How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps | Christina Wallace

Share
HTML-code
  • Published: 21 August 2018
  • Let's face it, online dating can suck. So many potential people, so much time wasted -- is it even worth it? Podcaster and entrepreneur Christina Wallace thinks so, if you do it right. In a funny, practical talk, Wallace shares how she used her MBA skill set to invent a "zero date" approach and get off swipe-based apps -- and how you can, too.

    Check out more TED Talks: http://www.ted.com

    The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more.

    Follow TED on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/TEDTalks
    Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED

    Subscribe to our channel: https://www.youtube.com/TED

Comments • 753

  • D.A. S.
    D.A. S.  6 days back

    Get over yourself, lady..

    • Dsimic
      Dsimic  2 weeks back

      It's just for women. Not for men. Happy swipping ladies😊hope you find prince charming.

      • craig merrell
        craig merrell  1 months back

        MGTOW ... enjoy your cats

        • Bullion Forever
          Bullion Forever  2 months back

          The issue with dating apps is thiers no boundaries anymore, a woman who is a 4 can have access to the top 5% of men and they believe they're entitled to them and act like thier 9s when they haven't hit the gym in a decade and thier stomachs are bulged over. It doesn't look good for the average guy out there.

          • Roger Dinhelm
            Roger Dinhelm  2 months back

            Women are so focused on repulsing sexual context that it seems soon gay men will be the ideal partners. Because essentially, they kind of fit all these criteria better than straight men.

            • Steve Zali
              Steve Zali  2 months back

              I got helped with my Tinder thanks to those guys: http://www.surgicalcoaching.net/. Super helpful

              • Martin Cuadra
                Martin Cuadra  3 months back

                Whenever I ask someone out on a date and they say yes, something always has to happen. People are too busy nowadays smh.

                • maverick0698
                  maverick0698  3 months back

                  God I felt so so so lucky when I got to go out with my first (and probably last) online date a couple days ago. We'd been talking for a few days, I figured hey, we're close physically, why not meet up? We had the date, I thought it went pretty well, I was fucking nervous because I'm a "nerd" and she's... well let's just say she isn't. She replied ONE time after our date, saying how she had fun and wanted to do it again, and then the next day unmatched me without saying bye or nothing. I've been online dating for 2 years, have had probably a total of 3 girls actually converse with me, one go out with me, and two of them ghost me. I have NEVER had a girl I met first in-person ghost me. Online dating is addictive but it's just as profitable for me as gambling at a casino is for most people.

                  • E B
                    E B  3 months back

                    I like how she twists the story of her not liking them when she screams I was desperate for a kin-doll but none of them actually liked me

                    • deangelo taylor
                      deangelo taylor  3 months back

                      just go MGTOW

                      • InChrist
                        InChrist  4 months back

                        Or how about just being an awesome person? From the onset you called yourself an overachiever. It's great to have accolades but it's even greater to be humble about it. You want all of these specific things from one person. Yet, nobody noticed them in you? Your whole list was vain & lazy.

                        • Winston Smith
                          Winston Smith  4 months back

                          good review right here: https://www.bitchute.com/video/5E0RcWk0bODP/

                          • Heather Mcbreen
                            Heather Mcbreen  5 months back

                            such good advice. i feel like it is first and foremost okay to say you don't like dating apps and that you are not required to engage in order to find fulfillment, happiness or love in the modern era. i liked this article on the subject https://puttingoutandputtingup.com/2019/01/29/the-low-down-on-dating-apps/

                            • Vitalii
                              Vitalii  5 months back

                              So she fucked with 1000 bad guys till 30 and now found some loser and ready to have kids ? :-)

                              • steezli
                                steezli  5 months back

                                Someone tell Chazz to run and run fast!

                                • SuperbLegend
                                  SuperbLegend  5 months back

                                  You put yourself on a high pedestal for being kinda unattractive. But always got thirsty mofos huh? Chronic sends regards

                                  • War Is Wrong
                                    War Is Wrong  5 months back

                                    Undead Chronic sent me from Bitchute which doesn't censor. I disagree with him about Christina's looks, which I find hot and similar to my 21 year old girlfriend. It's just that I'd prefer 21 to 31 even though I'm 61. This just shows there are too many rich men in NY, making it dumb for a man to compete there for hot thirty somethings. Better to find a young version of Christina in a small college town before she goes to the big city.

