                              this was incredibly powerful. This is a message all children should be learning about life.

                                              • Itstimeforlife
                                                Itstimeforlife  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                Gotta love her. What an energy! Yes, we gotta honour the fact that we are here and we are all here for a glorious purpose!

                                                • George Qtieno
                                                  George Qtieno  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                  Shallow thinker...you need to know much about life..even a tree depend on the soil for support

                                                  • Maqeda Zenande
                                                    Maqeda Zenande  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                    I just had to come across this when feeling like I'm not enough and felt the need to change so people could like me. Thank you

                                                    • Frankie
                                                      Frankie  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                      Beautiful

                                                      • Marcus Ervin
                                                        Marcus Ervin  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                        Higher level of existence this young woman is living. Blessings 👑

                                                        • Eva Gag Reel
                                                          Eva Gag Reel  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                          she is truly gorgeous!

                                                          • katie boo
                                                            katie boo  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                            simple sunshine ideas. I'm going to watch this again back-to-back. It also came at just the right time for me. Hey Chidera, I like your dress too, but I like your personality more!

                                                            • Nitipriya Singh
                                                              Nitipriya Singh  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                              What a beauty she is 😍

                                                              • Mikaela Aleman
                                                                Mikaela Aleman  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                Being alone is such an amazing thing

                                                                • BaryPiccolo
                                                                  BaryPiccolo  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                  I’m trying to be the best mess I can be🙌🏾

                                                                  • Micky Mouse
                                                                    Micky Mouse  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                    Intelligent and talented!!

                                                                    • Jahari Shears
                                                                      Jahari Shears  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                      Go ahead sis!!!!

                                                                      • Jahari Shears
                                                                        Jahari Shears  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                        Oh IDclips suggestions👍🏽

                                                                        • Karen Gumbo
                                                                          Karen Gumbo  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                          i personally think that it doesnt matter what people say about you after you are dead , they are gonna die too and nobody is gonna know, all they gonna see is a name and your character of which it doesnt matter much , but i will like myself for who i am and its not negotiable

                                                                          • Anthony Taylor
                                                                            Anthony Taylor  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                            🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

                                                                            • scruffle
                                                                              scruffle  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                              Wow 23 and wisdom beyond her years! So much rings true!

                                                                              • Ahbena Jac Lyn
                                                                                Ahbena Jac Lyn  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                Am enough on my own😻 No two ways abt rit😸

                                                                                • Cherrypop Fleurinor
                                                                                  Cherrypop Fleurinor  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                  This was amazing , I needed this thank you !

                                                                                  • Grow With E.
                                                                                    Grow With E.  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                    Thank you for this!!!

                                                                                    • CJ Woods
                                                                                      CJ Woods  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                      Truly enjoyed YOU! Wonderful video!💕

                                                                                      • Berkies Sepulveda
                                                                                        Berkies Sepulveda  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                        I’m learning to love myself and enjoy my company. Amen

                                                                                        • Hadi Eldin
                                                                                          Hadi Eldin  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                          Wow this is really good

                                                                                          • Mary Bailey
                                                                                            Mary Bailey  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                            I really enjoyed this talk.. thank you

                                                                                            • Suzanna Ghukasyan
                                                                                              Suzanna Ghukasyan  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                              Loved this! Great women . I agree with each sentence.

                                                                                              • Shae Hepburn
                                                                                                Shae Hepburn  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                There is a danger here. I get it that cultivating a sense of self is important as is solitude, but you cannot walk this path alone. I know because that has been my journey, and I have strengthened my sense of self more when I am relating to people than when I am alone. I know there is a fine balance between really liking myself and being worried about what other people think of me. But what I really worry about is that the depth of connection that is deep and meaningful with another human being will never happen as I haven' t seen loads of people who are preoccupied with anything more than the superficialities of life.

                                                                                                • Maico Management
                                                                                                  Maico Management  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                  I could watch this over and over again. So true, yet so entertaining !

                                                                                                  • Banana Birb
                                                                                                    Banana Birb  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                    I choose myself today and every day.

                                                                                                    • Domenica Sandoval
                                                                                                      Domenica Sandoval  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                      Loved it

                                                                                                      • America Bless God
                                                                                                        America Bless God  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                        You are so beautiful. Everything about you. You have so much class, courtesy, sophistication. Very rare jewel. I totally wish to hang out with you. Love your hair, whole entire style, and HOW YOU SHOW UP! Could you do me a favor, please go to a Reformed Baptist Church? You deserve the BEST!

