Why Ms. Independent Can't Find Mr. Right | Annie White | TEDxWilmingtonWomen

  • Published: 16 December 2017
  • Dating Coach Annie White coaches women to marriage, by teaching them how to be as intentional, proactive and resilient in their love life as they are in every other area of their life.
    In a wise and witty way, her talk teaches women how to pick and get the man they want using her rejection proof flirting formula 'You Choose, He Chases.' This is a talk every single woman in the dating world must see. Annie White is a Top 25 Dating Coach and Relationship Expert in the country due to her successes in coaching dozens of women to marriage, engagement and relationships. She is an expert contributor on FOX News where she provides skillful dating and relationship advice. She’s been featured in The Philadelphia Daily News for her expertise in helping women find the perfect partner. And she’s on a national tour teaching women how to get the partner and relationship they’ve always wanted. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Comments • 4 980

  • Gaslit for Life
    Gaslit for Life  20 saat əvvəl

    One thing I really cannot understand is why MGTOW men are always on the internet. It's like, doesn't it stand for "men going their own way"? So... Why don't you guys just... Go your own way then? You all spend so much time bashing women I see it all over the place it's the oddest thing some of you in the comments are calling it a war and I'm just like well, damn, lmaoo how badly did the last one hurt you? You guys need a vacation 😂 do some yoga and release the tension. Wishing you all true happiness, because, this is not going to bring you the happiness you think it is. If being with women is not for you, that is really A okay. Use your time, energy, and words for productivity instead.

    • David Bolha
      David Bolha  12 saat əvvəl

      @50ztej She actually has a point. Furthermore her response didn't include any profanity, name calling (i.e. using slander), so where exactly you see the shaming language ? 🤔

      • 50ztej
        50ztej  14 saat əvvəl

        Shaming language don't work on us so go take a seat.

        • Valentino Ralph Jean
          Valentino Ralph Jean  Gün əvvəl


          • BALANCED LIF3
            BALANCED LIF3  Gün əvvəl

            You are on men's time sry hun..

            • Ashish Arora
              Ashish Arora  Gün əvvəl

              Mr. Right has found artificial wombs.

              • Heath Williams
                Heath Williams  2 gün əvvəl


                • SkyKing
                  SkyKing  2 gün əvvəl

                  Why? Becuse most of them are extremely masculine and think they are better then any man and hold her degrees above everyone. Ladies if you want a good man humble yourself. Let him lead the realtionship, drop the attitude and shut your yap once in awhile

                  • Fonch Z
                    Fonch Z  3 gün əvvəl

                    Larry Delame? lol Tripp Advice tells young guys to approach a ton of girls so there is a contradiction here.

                    • Mr X
                      Mr X  3 gün əvvəl

                      I'm a simple man, I see "MGTOW", I press like.

                      • Roger Gerritsen
                        Roger Gerritsen  22 saat əvvəl

                        MGTOW is the only thing that cares about a man. Even my own mother left me on the streets to party with other men.

                        • commnter10
                          commnter10  3 gün əvvəl

                          Look up the Chick Publications tract, "And It Was Good".

                          • commnter10
                            commnter10  3 gün əvvəl

                            This is an excellent presentation!

                            • Zeno of Caledonia
                              Zeno of Caledonia  4 gün əvvəl

                              This woman is right on!

                              • Uncommon Sense
                                Uncommon Sense  4 gün əvvəl

                                A lot of negative comments here, but actually I think if women took this advice it would be a good thing all round. They might not look at men that approach them with such contempt, having tried it and been rejected a few times themselves. There's a saying about walking a mile in another person's shoes that is quite apt here.

                                • HollieB.
                                  HollieB.  4 gün əvvəl

                                  Omg love her!

                                  • Dee Guedes
                                    Dee Guedes  5 gün əvvəl

                                    Chicks don't take rejection well and are afraid of it... nice idea but it will never happen. Not too many women with that kind confidence. Any dude who chases is desperate, look out for desperate guys.

                                    • Oli Murray
                                      Oli Murray  6 gün əvvəl

                                      Good video. It would be refreshing to hear women and men say how fun dating is though. Cause I loved it! Even though a time comes to move on. You don't want that straight away because of how valuable it can be in building character as long as you don't take it too far. You do need to get serious as you get older but you should appreciate the fun times too!

                                      • MrHoppers002
                                        MrHoppers002  6 gün əvvəl

                                        isn't it in the description itself. Ms. Independent. It means she don't need a man... unless I'm missing something here.