                                    • Anthony Caruso
                                      Anthony Caruso  5 months back

                                      How many people are here just to read the comments because of undead chronic's video?

                                      • Jacek Fieldman
                                        Jacek Fieldman  5 months back

                                        Really?! Someone wanted this female version of Sid from Ice Age? ;)

                                        • Sean Holmes
                                          Sean Holmes  5 months back

                                          This is why no one respects Ted talks anymore.

                                          • Novaks47
                                            Novaks47  5 months back

                                            Walled out and stalled out, enjoy your apps and cats!

                                            • 0bsolete-X
                                              0bsolete-X  5 months back

                                              Undead Chronic wrecked this broad!

                                              • SVETOGOR
                                                SVETOGOR  5 months back

                                                Give 10 years and beautiful AI robots will be in many mens houses! I see more and more electric tesla cars - people laughed before, they say never happen! people laughed about internet..... people laughed a lot about the thing we have now.......

                                                • D C
                                                  D C  5 months back

                                                  Entitled average looking woman has totally far fetched idea of what her sexual market place value is and demand's a man in the top one percent, you'll thank me later.

                                                  • DMT elf Ireland
                                                    DMT elf Ireland  1 months back

                                                    Yep seems like most western women. Not all but most

                                                • connann barbarin
                                                  connann barbarin  5 months back

                                                  You deleted Undead Chronics video but you can't stop the Red Pill Army.......GLORY TO LORD COMMANDER

                                                  • Anthony Caruso
                                                    Anthony Caruso  5 months back

                                                    I'm here from his video just to read the comments haha

                                                • rich hall
                                                  rich hall  5 months back

                                                  Sorry, but a masculine acting woman, an MBA, and a job title doesn't turn my crank. The near term looks favorable for cat litter stocks, boxed wine, and psych meds.

                                                  • Caliban777
                                                    Caliban777  5 months back

                                                    rich hall Lots of lesbians would find her very attractive.

                                                • Col Rock100
                                                  Col Rock100  5 months back

                                                  Helps if you take the massive potato off your shoulder ! 😂

                                                  • Regula Guy
                                                    Regula Guy  5 months back

                                                    So from the very beginning she says she filters through her messages because no man, who feminist women consider subhuman is worth reaching out to first. It sets an unrealistic expectation. Poor her! I bet you her man has figured out who she really is by now and has moved on. But not to worry, she gets 200 messages a day. Also, fun fact only about 2 percent of all men are above 6 feet.

                                                    • Tappa Tappa
                                                      Tappa Tappa  5 months back

                                                      She basically saying everyone is beneath her !
                                                      She's 6 feet ..... over 30 ........ gross and greasy !

                                                      • John Nash
                                                        John Nash  5 months back

                                                        another example of why I am not attracted to the personalities of American women :(

                                                        • Steve Thomas
                                                          Steve Thomas  5 months back

                                                          Just taking Tinder into account (and excluding all the other dating sites / apps I'm either on or have used in the last 15 years), I must have liked around 5,000 - 6,000 profiles approx in the 10 months I've been on it. Out of those, I have managed to get around 15 matches, some of which were scammers / spam bots, a few others quickly unmatched me as soon as I messaged them (if not sooner), a few others ghosted me and out of the remaining few matches, I went on ONE date. She at least turned out to be as genuine as she sounded / looked but alas, I wasn't for her.

                                                          My point is, this is what I as an average man can expect on dating apps and sites. I can also assure you that in 15 years of doing this, my results have been pretty much non-existent.

                                                          And quite frankly, it absolutely SUCKS.

                                                          I am more than acutely aware that women do have their own problems when it comes to online and mobile app dating. But Jesus tap dancing Christ, it sure isn't a frigging Mardi Gras for a lot of us men either.

                                                          You can trust me on that one.

