Why comfort will ruin your life | Bill Eckstrom | TEDxUniversityofNevada

  • Published: 31 January 2017
  • After documenting and researching over 50,000 coaching interactions in the workplace, Bill Eckstrom shares life-altering, personal and professional development ideas through the introduction of the “Growth Rings.” The rings illustrate how dangerous it can be to remain in a state of comfort and how being in discomfort is the only way to sustain growth. You’ll be amazed at the world-changing outcomes discomfort can have on your life and the lives of others.
    Bill Eckstrom is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, outdoorsman and father of three. With a passion deeply rooted in growth and development, Bill has always been fascinated by the role a coach has on the performance of individuals and teams. As a result, he founded the EcSell Institute whose sole focus is to educate, track and measure coaching effectiveness for leaders within organizations around the world. This has led to hundreds of keynotes, published articles and e-books created from the research and documentation of coaching interactions and outcomes. You can learn more about the EcSell Institute here: www.ecsellinstitute.com/
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • Pike Fisherman
    Pike Fisherman  4 hours ago

    I wonder why he was sacked? Shiuld we trust this guys advice?

    • Violet Blue
      Violet Blue  15 hours ago

      Awesome Talk. Thank you Mr Bill Eckstrom. Very insightful.

      • fцику мцику
        fцику мцику  3 days ago

        The survivorship bias is real.

        • Dave C.
          Dave C.  4 days ago

          I too was fired and it thrust me away from a successful career path to one that required a GREAT deal of discomfort with promise of future success. I'm loving it though. I'm getting by, but my new work is fun and exciting and has a better balance of time off and work.

          • alice coppers
            alice coppers  5 days ago

            The La-Z-Boy life leads to immobility and disease.

            • Zanoubia Worldwide
              Zanoubia Worldwide  5 days ago

              What if you're comfortable with discomfort? 🤔🤔

              • GetUpFalcon
                GetUpFalcon  8 days ago

                Sheesh the language he uses to express his ideas isn’t very intuitive.

                • Smaranam
                  Smaranam  8 days ago


                  • Lil Maup
                    Lil Maup  9 days ago

                    What if what makes you uncomfortable is the possibility of a deadly car accident, how do you get out of your comfort zone by facing your fear?

                    • Ari GSD
                      Ari GSD  9 days ago

                      I can see why he got fired. Good luck though.

                      • upercut Puncher
                        upercut Puncher  16 days ago

                        I like to live no chaos no change, smooth and easy way. I dont need to go in a disconfort at all, i like to be in a comfortable zone

                        • righeous jundergod
                          righeous jundergod  19 days ago

                          5:10 The pause for laughter was cringe.

                          • Jhun Ava
                            Jhun Ava  24 days ago

                            Healthy stress

                            • fortis24
                              fortis24  25 days ago

                              Boy I can tell by his circumference he still rolls in a lot of comfort

                              • anglekan
                                anglekan  28 days ago

                                So the taliban are not fighting the American soldiers rather they are attempting to break the order from the USA?

                                • anglekan
                                  anglekan  28 days ago

                                  He didn't mention that breaking order can get you executed. Jesus, Galileo and Rosa Parks were either killed or close to being killed.

                                  • GameMaker Rob
                                    GameMaker Rob  Month ago

                                    This is an old sales technique. "Doing things outside your comfort zone = personal growth"

                                    • ThatTannerGuy
                                      ThatTannerGuy  Month ago

                                      Discomfort: lifting weights Growth: bigger muscles

                                      • James Pantoja
                                        James Pantoja  Month ago

                                        Great message

                                        • Flyin Kiwi
                                          Flyin Kiwi  Month ago

                                          Growth rings? Oh you mean like the concentric rings on a tree that show times of plenty and scarcity but taken together show the iterative growth of even the most mighty redwood or oak? No, I mean 4 things that I am calling rings for some unknown reason.

                                          • roger m
                                            roger m  Month ago

                                            You should have owned him, not him owning you! Always stay one or preferably two steps ahead!

                                            • Joel Osteen Fan
                                              Joel Osteen Fan  Month ago

                                              Do you people realize what you do

                                              • Chigirl D
                                                Chigirl D  Month ago

                                                Excellent video

                                                • chanh y
                                                  chanh y  Month ago

                                                  So true...

