A Woman Over 50: A Life Unleashed | Connie Schultz | TEDxClevelandStateUniversity

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  • Published: 14 December 2016
  • Nationally syndicated journalist Connie Schultz discusses the role of women over 50 in our society.
    Connie Schultz is a Pulitzer Prize-winning writer and journalist. She worked for The Plain Dealer from 1993 to 2011, earning the 2005 Pulitzer for commentary. Schultz currently is a nationally syndicated columnist with Creators Syndicate and the professional in residence at Kent State University’s College of Communication and Information. She is the author of the books Life Happens: And Other Unavoidable Truths as well as …and His Lovely Wife: A Memoir from the Woman Beside the Man. She is working on her first novel, about a working-class family in Ohio.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Comments • 766

  • justdynee
    justdynee  2 ngày trước

    Most women I knew thought they'd be spinsters if not married by 24.

    • Miriam Saavedra Serna
      Miriam Saavedra Serna  9 ngày trước

      Wow! Such a wonderful talk! Hope some day I will be on that list of successful woman.🌹

      • Kay Sappington
        Kay Sappington  15 ngày trước

        67 and completely invisible.

        • BraveFox100
          BraveFox100  18 ngày trước

          Love it!

          • Diane W.
            Diane W.  20 ngày trước

            Way to go ladies!!!!!! So proud of you all!!!

            • Kaleidoscope Eyes
              Kaleidoscope Eyes  27 ngày trước

              I'm 46 and have suffered from fibromyalgia for 12 years, which has put a giant wrench in my life plans. I don't know when I will be able to resume my life but I plan making my second act the best part of it.

              • Richard Bowers
                Richard Bowers  28 ngày trước

                Just saying. "I coulda been rich & famous, but don't want to name names!" What's wrong with this? Well, blaming! Get busy by reinventing yourself!

                • Brenda Zamudio
                  Brenda Zamudio  Tháng trước

                  Getting my BSN at age 53...yay me!

                  • Truth Seeker
                    Truth Seeker  Tháng trước

                    Love her!

                    • Jane Marriott
                      Jane Marriott  Tháng trước

                      I’m 67 - just about to begin yoga teacher training.

                      • annony most
                        annony most  Tháng trước

                        Have a question all below here who went to school after 50.......and where did all the money come from? And how is one able to pay back loans if one only wants to continue working for perhaps 10 years? Myself, would love to become attorney. However...will have to learn on own...because at 40 I became an RN after husband died, raise our son alone, and now in mid 50s......do not have any disposable income with which to enjoy a life of being a student or fighting the good fight for non criminals...how do you do that? College such a money making racket I think...

                        • C CC
                          C CC  Tháng trước

                          If, when we have a female president of the United States of America, it will be because she is the best person for our nation NOT because she's a woman!! People voting for Hillary just because she's a woman is an insult to not only women but the office of president!!

                          • C CC
                            C CC  Tháng trước

                            @My little Puma people vote. The electorials then select. Tomatoes tomautoes little kitty.

                            • My little Puma
                              My little Puma  Tháng trước

                              C CC presidents are selected,not elected.

                              • C CC
                                C CC  Tháng trước

                                "I might as well be 60 and a politician." Thank you so much, Connie Schultz! :)

                                • MischievousKittie
                                  MischievousKittie  Tháng trước

                                  The world doesn’t have time to wait for you

                                  • Margaret Brown
                                    Margaret Brown  Tháng trước

                                    Feldenkrais

                                    • Nazan Turkel
                                      Nazan Turkel  Tháng trước

                                      Came to US as a collage graduate which was not accepted as a degree and offered no exams to prove it. Did not have a work permit either. While volunteering i was offered a job at research of my area of expertise, was given a work permit where i have spent close to 20 yrs as a scientific coordinator. As luck has it, finally foreign pharmacy graduates offered exam tp prove their education, i took it and passed. Then at the age of 45 i have gotten my Doctor of Pharmacy degree in clinical pharmacy as a single mother whose daughter was about to get her collage degree!! If one wants it nothing will stop her, i am a living proof....

                                      • Jamie H.
                                        Jamie H.  Tháng trước

                                        At 58 starting over with my own dreams and desires.

