How To Know if He Is The One | Dating Advice For Women By Mat Boggs

  • Published: 12 April 2018
  • Mat Boggs shares dating advice for women and how to know if the person you are dating is "the one."

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    Mat Boggs Bio:

    As a sought-after dating and relationship coach for women and international speaker, Mat Boggs has helped thousands of women understand men, improve their relationships, and attract the relationship they want.

    As the best-selling author of Project Everlasting, and creator of Cracking The Man Code, Mat Boggs? dating and relationship advice has been featured on national media including The Today Show, CNN, Headline News, Oprah and Friends, and many more.

    Mat?s Mission: To increase love in the world, one heart at a time.

    As a dating coach for women, Mat believes that your history does not determine your destiny, and that you are more powerful than any circumstance you are facing. The relationship dream in your heart really can become the life you love living!

    Mat Boggs highly acclaimed relationship programs have served women around the world in all age groups from 20yrs old to over 70yrs old.

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    Written By: Mathew Boggs

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Comments • 150

  • Molly Levy
    Molly Levy  20 hours back

    I crossed paths with the one meant for me three years ago; which in itself was totally a God thing. So I'm not pushing it at all. I have no doubt our paths will converge at some point. Honest to goodness, the moment I saw him - I took a quick breath and said to myself, "There he is." I paused for a moment, somewhat in disbelief. So, I looked in his direction again. Said to myself, "Yep... there he is." Someday... someday!

    • K B
      K B  2 days back

      Can I be emotionally safe with him?

      • vi zeath
        vi zeath  2 days back

        I think if he wants to do "anything" for me.... I can call him "the one" ....

        • Carline Douglas
          Carline Douglas  1 weeks back

          Yes I'm comfortable with him, I take about anything

          • Eliso Safarova
            Eliso Safarova  4 weeks back

            In my previous relationships I didn’t have this strong feeling that “WE never will be apart”, I never question anything with him. It’s just goes smoothly right.
            Every time I tell myself “what if something goes wrong” my inner voice tells me “it won’t”.
            I’ve never had this feeling before, never been so confident about my relationship.

            • Fuchsia Orchids
              Fuchsia Orchids  1 months back

              Same thing, how do I feel and do I look forward to seeing him again.

              • Jennifer McKinley
                Jennifer McKinley  2 months back

                It's that special, sacred moment. Intimacy. Created under no circumstances or intention. The orgasm that came from no where. It's not just an accident. Sacredness is not compromised with accidents. It's a very sensitive and special moment, not experienced with anybody. Only with that ..somebody. without a chance of pre judgement. My Body, tells the truth.

                • Nova Gaia77
                  Nova Gaia77  2 months back

                  Criteria: synchronicity frequency

                  • nedar giordano
                    nedar giordano  4 months back

                    The 1 doesn't exist, your just the batter up. Coming from experience.

                    • Michelle Xu
                      Michelle Xu  5 months back

                      He was a bit shy, nervous and awkward when we had our first date. He wanted to hold my hand but didn't dare to, he was rambling a lot, the moment he asked if it would be inappropriate to kiss me I knew I liked him!!! He was so nice, kind, thoughtful, considerate, manly and so much more. He is PERFECT!

                      • Colleen T
                        Colleen T  6 months back

                        I found the one - and felt it right away - unfortunately, he's been with someone for 8 years, not married, but living with. We see each other every day at work, and we eat lunch together, go to work events and check in with each other all the time, never crossing the line. I think he thinks of me as a friend, so I'll take what I can get for now, until he realizes what I already know...

                        • Ji Li
                          Ji Li  6 months back

                          Peace and positivity are the good signs.

                          • Dannyelle Finch
                            Dannyelle Finch  6 months back

                            I want to be nice to him

                            • Amber Stewart
                              Amber Stewart  7 months back

                              For me, If I really like someone....of course no one is perfect and I understand that. So I pick the flaw or thing about them thats not necessarily my favorite aspect and I ask myself. "Is this something Im ok with? Can I spend 50 yrs with this quality or feature" because changing someone is absolutely not the answer, nagging about it for 50 yrs is obviously not the answer. Acceptance is the answer. Is it a quality or cork that you accept about them and can find enduring. If you think "oh my god, 50 yrs of his smoking, his talking with food in his mouth, his snoring, his job jumping or always being late will drive me mad" then its a no. Time to move on. Im not saying I look for flaws, as you spend time together you will see their strength or weakness. When you see it. Ask your self, would I be ok with this for the rest of my life?