                                                  • The BIM Coordinator
                                                    The BIM Coordinator  Month ago

                                                    Well dang, then I have been growing for 25 years

                                                    • Carlos Loff
                                                      Carlos Loff  Month ago

                                                      Bad example - The 9/11 controlled demolitions were very well tunned, saddly and the outcomes were exactly what the Ind Mil Comp ever wished for, TRILLIONS OF DOLLARS + TERRORIST ACT - ETC

                                                      • Life Present
                                                        Life Present  Month ago

                                                        His discomfort : I had to sell my Rolex to pay my credit card's minimum due. 50% of America's population's discomfort : I can't get a job to feed myself

                                                        • Andi Katona
                                                          Andi Katona  Month ago

                                                          I wonder what his daughter has to say

                                                          • 吴彤焱
                                                            吴彤焱  Month ago


                                                            • Shaun M
                                                              Shaun M  Month ago

                                                              You can change your order of thought and action without the catalyst of a discomforting experience, though typically we wait until one to do so.

                                                              • Jay Hooks
                                                                Jay Hooks  Month ago

                                                                I watched this video while forcing myself to sit in front of the 90 degree sun of Texas. Trying to get my vitamin D 🤟to keeps myself healthy.

                                                                • SuperHands
                                                                  SuperHands  Month ago

                                                                  It's best to live life in-between order and chaos. I think Jordan Peterson would approve.

                                                                  • S Watson
                                                                    S Watson  Month ago


                                                                    • Tanya Roundtree
                                                                      Tanya Roundtree  Month ago

                                                                      COMPLETELY AGREE WITH MIKE4TY4!

                                                                      • Debarshi Majumdar
                                                                        Debarshi Majumdar  Month ago

                                                                        he is wrong. growth happens through hard-work. especially when the hard-work is enjoyable and not discomforting.

                                                                        • Winnie Chan
                                                                          Winnie Chan  Month ago

                                                                          I quite agree that people should face more challenges instead of staying at a comfort zone if people want to chase growth .

                                                                          • Khaled Fadl
                                                                            Khaled Fadl  Month ago

                                                                            Moved from Watch Later to Favorites!

                                                                            • Hells Maw
                                                                              Hells Maw  Month ago

                                                                              Comfort breeds weakness

                                                                              • goddagsverige
                                                                                goddagsverige  Month ago

                                                                                Is this a secret campaign talk from Yes Theory?

                                                                                • Uden One-Eye
                                                                                  Uden One-Eye  Month ago

                                                                                  Now imagine that discomfort for 39 years.

                                                                                  • TGood Dukes
                                                                                    TGood Dukes  Month ago


                                                                                    • LordCyber
                                                                                      LordCyber  Month ago

                                                                                      Well,I dare to take risk :)

                                                                                      • Alee Mehralieff
                                                                                        Alee Mehralieff  Month ago

                                                                                        Chaos is a ladder!

                                                                                        • Nancy Thomas-Ward M.B.A
                                                                                          Nancy Thomas-Ward M.B.A  2 months ago

                                                                                          Don;t blame others for your position in life..be responsible for your own thoughts and decisions...shape yourself to be the best you can...never stop learning and sharing...gratitude for the life you have as over 1 million people don;t wake up in the morning!!! Thx Iman i just joined your program to realise having no regrets, leave a legacy......xn Oh yes avoid like the plague the 1.8 negative people above...

                                                                                          • darren zou
                                                                                            darren zou  2 months ago

                                                                                            I needed that Thank you ted talk

                                                                                            • AgentX
                                                                                              AgentX  2 months ago

                                                                                              Rich 1st world Mayonnaise problems. Life is plenty complex in most places. People will kill for mundane

                                                                                              • manaal fatma
                                                                                                manaal fatma  2 months ago

                                                                                                Amazing. No words. ❤

                                                                                                • Leila Free
                                                                                                  Leila Free  2 months ago

                                                                                                  Growth only occurs in a state of discomfort

                                                                                                  • Damon Mitchum
                                                                                                    Damon Mitchum  2 months ago

                                                                                                    To the 1.8K people that disliked this video are the ones "Comfortable".

                                                                                                    • Domo's Journey
                                                                                                      Domo's Journey  2 months ago

                                                                                                      Needed this today. So grateful and thankful for Ms. Cloven' s mention!

                                                                                                      • Paul met Debbie
                                                                                                        Paul met Debbie  2 months ago

                                                                                                        Typically the kind of "insight" you get when you think too much. It is not about (dis)comfort, it is about how naturally you live. Growth is a natural proces that happens when there is accordance with the natural environment. It has nothing to do with discomfort. He is clearly mistaking growth for change. He did't grow, he just changed.

                                                                                                        • Ufuk Bal
                                                                                                          Ufuk Bal  2 months ago

                                                                                                          Wow… there is real wisdom and motivation in this speech… thank you heartfully 💚

                                                                                                          • My Random stuff channel
                                                                                                            My Random stuff channel  2 months ago

                                                                                                            Well, this idea of discomfort inducing growth in a person was said 1400 years ago by Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing be upon him) when he said that If Allah intends good for someone, then he afflicts him with trials. (Sahih Bukhari). It's amazing that what people discover now was already informed 1400 years ago.