                                        • man
                                          man  Tháng trước

                                          I am new subscriber i am 51 I like to be friend thanks

                                          • Emily
                                            Emily  Tháng trước

                                            I may be only 21 years of age, but I am still so thankful for this video and for her message. This is a video for all women, of all ages, and with every shade of nail polish. Ladies, regardless of age, we are unstoppable when we allow ourselves to be. 💪🏼💜💅🏻

                                            • kyle yarde
                                              kyle yarde  Tháng trước

                                              I’m 52 and my husband has left me today how do I feel?

                                              • cynthia obrien
                                                cynthia obrien  2 tháng trước

                                                I was diagnosed with lupus and rheumatoid arthritis when I was 26, I had to go on disability when I was 48; When I was put on Disability, I went back to School and received my undergraduate in Behavioral Science. Then I decided to go to graduate school. To pursue my master’s in organizational management. Have two classes left, and then I have conquered my educational goals. When starting my educational journey, I quit school in the 5th grade because my mother never sent us to school and I always struggled with catching up and so I just never went back after the 5th grade. Went back when I moved to the suburbs because I am originally from Southwest Detroit after having my son, I took night classes and then took the GED never thought I would pass. After I received the GED, I went to business school and obtained a Business Administration Associates Degree never use that degree. So, a mindset could either stop you. Or run you full force to the goals that you have given yourself. Or you can keep the mindset that you are not capable of conquering your dreams The best part is I was on the Dean’s list graduated with honors and held a 4.0 GPA in the graduate program till I got sick and was in the hospital intensive care for eight days but will be graduating with a 3.73 GPA. The moral of the story a girl that quit school in the 5th grade that never thought she had brains because she was told her sister was book smart, and she had logic in other words, street smart. When having a mindset that you do not have the intelligence and cannot learn it will hold somebody back however if you give yourself the mindset that you are capable of doing anything you put your mind to you will succeed with hard work and determination. And that also goes for keeping an optimistic outlook. I was told I would be in a wheelchair at 30, but I am not. I am looking forward to going back to work. Holding that positive mindset has helped me through my journey.

                                                • Diana Layne
                                                  Diana Layne  2 tháng trước

                                                  I like the glasses.

                                                  • Brenda B
                                                    Brenda B  2 tháng trước

                                                    I stopped telling people my age. When I used to divulge, the person who was rude enough to ask my age, would immediately begin to treat me as if I were less relevant that I was when I was the same person just 1 minute earlier. Ageism is the last form of discrimination that is socially acceptable.

                                                    • svenster88
                                                      svenster88  2 tháng trước

                                                      I worked out at 50 y/o I had fibromyalgia so unable to work at much I was lucky to find a college which specialised in prep for further ed and its lead to a Celtic studies course and N.C INC trips all over the place

                                                      • sne l
                                                        sne l  2 tháng trước

                                                        this makes me so happy! thank you

                                                        • Soma ahmed
                                                          Soma ahmed  2 tháng trước

                                                          Omg ❤❤❤ amazing speech

                                                          • nana MC
                                                            nana MC  2 tháng trước

                                                            I'm 64 and I'm uber driving it's a battleground on the roads

                                                            • devorahacts
                                                              devorahacts  2 tháng trước

                                                              I can't tell you how many long days it was a relief to see an older woman driving for me. Love your work. My best to you.

                                                              • Cindy Simpkins
                                                                Cindy Simpkins  2 tháng trước

                                                                All I can say is thank you! I'm 41. Recently divorced. No longer living in a fairytale mindset. I have 3 children to finish raising with little support from their dad. I seeked out something to listen to because I'm scared. Scared of failing myself and my children. Finding this has truly turned my fear into fuel. Thank you so much!

                                                                • maria estela balon
                                                                  maria estela balon  2 tháng trước

                                                                  timely and very very inspiring... thanks for that

                                                                  • B. Greene
                                                                    B. Greene  2 tháng trước

                                                                    When I was 32 I had a job as a production manager for a satellite studio of a major film studio, where I was also in charge of hiring. Initially I did what most young managers do; hired people under 40 because I thought they would be eager and energetic. After a few months of excessive hand holding with far too many of them, I did another round of hiring, and only chose employees over 50. I had learned at 32 the enormous value of experience; the older workers could be left alone to do their jobs, no hand holding required, and would mentor the younger ones when needed. Having them there sped up production considerably. Nowadays I read about how ageism in the workplace hit more women them men; ageist companies are foolish companies, and their bias will cost them big in the end!