                              • Ma Ra
                                Ma Ra  7 months back

                                Very handsome man!

                                • Natasha MH
                                  Natasha MH  8 months back

                                  There is an amazing energy about him and us. We were set up by a friend and we lived in 2 different parts of the world. Yet when we met it was like ive known him before and there was an ease about us and i dont remember laughing so much around any other man. I felt safe, comfortable and loved. He felt the same. And all of these are still present even when things are rocky like one of us is having a bad day and is pouring our heart out. We took it slow by using the distance to really get to know one another. We looked forward to sharing our day and we never felt the distance with the quality of communication we have and openness. Even when we were out with friends, we would facetime to introduce and share what we're doing. I guess we were just happy to be in each other's life.

                                  • brwood33
                                    brwood33  10 months back

                                    For me I was very intimidated by him at first because he was so successful and handsome. Out of my league, but I always wanted to know what made him tick even though I felt lame next to him. I went in with an attitude of "we wont last anyways..might as well have fun" turns out hes kind, deep, respectful, honest and we share the same values. Now I know he felt the same way about me and was just as nervous...hes the one.

                                    • Ana Ky
                                      Ana Ky  10 months back

                                      I find these videos a waste of time, each relationship is diferent and each person is diferent.

                                      • kshiftkometh
                                        kshiftkometh  11 months back

                                        shared quirks, randomly

                                        • Dashia James
                                          Dashia James  11 months back

                                          Criteria for me is when you just know it ...I believe in love at 1st sight. So you feel it when feels like have like a strange but strong feeling or when you feel you have butterflies in my stomach as they say !!

                                          • J marshet
                                            J marshet  11 months back

                                            Oh I love him so much he is so stupid that I jus can't not loving him😍😍😍

                                            • Gwen woodward
                                              Gwen woodward  11 months back

                                              Is he gentle and kind towards me

                                              • Joy Watson
                                                Joy Watson  11 months back

                                                1. Similar beliefs . 2. Can you live with them. Or not live without them? 3. Does that person like your family and does your family like them?

                                                • Karma You There Bruh?
                                                  Karma You There Bruh?  11 months back

                                                  Oh My God Matt, this video came to me at the right time. I am actually confused, because the guy is so sweet and understanding but I don't get whether I like him as a friend or more. Maybe it's the matter of slow progression as you mentioned. Thank you. At least, it's given me some clarity.

                                                  • Frances 4
                                                    Frances 4  11 months back

                                                    Matt, I gave it a couple of dates and my feelings changed from no to yes! Then went to fast, after a few months we crashed and burned after having sex a few times. I let lust get in the way of friendship and love. I want a man to see me for who I am and still love me, without giving up on me. We have to laugh, be friends when in need, desire each other and communicate with love and respect.

                                                    • Shruti Misra
                                                      Shruti Misra  12 months back

                                                      I check his core values as a person. How he thinks and treats relationships around him and how he feels about people in his life. That gives me an idea whether that person is for me or not. Prioritizing is a another aspect. If the person is ambitious and also family oriented, does he makes special efforts to enjoy and live life at his own terms as well. Sense of humor - getting your point across in a subtle and non-sarcastic way. Whether I am able to enjoy small things in life and he is able to appreciate and give me space to enjoy moments without judging.

                                                      • jayylioness Jayy Eliz
                                                        jayylioness Jayy Eliz  1 years back

                                                        I feel it in my soul

                                                        • Isabelle Cango
                                                          Isabelle Cango  1 years back

                                                          I ask myself : " Am I safe with him? "

                                                          • runninginsept
                                                            runninginsept  1 years back

                                                            Love the comment section. So many stories of 'the ones'! ❤️

                                                            • Rohini s
                                                              Rohini s  1 years back

                                                              Simple, straight and beautifully explained.