                                                                                                            • bob saget
                                                                                                              bob saget  2 months ago

                                                                                                              DEJA DEJA DEJA VUUU

                                                                                                              • Kurt Berube
                                                                                                                Kurt Berube  2 months ago

                                                                                                                I remember my fathers frustration at me for being stubborn and not listening to his advice, but every generation has to make their own mistakes and learn the hard lessons which only pain and discomfort can teach!! So true what this presentation says about pain and learning, only through mistakes and necessity do we learn the valuable lessons of life. You appreciate success more if you have to struggle for it!!!

                                                                                                                • Shubham Shinde
                                                                                                                  Shubham Shinde  2 months ago

                                                                                                                  Wow !!

                                                                                                                  • Jayna's Design
                                                                                                                    Jayna's Design  2 months ago

                                                                                                                    Everything in it's time. Cycles come to mind.....constant discomfort is stressful and lowers immune function.

                                                                                                                    • quang vinh le
                                                                                                                      quang vinh le  2 months ago


                                                                                                                      • SuperQdaddy
                                                                                                                        SuperQdaddy  2 months ago

                                                                                                                        Discomfort is the wrong word...anyone can adjust to uncomfortable situations... but is that growth ?..I guess if you only had good jobs and good friends...you wouldn't know how bad it could be..so what did you learn..challenge is a better word..

                                                                                                                        • Kyzer Soze
                                                                                                                          Kyzer Soze  2 months ago

                                                                                                                          This insight was priceless... amazing.

                                                                                                                          • Антон Моисеенко

                                                                                                                            Very struggle to understand for not-native English speaker. But that "no pain, no gain" I totally figured out.

                                                                                                                            • Ross Meldrum
                                                                                                                              Ross Meldrum  2 months ago

                                                                                                                              If we can only reach our full potential by engaging in discomfort, then I ought to be at my best potential, but I beg to differ. I have yet to have a single good thing happen in my life to make it worth living.

                                                                                                                              • John Houde
                                                                                                                                John Houde  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                “Antifragility is beyond resilience or robustness. The resilient resists shocks and stays the same; the antifragile gets better.” ― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder

                                                                                                                                • Rodlene Paul
                                                                                                                                  Rodlene Paul  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                  I am writing a pitch deck, and I am broke while doing projection for a $50 million idea. I am tempted to get a job to please my surroundings, your talk will help me continue to strive for exponential growth even if that means passing through the corridor of complexity .

                                                                                                                                  • Calm Energy
                                                                                                                                    Calm Energy  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                    So I guess the real question is HOW MUCH growth / discomfort do you want?

                                                                                                                                    • Ed Monix
                                                                                                                                      Ed Monix  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                      Good luck China you have order maybe food complexity.

                                                                                                                                      • tatyana bublik
                                                                                                                                        tatyana bublik  2 months ago


                                                                                                                                        • Christopher Ryons
                                                                                                                                          Christopher Ryons  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                          Oh, I needed this right about now..thank you..

                                                                                                                                          • S Z
                                                                                                                                            S Z  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                            You need to balance your life in order to be happy and healthy

                                                                                                                                            • downbntout
                                                                                                                                              downbntout  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                              That last sentence rings. How though can this Titanic be turned around? The stagnation ring is my left arm, my phone, my face, and my right arm

                                                                                                                                              • Samudera Cinta
                                                                                                                                                Samudera Cinta  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                                If we have a dream and want it becoming true.. We will struggle or get pain to achieve that...

                                                                                                                                                • D69G51
                                                                                                                                                  D69G51  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                                  Entire lecture based on the false assumption that growth only occours whem you are disconfortable. Clearely growth can happen in a confortable enviroment as long as you have others stimuli. Disconfort is just one of them, and is the one i would less recomend for obvious reasons.

                                                                                                                                                  • k krishna
                                                                                                                                                    k krishna  Month ago

                                                                                                                                                    Thanks for sharing your perspective on this. I would have thought of creative ways of learning and using empathy too to his idea.

                                                                                                                                                    • Moon Light
                                                                                                                                                      Moon Light  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                                      Does he got lipstick 😬

                                                                                                                                                      • Lidija Cullen
                                                                                                                                                        Lidija Cullen  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                                        I adore confortable

                                                                                                                                                        • Tessa Logan
                                                                                                                                                          Tessa Logan  2 months ago

                                                                                                                                                          If you want to achieve, discomfort will be your best friend! Nice speech