                                                                    • Deborah
                                                                      Deborah  2 tháng trước

                                                                      Published my first book at the age of 50. At 53, I'm now working on my 4th! Great talk!

                                                                      • Ynolas Korhem
                                                                        Ynolas Korhem  2 tháng trước

                                                                        I had been feeling so ashamed and sad for being 43, single and not having any kids. I thought my life would have been different. I lost hope & faith after heartbreak and loss. I went for a walk this evening and began to think that all that I want is actually possible. It felt good to imagine that! Soon after, I went on VNclip and this talk showed up on my feed. I feel empowered at this wonderful talk and the amazing women who have shared their stories in the comments. Thank you all 💕

                                                                        • soul sessions tv Bdhrh
                                                                          soul sessions tv Bdhrh  2 tháng trước

                                                                          Always where Colours....

                                                                          • Reticula W.
                                                                            Reticula W.  3 tháng trước

                                                                            I should watch this video every day. I"m 60 this year, and I'm creating my own new reality. Love you, Connie!

                                                                            • ubcreative2
                                                                              ubcreative2  3 tháng trước

                                                                              Thank you for this...

                                                                              • Linda Cullerton
                                                                                Linda Cullerton  3 tháng trước

                                                                                Thank you. That talk is a great girl friend talk.

                                                                                • kk70x7
                                                                                  kk70x7  3 tháng trước

                                                                                  Ugh, the name thing. What is up with this and men? I changed my name for my ex - then changed it back (both changes were a major pain). Never again for sure!

                                                                                  • Ra Clarke
                                                                                    Ra Clarke  3 tháng trước

                                                                                    So jealous of her abundant hair!

                                                                                    • Jo Marie  Lopez
                                                                                      Jo Marie Lopez  3 tháng trước

                                                                                      I so needed to hear this....thank you for caring and making me still feel appreciated.

                                                                                      • Cornwall 59
                                                                                        Cornwall 59  3 tháng trước

                                                                                        Teaching around the world from 52. Still going at 60. Bahrain, China, Vietnam, Kuwait and now Lagos.

                                                                                        • Betty Schneider
                                                                                          Betty Schneider  3 tháng trước

                                                                                          Wow! That was great! I love that you can be confident in yourself to keep going even with the nay sayers! You're right it's your life, not their! Iam very proud of you. I have medical problem that keep me from working! But I try to stay positive in life! My daughter is working and going to collage and his two boys & her husband works! I try to lift her up when she is down. I tell her to take her time. And find a few minutes for herself too. I am proud of her too. Anyway I thought your video was going to be advice on how to date at 50 yr. Omg 😲 Lol 😆 I am 62 and I enjoyed your video 📹 thanks💝💒⛪⛪⛪⛪ ✝ ✝ ✝

                                                                                          • Carolyn Salvadore
                                                                                            Carolyn Salvadore  3 tháng trước

                                                                                            I'm halfway through listening to you and had to comment. I am 59 years old and my life and career have been like making popcorn too. I received an Associates Degree at 49, Bachelors at 52 and a Masters at 55. I am a software test engineer for the FAA. What I really want to do is just what you are doing. I want to public speak and inspire others to follow and find their joy. That is my joy. A reason I am now in Toastmasters and just did my Icebreaker. Thank you for your presentation! I also, do not want to become invisible. I won't become invisible. Thank you!!

                                                                                            • karin wolf
                                                                                              karin wolf  3 tháng trước

                                                                                              iam 58 now,canceled my nursejob and start next month a education as chiropodist, so happy about that!

                                                                                              • Random 1
                                                                                                Random 1  3 tháng trước

                                                                                                you had me right up till the political "joke." To bad i was enjoying your talk...

                                                                                                • Smith Kennedy
                                                                                                  Smith Kennedy  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                  I just turned 50 and I love it. Pressure is off. I quit trying to be fabulous, or normal. I'm neither and I'm okay! (I'm also a lot nicer to people because I know how hard life can be.)