                                        • Debbie Hariman
                                          Debbie Hariman  6 gün əvvəl

                                          No wgtow u don't need a sticken man in your life . Just enjoy your self and family . Then u be a happy camper hee hee

                                          • Kimberly Dill
                                            Kimberly Dill  6 gün əvvəl

                                            It's not worth it.

                                            • Kimberly Dill
                                              Kimberly Dill  6 gün əvvəl

                                              A lot of men hit the wall

                                              • Gnostic atheist
                                                Gnostic atheist  7 gün əvvəl

                                                Why not just date guys you've rejected. Seriously are we going to address the issue of pickyness or are you going to have to buy cats and ice cream

                                                • Roger Gerritsen
                                                  Roger Gerritsen  14 saat əvvəl

                                                  @Gnostic atheist they sold you the socialist lie. Feminism and cultural marxism. You are one the wrong side of the political spectrum regarding family life. You should go right wing all the way man. The left is killing birth rates and replacing them with Muslims and or Africans, at least here in Europe. If you support socialism, you support lhqbt, feminism metoo, the extortion of men. Government being the dad of women. Degradation of families. Think about it. The more socialist we got the higher suicide rate amongst men got. We got the short end of the stick since we gave women voting rights. Everything is degrading.

                                                  • Gnostic atheist
                                                    Gnostic atheist  14 saat əvvəl

                                                    @Roger Gerritsen I'm a socialist. I don't want a traditional woman I just want one who isn't a gold digger

                                                    • Roger Gerritsen
                                                      Roger Gerritsen  22 saat əvvəl

                                                      There's still traditional women out there. I think 1 to 5 percent is still marriage material. But it's dwindling by the minute. Almost every girl I know is showing her tits on instagram.

                                                      • Gnostic atheist
                                                        Gnostic atheist  3 gün əvvəl

                                                        @handle box I guess go MGTOW till it sinks

                                                        • judas3able
                                                          judas3able  7 gün əvvəl

                                                          You should have told the ladies that after they finally, find and get married to MR Right (nice guy), that they should let him watch through a peep hole (in the closet) as they let Chad and Tyrone run the train on them...

                                                          • John Doe
                                                            John Doe  7 gün əvvəl

                                                            🤮Can you stop saying axe when you mean ask and don’t when you mean doesn’t. LEARN ENGLISH!!!

                                                            • Jason Blaha's Strength and Fitness

                                                              Lol I hope the women watching this video end up single forever

                                                              • hipsonsogbo
                                                                hipsonsogbo  8 gün əvvəl

                                                                her english is terrible, and twang in her voice i cant stand to listen to her

                                                                • The B
                                                                  The B  8 gün əvvəl

                                                                  I'd just like to clarify MGTOW isn't just giving up on women. Alot of MGTOW go out with women still a big part of MGTOW is about working on yourself. Such as being the strongest most masculine and confident self.

                                                                  • David Bolha
                                                                    David Bolha  7 gün əvvəl

                                                                    TFLers not so much. 😕

                                                                    • TheCakesterRides
                                                                      TheCakesterRides  8 gün əvvəl

                                                                      She's single so what qualifications does she have to give relationship advice???😳

                                                                      • Rory
                                                                        Rory  8 gün əvvəl

                                                                        If you're MGTOW then why are you commenting on a dating video?

                                                                        • David Bolha
                                                                          David Bolha  7 gün əvvəl

                                                                          Pouring salt into an open wound. 😎😂

                                                                          • Claire Joseph
                                                                            Claire Joseph  8 gün əvvəl

                                                                            The trust issues in these comments really are making me sad. A good marriage is beneficial for both genders.

                                                                            • Mr. RACECAR
                                                                              Mr. RACECAR  6 gün əvvəl

                                                                              @handle box she doesn't get it fam. Your preaching to dead ears

                                                                              • handle box
                                                                                handle box  6 gün əvvəl

                                                                                Tell that to men who lost more than half of everything they worked for for 30 years, because their wife 'decided' to divorce them after 1 week

                                                                                • Mr. RACECAR
                                                                                  Mr. RACECAR  7 gün əvvəl


                                                                                  • QueenStylin
                                                                                    QueenStylin  8 gün əvvəl

                                                                                    What kind of BS lecture is this? Seriously??

                                                                                    • Teach and Assist
                                                                                      Teach and Assist  9 gün əvvəl

                                                                                      Hmm. This message and advice doesn't resonate with me.

                                                                                      • memsahibproductions
                                                                                        memsahibproductions  9 gün əvvəl

                                                                                        Great talk!