                                                          • Klaus Kloss
                                                            Klaus Kloss  6 months back

                                                            The problem with online dating is that it follows a proven psychological experiment called the “Jam Experiment”. Shoppers were given endless Jam choices in a grocery store. In the end, they were overwhelmed and chose NONE. When the choices were reduced, it was easier. So guess what guys, YOU HAVE NO HOPE ON A DATING APP!

                                                            • thanglong pham
                                                              thanglong pham  6 months back

                                                              I was playing with a scammer on OKC . that scammer is freaking stupid. He did not realize that I already knew he was a scammer. 😂

                                                              • LordOfTrash
                                                                LordOfTrash  6 months back

                                                                Been turned down by a girl in a wheelchair, a girl who was deaf, and a girl that suffered from dwarfism. Women are shallow, and have unrealistic expectations. When you're a man on a dating site, you are nothing but a face on a screen.

                                                                • Marcela Frances
                                                                  Marcela Frances  6 months back

                                                                  Thank you! We have to know what we want and meet in person quickly. I agree. I tend to make my first dates so long even when I know there isn't chemistry because I'm having fun and like to talk and then it ends up going nowhere on both sides. I see all the male comments on here and it's been the same for me. I message a guy and he responds once or never after we match and then he's vanished....

                                                                  • Captain
                                                                    Captain  6 months back

                                                                    Якубеня рассказывает как она уронила сосиску.

                                                                    • Schuyler Hanson
                                                                      Schuyler Hanson  7 months back

                                                                      Spot on. Aimless swiping sucks, meeting people is fun. Interesting statisitics!

                                                                      • blakliffy
                                                                        blakliffy  7 months back

                                                                        *when you hit the wall*

                                                                        • Nigel Coleman
                                                                          Nigel Coleman  7 months back

                                                                          This works for a woman but the game is played entirely differently as a man...

                                                                          • Lala
                                                                            Lala  7 months back

                                                                            Honestly a lot of guys who check that list turn out to be faking their interest the whole time and kept looking for options even when you thought things are going well. Also not all women get 1 reply for every 2 messages they send. Some of us get 1 reply for every 10 messages, but fine, I guess that's still a better percentage than what men get.

                                                                            • linkinmetalica
                                                                              linkinmetalica  7 months back

                                                                              Look if you're going to talk about dating you have to have a statistic from both sexes and a live experiment. There's no way you could make conclusions about online dating with only your personal experience as a woman for both women and men. Take the average unattractive guy, even if he follows exactly what you have listed, he'd be lucky to even get a like online. A lot of it has more to do with building a social profile than it has to do with online dating. It includes going to events, taking pictures at those events, and using the social media outlets for it.

                                                                              • Ankur Abichandani
                                                                                Ankur Abichandani  7 months back

                                                                                why was this talk on Ted? Ted is becoming a filler like most things do.

                                                                                • Phlegethon
                                                                                  Phlegethon  7 months back

                                                                                  Wow I thought this was TedX, but nope this was a Ted talk. That's gotta take some brand reputation hit with this one.

                                                                                  • Joshua Israel
                                                                                    Joshua Israel  7 months back

                                                                                    Always liked the fact I'm tall (6.3) when I was dating, was able to talk to girls way out of my league, including my wife :)

                                                                                    • Sergio Aguirre
                                                                                      Sergio Aguirre  7 months back

                                                                                      Stil not married, no kids, no home....in her 30s lol Bitter cat lady in 5....4.....3....

                                                                                      • James Allen
                                                                                        James Allen  7 months back

                                                                                        Yeah, she's done. She just hasn't realized it yet.

                                                                                    • M B
                                                                                      M B  7 months back

                                                                                      3:57 Those are odds a man would kill for... Jokes aside, angry men in the comments need to chill.

                                                                                      • Troy Zhen
                                                                                        Troy Zhen  7 months back

                                                                                        Who is this pathetic cat lady?

                                                                                        • Norman Szczepanski
                                                                                          Norman Szczepanski  8 months back

                                                                                          All thoses guys claiming no man gets 1 message a week. I'm not that easy on the eyes and if you're out for blood, you will get some.