                                                                                                  • Yvonda Czelusniak
                                                                                                    Yvonda Czelusniak  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                    Thank You Connie. I’ll be 50 July 2019 n I needed this..I’m so afraid..I have four Technical Degrees n I’m lost in my mind..I feel as if my life is elevating to another level I just don’t know where..I do know this...It will be something great bc I listened to you speak, there’s no reason to fear I just have to do..I’m a blk women n at 50 I wanna be a Biker Chick w a Gothic Style❤️

                                                                                                    • aut sept
                                                                                                      aut sept  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                      The most important thing I've learned is what you said. Not all at the same time. It is soo important. It allows you, as an actual person, to have it all. Just not at the same time. That is the lie of it (from the perspective of someone born in 1960) that says you CAN have it alll. WE thought IT MEANT All AT THE SAME TIME. It doesn't. And it is true. There are seasons of life. And there is no point at which we whether women OR men should be taken off into the wilderness left alone to die.

                                                                                                      • Sirena Spades
                                                                                                        Sirena Spades  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                        The camera person on this is enough to make a person ill :0

                                                                                                        • B Rad
                                                                                                          B Rad  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                          I’m turning 40 in 6 months and feel so lost, so busy comparing myself to everyone around me and their accomplishments, and still no real clue what I want to do. I felt so defeated, until listening to this! I’m crying as I’m writing this! Thank you!!!! And I love all of the comments under this post. I’m not washed up in six months- I’m just starting! 💖💖💖

                                                                                                          • JacG Bts
                                                                                                            JacG Bts  3 tháng trước

                                                                                                            WOW ! you're so young!! Don't compare yourself to Anyone else (it's a universal TRAP)- you don't know what they're secretly dealimg with - and YOU have your own unique Life and Value - quite apart from work. Bless. Share your life- we will all be enriched !!

                                                                                                            • Isabelle Elliot
                                                                                                              Isabelle Elliot  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                              No longer need society to define us!!

                                                                                                              • Anna McNeill
                                                                                                                Anna McNeill  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                p9

                                                                                                                • L. Ravindran
                                                                                                                  L. Ravindran  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                  Fifty is the new 30. There is scientific evidence to prove it. Researchers say that modern youth goes right up tp 60! It’s not how long you’ve lived, they say, it’s how much longer you can live that defines whether you are old or not. So, what the heck, we’ve got time to do anything we fancy!

                                                                                                                  • Brenda Springer
                                                                                                                    Brenda Springer  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                    I'm solo and truly loving my life !

                                                                                                                    • Brenda Springer
                                                                                                                      Brenda Springer  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                      59 ,was married once for 28 yrs ,have had a few other relationships sense but at this time in my life I've been single for almost 3 years ,I've gotten to learn about myself and it's the most satisfying I've been sense I was a child.This is me meeting me and the things I'm learning amaze me .

                                                                                                                      • Katherine Doornink
                                                                                                                        Katherine Doornink  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                        Love! Sent to all my friends over 45 (ha! They think they are old!). Inspiring. Thank you so much for your talk. We need more and more women to understand; we have only just begun.

                                                                                                                        • Samantha Mercedes Staff
                                                                                                                          Samantha Mercedes Staff  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                          THANK YOU CONNIE !

                                                                                                                          • Linda Jackson
                                                                                                                            Linda Jackson  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                            Great talk. Connie's story about people telling her she should change her name when her husband ran for the senate reminded me of something my late husband said. After we married, a relative asked him, in my presence, whether it bothered him that I had kept my name. I was curious as to what his reply would be because, frankly, I'd never asked him if he cared. Without hesitation, my quick witted love replied, "No . . . she was going to change her name but we thought it would be confusing to have two Georges in the family". I laughed in delight and word must have gotten around as no one ever asked again. I came across this video when a friend sent me a link to an unrelated Ted Talk. This popped up right after so I watched it. My husband died 3 years ago and we had no children so I just wanted to go with him. I had always wanted to write a book and had finally seriously embarked on it 3 months before he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The next 6 months were a blur of nursing him to the end, knowing my whole life would collapse when he was gone. By 6 months (to the day) after he died, both of our cats had died also. My little family, all gone. Nothing much interests me and I can't see anything to look forward to. I've just kind of been 'running out the clock'. However I don't believe in coincidence so I paid attention when 3 of the stories she told started with "when she was 62". I am 62. Thank you Connie. Wish me luck. p.s. I just noticed that this talk was published on our wedding anniversary, the year that he died. It would have been our 32nd. Synchronicity.