                                                                                        • Royal Abstraction
                                                                                          Royal Abstraction  9 gün əvvəl

                                                                                          From what I see, Larry the Lame is Larry the Laid... Be Larry guys.

                                                                                          • JungleYT
                                                                                            JungleYT  9 gün əvvəl

                                                                                            She's cute. I'd like her on top of me. But seriously, incredibly wise words...

                                                                                            • easdcoastlover
                                                                                              easdcoastlover  9 gün əvvəl

                                                                                              dont expect a man saving you from your fear and problems you gotta do it yourself

                                                                                              • Truthful Chap
                                                                                                Truthful Chap  9 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                Q: Can you show me some excerises to tone up this part of my body? Correct A: No, you are a lost cause. Go away.

                                                                                                • akram
                                                                                                  akram  9 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                  I have a joke feminism is about equality

                                                                                                  • Michael Pasquali
                                                                                                    Michael Pasquali  10 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                    This is the gender bender of the stereo typical nice guy.

                                                                                                    • aariez
                                                                                                      aariez  10 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                      I am surprised by the amount of men making negative comments in here. All you guys need love in your life for sure!

                                                                                                      • Mr X
                                                                                                        Mr X  3 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                        The negative comments didn't come out of thin air; they represent the current climate in the dating/marriage scene.

                                                                                                        • David Bolha
                                                                                                          David Bolha  7 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                          Or a bigger pr0n collection. 😅

                                                                                                          • Peter Moygannon
                                                                                                            Peter Moygannon  10 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                            Mrs right is with the bad boy getting a little slap around she's trying to make him a good guy. I'm MGTOW watching from the sideline eating popcorn..you go girl.

                                                                                                            • skeezysquirrel
                                                                                                              skeezysquirrel  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                              Let's just acknowledge the truth. Women want what they want. Bad men.

                                                                                                              • Gordok Destroyer of Worlds
                                                                                                                Gordok Destroyer of Worlds  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                1:20. It IS actually because you don't bring valuable things to the table. What am I supposed to do with a girlfriend who works 50 hours a week at a law firm make 100k/yr when I already do that? Your value was in your nurturing and child rearing nature and now you've all thrown that away for degrees and dead end jobs. I knew a girl that was married at 22, academic, full scholarships, PhD student in engineering - bright future. DIVORCED her husband (of 8 years) because he wouldn't move to Switzerland to join her at her first job she was offered out of school. He worked blue collar and made big money, all her family was here, his family too. What is a guy like that supposed to think?

                                                                                                                • Tay Off The Top
                                                                                                                  Tay Off The Top  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                  Hearing This Was Freedom ⛅🙌🏾⛅ For Me Emotionally 💘 Being A Gary LoL 😆 I Needed To Know Some Women See Us. New Job. Inner Work Well In Progress. Tall, Dark & Handsome. I'll Keep Seeing The Good / God In Me As I Patiently Await The Arrival Of That Amazing Woman Who Will See The Same👑💎✨

                                                                                                                  • PeterCarpetBeater
                                                                                                                    PeterCarpetBeater  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                    When I was younger I used to be interested in women approaching me. These days I'm successful, have a good job, I'm investing in real estate. Most women I meet are not worth my time. Most women that flirt with me I ignore. They don't deserve my time and attention. They don't offer that much anymore.

                                                                                                                    • David Bolha
                                                                                                                      David Bolha  7 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                      Same 🙄

                                                                                                                      • Steven Lengenfelder
                                                                                                                        Steven Lengenfelder  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                        All women want the top 20% of men. That means they are too picky. Chad and Tyrone, the thundercock brothers are smashing and dashing until these women hit the wall. And then they "suddenly" lower their standards looking for beta bucks. But also NEVER really stop looking even after she has those bucks. Nearly 80 % of all divorces are filed by women. So....just don't play men. Use logic and reasoning.

                                                                                                                        • Dyno Saur
                                                                                                                          Dyno Saur  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                          Entitled women, everyone deserves a good looking doctor.

                                                                                                                          • Rockford John
                                                                                                                            Rockford John  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                            Men don't want women's bs anymore. MGTOW.

                                                                                                                            • Rubi Dechambre
                                                                                                                              Rubi Dechambre  12 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                              The difference between her and all of you in the comments is she is on Ted talks you all aren't. Meaning she has something worthy of mentioning and you are all in the comments basically being mgtow trolls kinda pathetic but typical. Anybody can comment but not anybody can be on Ted talks.