                                                              • A Anders
                                                                A Anders  1 years back

                                                                You're right about the feeling of peace. Wanting to learn more to add to the passion. Thanks for clarifying.

                                                                • Ka ren
                                                                  Ka ren  1 years back

                                                                  Do I feel comfortable with this person. Also, can I be myself around this person.

                                                                  • Just J xx
                                                                    Just J xx  1 years back

                                                                    A connection to start, then effort, respect..... and opening up to each other over time

                                                                    • lariz flores
                                                                      lariz flores  1 years back

                                                                      Now a days you cant really tell or know if the guy is serious or not....I’ve dated 3 guys...
                                                                      and first date they are gentleman and nice .. in 2nd they got too flirty... i think it just their strategy’s to attract woman... lol before coming into real intentions...

                                                                      • L N
                                                                        L N  1 years back

                                                                        Love u Mathew ...I want anyone like U

                                                                        • Augusta Yarteh
                                                                          Augusta Yarteh  1 years back

                                                                          I can tell that if that man is for me or if he is not i can tell. through his behaviour or his action.

                                                                          • Karen Rawson
                                                                            Karen Rawson  1 years back

                                                                            I have been dating a widower for 2 months. His wife passed 9 months ago. Things are going slow per the boundaries we both set. I knew he was really someone I wanted to be my second chance forever because we matched in values, beliefs, and faith. We clicked on all aspects of everything and the deal breakers I had were fine with him...he met them with respect as I did his.

                                                                            • Himani Thakkar
                                                                              Himani Thakkar  1 years back

                                                                              I've dated a toxic guy in the past but now i just want that guy who make me love myself even more🙂

                                                                              • Amber Mann
                                                                                Amber Mann  1 years back

                                                                                I think it’s important to ask myself if we are walking the same direction, the same path? When you’re young you don’t think about if you’ll have kids and how you’ll raise them. Which religion if you both are different you’ll teach, how will you discipline, are you drawn to Africa and the other person loves Europe? So first I have to be confident in which direction I want to go. Then I enjoy the friendships of those heading that way.

                                                                                • Natalia Solakian Official

                                                                                  Thank you, Matt!!! 💗💖💕💛😁😁😁😍😍😍

                                                                                  • Ginger Tillson
                                                                                    Ginger Tillson  1 years back

                                                                                    Peace and contentment just being comfortable around them

                                                                                    • Hunter Collins
                                                                                      Hunter Collins  1 years back

                                                                                      Do we fill each other's eyes? When I think of him, is it nice and comforting? When I see him again, do I smile all over? Is every cell of me happy when I'm with him?

                                                                                      • liz
                                                                                        liz  1 years back

                                                                                        wow... i needed to hear that right now... i've been so frustrated with dating. that 100% helped me. Thank you.

                                                                                        • Kaylana Reese
                                                                                          Kaylana Reese  1 years back

                                                                                          Thank you for pointing out that most people don't know right away. Popular belief is that it's some magical epiphany for the majority and that can be misleading for those of us still looking. After several relationship mishaps, I'm cautious and I can't get my hopes up about something like marriage early on (less than a year).

                                                                                          • lally nor
                                                                                            lally nor  1 years back

                                                                                            I have two criteria ..... to make me laugh out loud all the time and the scond is to understand me

                                                                                            • Ant
                                                                                              Ant  1 years back

                                                                                              When we were seating next to eachother, I felt this amazing peace filling my heart, I knew that this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, but... two years on and I am in a loving relationship with a different man, how's that possible?

                                                                                              • Lisa Harris
                                                                                                Lisa Harris  1 years back

                                                                                                What dose it mean when a guy starts to call u hun, babe,sweety, in the beginning

                                                                                                • Kristine Mannone
                                                                                                  Kristine Mannone  1 years back

                                                                                                  It's a gut feeling although the nervous first kiss with someone usually gives me a clue. For me it was different couldn't describe how at first. It was with a guy I had just met in person for the first time and at first I didn't even think he would be it because he was a single father (later on he lost his parental rights) and I had zero experience dating a single parent but I gave him a chance anyway to see how it would go and it seemed to be easy and passionate and as time went on I was able to separate the man from the dad in him.