                                                                                                                            • Elaine Pollard
                                                                                                                              Elaine Pollard  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                              It's so funny I see this today. I decided to look into going back to school--Penn State. Penn State was the school I wanted to go to 33 years ago, but couldn't. Of course, I heard all the voices in my head that I'm 51, it's too late, why spend all that money. But, this was a dream I had forgotten about. I didn't think it was even possible. I don't know if I'll get accepted, but if I don't try I'll never know.

                                                                                                                              • Ms. Baas
                                                                                                                                Ms. Baas  2 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                You can do it Elaine! I started my bachelor's at the age of 52 and just graduated with dual majors at 56! I was full-time on campus 150 miles from my home town and had the time of my life pursuing my life-long dream of earning a bachelors degree! Now I am looking for my first teaching job 800 miles from the place I have always called home. You can do it!

                                                                                                                                • L Abell
                                                                                                                                  L Abell  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                  Connie Schultz for President

                                                                                                                                  • Celma Silveira
                                                                                                                                    Celma Silveira  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                    It’s all about who’s chains of commends are💪

                                                                                                                                    • Penny Richards
                                                                                                                                      Penny Richards  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                      49 is a couple of months away and I'm still listening to the people that are telling me no :-(

                                                                                                                                      • Heidi Hanz
                                                                                                                                        Heidi Hanz  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                        Gosh, 50 is so young. No reason not to do what you want at any age. If you like bold colors, do it. If you like soft or medium colors, do that. I like a more organic look. That is me. Be yourself whether 30, 50,70, or 90!

                                                                                                                                        • kathryn bender
                                                                                                                                          kathryn bender  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                          I've been crying your whole speech..😭

                                                                                                                                          • jc
                                                                                                                                            jc  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                            You can feel invisible at any point in your life. Hamster-wheel jobs where you must be seen and not heard. The women I have worked for have often been more demeaning and denigrating than the men. It’s not gender - it’s character.

                                                                                                                                            • phoenix x
                                                                                                                                              phoenix x  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                              Had to share a comment from below - Youth and beauty benefit only you - temporarily . Wisdom and strength can uplift the entire community for generations to come. You choose which thing has more value .

                                                                                                                                              • Susan L. McGee
                                                                                                                                                Susan L. McGee  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                I will be 55 this year and just finished my Ph.D. Age is just a number. Most of my friends are my 30 year old pack of mentees. Life is good.

                                                                                                                                                • Judi Wrenn
                                                                                                                                                  Judi Wrenn  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                  Glad to know I'm not alone! There need to be more women speaking up and letting everyone know life is just beginning at 60 the early years were just us being schooled.

                                                                                                                                                  • Cornwall 59
                                                                                                                                                    Cornwall 59  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                    60, teaching all over the world

                                                                                                                                                    • Ayesha S
                                                                                                                                                      Ayesha S  4 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                      I enjoyed her talk

                                                                                                                                                      • jktosh
                                                                                                                                                        jktosh  5 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                        This is perfect, the timing, and not an accident as life and I have learned to work together like this - I'm rolling up on my 49th year in April 2019 and it's been a cause for reflection. I've had no trouble forging new trails while living on my own terms, etc. and never worried about being invisible, but I found myself feeling a little stuck for a while here lately still needed to see this just as much as everyone here, in my own way. You lovely women are so inspiring as you tell your stories - no matter what their content is. We draw strength from one another as we share in our experiences as the women we have been found their way to the women we are now and are still becoming. Thank you for your help out of the little mud patch in my road. :)

                                                                                                                                                        • Mollie Burd
                                                                                                                                                          Mollie Burd  5 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                          Love this. I will be turning 50 in a few weeks. This made me feel better about it.

                                                                                                                                                          • Vedawattie Ram
                                                                                                                                                            Vedawattie Ram  5 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                            Awesome!

                                                                                                                                                            • Susan Reimer
                                                                                                                                                              Susan Reimer  5 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                              Left the medical field and low paying corporate jobs 55yo now and in School for Accounting and Finance and my MBA for the next atleast 30 years of my Generation X existence , we are immortal!

                                                                                                                                                              • Chrissy Polans
                                                                                                                                                                Chrissy Polans  5 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                                Thank you! 47 and in my dream career for four months now. Never thought I could do it before! 💕

                                                                                                                                                                • Jennifer Davis
                                                                                                                                                                  Jennifer Davis  5 tháng trước

                                                                                                                                                                  I have written a childrens book and I need an illustrator. Could you give me information of who the person is who is the illustrator?