                                                                                                                              • dante sparda
                                                                                                                                dante sparda  3 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                @Rubi Dechambre men can not speak about those issues in public, certainly not criticize feminism

                                                                                                                                • Antoine The great
                                                                                                                                  Antoine The great  6 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                  @Rubi Dechambre Women approaching men and getting rejected will be a pretty funny thing to see, darling 😂😂😂😂

                                                                                                                                  • Rubi Dechambre
                                                                                                                                    Rubi Dechambre  6 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                    @Antoine The great you're grasping at straws

                                                                                                                                    • Antoine The great
                                                                                                                                      Antoine The great  6 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                      @Rubi Dechambre My point is not to value a Ted talk speaker but instead the content it presents, " clothes do not make the man "

                                                                                                                                      • Rubi Dechambre
                                                                                                                                        Rubi Dechambre  12 gün əvvəl


                                                                                                                                        • Dave K
                                                                                                                                          Dave K  12 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                          "Ms. Independent" - that's the problem right here. I just saved you almost 11 minutes.

                                                                                                                                          • YoBro
                                                                                                                                            YoBro  13 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                            Never trust women. They hate men and want your money too. Women need to be alone with their cats.

                                                                                                                                            • Keng Lee
                                                                                                                                              Keng Lee  13 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                              She independent aint she? Men know what they like, and dont mind being alone.

                                                                                                                                              • AnAmericanMan
                                                                                                                                                AnAmericanMan  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                I wouldn't dream of online dating, haven't in 15 years. Wouldn't dream of approaching women either.

                                                                                                                                                • R.O.T.C SEEM
                                                                                                                                                  R.O.T.C SEEM  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                  It's hard for y'all to find mister right because y'all take advantage of things men do. Y'all use the man paying for the date as an invitation for free food, y'all take his kindness for weakness and y'all use his money to save yours

                                                                                                                                                  • Ty2k83
                                                                                                                                                    Ty2k83  5 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                    @Royal Abstraction that's exactly right

                                                                                                                                                    • Royal Abstraction
                                                                                                                                                      Royal Abstraction  13 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                      That's about right

                                                                                                                                                      • R.O.T.C SEEM
                                                                                                                                                        R.O.T.C SEEM  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                        Todays women are too selfish when In a relationship, everything has to be about them. When a female is upset the man tries to make her feel better but when a man is upset the female also gets upset so that she doesn't have to make her man feel better

                                                                                                                                                        • European Federalist
                                                                                                                                                          European Federalist  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                          showing that you are independent/self-dependent and don't need your man is about the most unattractive thing you could possibly do, psychologically speaking.

                                                                                                                                                          • CCW Noob
                                                                                                                                                            CCW Noob  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                            Ms Independent isn't Ms Independent. Today's Ms Independent is actually Ms I-Think-Im-A-Man. I know what I'm talking about ... I married the greatest woman on this planet. She is extremely strong AND feminine - two things feminists think are mutually exclusive. My wife is extremely independent as am I in every worldly sense, but we are each infinitely DEpendent on each other. The women who dont understand this not only never will but DESERVE the life they get. Tip for you single women who don' want to be: AMAN ISN'T LOOKING TO MARRY ANOTHER MAN. HE'S LOOKING FOR A WOMAN. (assuming he's hetero)

                                                                                                                                                            • Max Baker
                                                                                                                                                              Max Baker  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                              Ms Independent doesn’t want mr right

                                                                                                                                                              • Ethos Thirteen
                                                                                                                                                                Ethos Thirteen  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                You don't need to flirt first. You need to talk to men like human beings. Start a convo. Say hello. No self respecting man regards you as his equal. That's a beta.

                                                                                                                                                                • Black Man
                                                                                                                                                                  Black Man  15 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                  I"m just gonna be completely honest. I don't do indirect communication. Be ye direct, assertive, and honest with me and then I [might] go from there. To be indirect to me is to display a facade. I'd rather continue to do without

                                                                                                                                                                  • Royal Abstraction
                                                                                                                                                                    Royal Abstraction  15 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                    Exactly. I cease communication when that happens.

                                                                                                                                                                    • Doug Joseph
                                                                                                                                                                      Doug Joseph  15 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                      Hmmm......So every woman is beautiful and amazing and deserves a Mr. Right to save her. Mr. Right has to fit her list of "must haves" because she will never "settle". No wonder these women are bound to be disappointed.