                                                                                                        • Zanine Custódio
                                                                                                          Zanine Custódio  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                          Girl, I love u

                                                                                                          • America Bless God
                                                                                                            America Bless God  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                            I loveeeee your accent!!! :-)

                                                                                                            • Tavious Soul
                                                                                                              Tavious Soul  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                              Lol women don’t need men.. they need money.

                                                                                                              • Yodele Ladejobi
                                                                                                                Yodele Ladejobi  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                the most beautiful Ted talk so far!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

                                                                                                                • des895
                                                                                                                  des895  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                  I chose meself.

                                                                                                                  • Desmon Ramseur
                                                                                                                    Desmon Ramseur  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                    You are too young to have such a lonely perspective. I think that being alone should be temporary.

                                                                                                                    • Love Joy
                                                                                                                      Love Joy  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                      If I had a partner this maniac would not have destroyed my life.

                                                                                                                      • Heather Hill
                                                                                                                        Heather Hill  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                        Thank you

                                                                                                                        • Fanta Graham
                                                                                                                          Fanta Graham  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                          she looks like she is wearing knee pads.

                                                                                                                          • Fanta Graham
                                                                                                                            Fanta Graham  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                            western culture has always pushed the necessity for friends and preached negatively about being alone. the reason for this is because they do not want you to think; mob thought is what they promote. they do not encourage critical thinking because then you will think about the ways in which the chosen are screwing you.

                                                                                                                            • Emily Brown
                                                                                                                              Emily Brown  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                              I loved this TEDtalk. This brought me to tears and had to be one of the most important and best I've ever learned from . Thank you.

                                                                                                                              • Julian Paris
                                                                                                                                Julian Paris  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                She is so adorable! And her message is incredibly universal.

                                                                                                                                • NOVITICUS
                                                                                                                                  NOVITICUS  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                  That little dance of expression at the end. Soul driven appreciation, she really knows how to elevate her cells

                                                                                                                                  • Serenity 333
                                                                                                                                    Serenity 333  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                    💛

                                                                                                                                    • Osione Abokhai
                                                                                                                                      Osione Abokhai  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                      I can't remember the last time I learned anything from being right.

                                                                                                                                      • Plant-based Naija
                                                                                                                                        Plant-based Naija  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                        So much wisdom, young Queen 👑

                                                                                                                                        • Kataushia Thomas
                                                                                                                                          Kataushia Thomas  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                          I love the pause breaks when she changes slides. Her points are valid.

                                                                                                                                          • Lexi Smith
                                                                                                                                            Lexi Smith  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                            GIRL GO!!!!

                                                                                                                                            • Edmund Janas
                                                                                                                                              Edmund Janas  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                              She's just fabulous. One of the best Ted Talks, IMHO

                                                                                                                                              • Eleni Ststelena
                                                                                                                                                Eleni Ststelena  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                                Chose your shelf!!! Excellent!!!

                                                                                                                                                • Tarsha Black
                                                                                                                                                  Tarsha Black  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                                  Deep

                                                                                                                                                  • Tarsha Black
                                                                                                                                                    Tarsha Black  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                                    Awesome video! It resonates with me.

                                                                                                                                                    • FaithWithYou
                                                                                                                                                      FaithWithYou  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                                      This talk was awesome, and she was so amazing and fun! A message I really need to hear right now. There are definitely times I don't even like myself, what's up with that. Trying to change that day by day.

                                                                                                                                                      • Jay Morgan
                                                                                                                                                        Jay Morgan  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                                        Recently, I've thought about the whole "soulmate" thing & I don't know that having one is possible, like she's saying. As long as you keep the communication open & you're both happy, anyone can be your soulmate. So long as you both work through your individual issues in a healthy way.😊

                                                                                                                                                        • Meghana Enumla
                                                                                                                                                          Meghana Enumla  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                                          "we use our relationships with other people as a distraction" PREACHHHHH

                                                                                                                                                          • Tecia Green
                                                                                                                                                            Tecia Green  Bulan Yang lalu

                                                                                                                                                            i really liked her talk and that is Not up for debate :)