                                                                                                                                                                      • Kyle Rudrud
                                                                                                                                                                        Kyle Rudrud  15 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                        I'll pass. M G T O W

                                                                                                                                                                        • Calvin Howard
                                                                                                                                                                          Calvin Howard  15 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                          And when it comes to the online dating thing, women never answer messages back, women are Their Own Worst Enemy when it comes to finding a good relationship

                                                                                                                                                                          • Calvin Howard
                                                                                                                                                                            Calvin Howard  15 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                            I can save all these women some time, if they want a good man, they need to stop coming up missing on the weekend, most women would rather go clubbing with the girls and get drunk or high on the weekend, I've been stood up three times within 30 days because women would rather Hangout then actually show up for dinner or a movie

                                                                                                                                                                            • Invading Infidel
                                                                                                                                                                              Invading Infidel  16 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                              Wall hitters having a moment of clarity lololol

                                                                                                                                                                              • josef raphael
                                                                                                                                                                                josef raphael  16 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                dont assume larry is lame because of status and appearance...? Interesting the first two things she names are superficial and shallow

                                                                                                                                                                                • arthur daniels
                                                                                                                                                                                  arthur daniels  17 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                  marriage is a death sentence

                                                                                                                                                                                  • Ty2k83
                                                                                                                                                                                    Ty2k83  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                    And a wedding band is the modern day handcuff

                                                                                                                                                                                    • Babyfacedblackjesus
                                                                                                                                                                                      Babyfacedblackjesus  17 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                      I bet she married a white man

                                                                                                                                                                                      • violetavalery
                                                                                                                                                                                        violetavalery  17 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                        Ancestrally, men need to feel it is them that did the chase. I would like to ask a guy I like out yet I know that is a turn off for guys, if he's already intimidated by my independence, imagine how intimidated will he feel if I as him out!

                                                                                                                                                                                        • TheHolyGhost
                                                                                                                                                                                          TheHolyGhost  4 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                          violetavalery BS....if you’re attractive he won’t care if you ask him out.

                                                                                                                                                                                          • iceman4154
                                                                                                                                                                                            iceman4154  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                            @violetavalery True but I'm usually right, so you should probably just trust me, out instinct.

                                                                                                                                                                                            • violetavalery
                                                                                                                                                                                              violetavalery  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                              HInt: you are a troll or are prone to make rush judgements about stories you have no context, detail or information about.

                                                                                                                                                                                              • iceman4154
                                                                                                                                                                                                iceman4154  14 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                Hint, he's not intimidated. He's probably not interested or he would have made a move or told you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                • Pat Riarchy
                                                                                                                                                                                                  Pat Riarchy  17 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                  So the reason a female spends all a man's money and she cheats on him and gets pregnant but tells her man it's his while she is hitting him is because she knows he won't leave her?

                                                                                                                                                                                                  • Ghost Pumpkin
                                                                                                                                                                                                    Ghost Pumpkin  18 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                    The title should be rewritten as :” Why can’t Ms. independent find the top 20 percent of men and get him to commit “

                                                                                                                                                                                                    • David Bolha
                                                                                                                                                                                                      David Bolha  7 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                      Top 10 😎

                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Royal Abstraction
                                                                                                                                                                                                        Royal Abstraction  18 gün əvvəl


                                                                                                                                                                                                        • James D3
                                                                                                                                                                                                          James D3  18 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                          The fact that women need a coach say that something is very wrong. In the 1960s, the coach was her parents and the marriage rate was high. Most of the women in this audience are too old to even consider them marriage material.

                                                                                                                                                                                                          • Gerard-Windsor
                                                                                                                                                                                                            Gerard-Windsor  18 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                            from a man's perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment. And Single unattached women who earn their own money are called independent women. Single unattached men who earn their own money are called playboys - Warren Farrell

                                                                                                                                                                                                            • Tamra Alexander
                                                                                                                                                                                                              Tamra Alexander  19 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                              I'm not in agreement with anything that she is saying

                                                                                                                                                                                                              • MarkusAudio
                                                                                                                                                                                                                MarkusAudio  19 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                                @ 0:14 sorry couldn´t go on from here...false start. Haven´t I heard that before?? Ow, something in the lines of "all the single ladies, all the SINGLE ladies..."

                                                                                                                                                                                                                • 12 Black
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  12 Black  20 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Women are at their most attractiveness at age 18-25 mentally,physically and being more fun. Bad thing about this range is that most these women are using their best years for hooking up ,not finding the right guy.Late 20s or 30s they then want to get married but by then it comes with to much baggage and the men their age are again looking to marry a younger woman to start with (18-25)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  • Ty2k83
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Ty2k83  11 gün əvvəl

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    And they have hit the wall physically