Adventures with Tinder | Jacqueline Hall | TEDxOldham

  • Published: 13 May 2016
  • Jacky walks us through her journey on Tinder in a poignant TEDxOldham talk
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Comments • 163

  • Mome Gnome
    Mome Gnome  День назад

    I can see why this chick had so much trouble on tinder... shes a b*tch. Its like she never spoke to any man before. Never spoke to any match before meeting them. She is super judgy of them, too. Shes also frumpy and dumpy. Come on, youre doing a talk, brush your hair and put something nice on. Can you imagine what she wore on dates?? She also doesnt seem to have any common sense. Also, dont EVER be ashamed of using a dating app. Its difficult to meet ppl these days and you should use ever avenue available to you. There is nothing wrong with looking for love everywhere.

    • notthere83
      notthere83  5 дней назад

      Matched with hundreds of men and went on many dates. And yet she's complaining and people care. Meanwhile, when I tried out Tinder, I matched with maybe a dozen (and only after using many boosts) and nothing led to a date. And nobody cares. But yeah, it's clearly women who are at a severe disadvantage in our society...

      • Andrew Robshaw
        Andrew Robshaw  13 дней назад

        A very genuine and honest description of her experience. No, she is not a professional speaker, but does everyone on TED have to be. She has a story to tell that many people can associate with, and many can learn from...the whole point TED talks. I am glad to hear she was able to find someone, that values her for just herself, she deserves it.

        • LORILEE R.
          LORILEE R.  14 дней назад

          She is fantastic. I wanted her to keep going!

          • craig merrell
            craig merrell  14 дней назад

            Selfish self centered wahmin she is me, me, me,.... she’s just empty and has nothing to offer small wonder men don’t want anything to do with her

            • Mimi Janeemi
              Mimi Janeemi  20 дней назад

              I appreciate hearing her experiences. Never looked at Tinder, and it sounds like I won’t.

              • Bill Riley
                Bill Riley  23 дня назад

                I rather enjoyed Jacqueline's low-key presentation, learned from her experience, and was glad she had well organized notes and used them. I admire her calm, confident stage presence. Congrats to her and to Oldham TEDx

                • Achilles94627
                  Achilles94627  6 дней назад

                  You must be a relative of hers.

                  • beachdriven
                    beachdriven  28 дней назад

                    leggings really no he did not like you.. hello

                    • beachdriven
                      beachdriven  28 дней назад

                      horrible ted x. hurt her feelings ? she realizes she was on tinder a hook up site right..not match .com

                      • Giovanny Moreno
                        Giovanny Moreno  Месяц назад

                        Couldn't she prepared all topics before and then giving conference with no papers?

                        • Евгения Демидова
                          Евгения Демидова  Месяц назад

                          She is so cool! I loved her story, she told it in such a lovely and humorous way

                          • mgtow life
                            mgtow life  Месяц назад

                            All I can think about is beetle juice beetle juice beetle juice. Sweetheart it's not them it's you. Glad im mgtow. If I showed up to a date to this I'd be like

                            • Sven Gelbhaar
                              Sven Gelbhaar  Месяц назад

                              Beautifully done. Brava

                              • Think PIONEERing
                                Think PIONEERing  2 месяца назад

                                Her speech demeanor reminds me of Kristen Stewart, the generic uk-reboot version.

                                • s.lena
                                  s.lena  2 месяца назад

                                  I feel like she would match perfectly with a guy like BJ Novak

                                  • Alvaro Gonzalez
                                    Alvaro Gonzalez  2 месяца назад


                                    • Thomas Byrne
                                      Thomas Byrne  3 месяца назад

                                      Fantastic conclusion. Great talk. Thank you

                                      • Klea Rusnim
                                        Klea Rusnim  3 месяца назад

                                        MGTOW 4 LIFE (Monk Mode).

                                        • Sean Holmes
                                          Sean Holmes  3 месяца назад

                                          The only way to win is not to play.

                                          • Sean Holmes
                                            Sean Holmes  2 месяца назад

                                            @victoria ann zabaras Go play with your cats.

                                            • Sean Holmes
                                              Sean Holmes  2 месяца назад

                                              @victoria ann zabarasprojection much?

                                              • victoria ann zabaras
                                                victoria ann zabaras  2 месяца назад

                                                Who is talking about winning in the manner you are talking about? No one

                                                • Maniecel J.
                                                  Maniecel J.  3 месяца назад

                                                  Does anyone here have a transcript on this talk? Please comment below :

                                                  • Bryan K. Vaughan
                                                    Bryan K. Vaughan  3 месяца назад

                                                    Be ashamed of being on Tinder....Agreed. However, In case someone discovers and asks why you're on Tinder.....LIE. Interesting. And yet, women want TOTAL HONESTY from men? Again, interesting.

                                                    • Mome Gnome
                                                      Mome Gnome  День назад

                                                      wtf? why should anyone be ashamed to be on tinder, or any other dating thing, for that matter?? its shameful to look for dates? to want to find a mate? sorry, but i want someone and i will look all over the place for him. no shame in wanting to be loved or even looking for a hook up. this chick is a b*tch.

                                                      • Kaptain Kid
                                                        Kaptain Kid  4 месяца назад

                                                        What is Tinder. Tender, I know, it is what a dollar bill is - it says so right on the front of it. It is also a song that Elvis Presley sang . . . Love me Tender. Bottom line, is why do people get sucked into Tinder, Facebook, etc . . . . . mindless sheep. You'll all get what you deserve in the end.

                                                        • Major Pane
                                                          Major Pane  6 месяцев назад

                                                          2:39 I thought I was the only one who saw it this way though. 27 years and 8months single...damn. Analogue dating rocks more than you can ever imagine...that way you don't neglect friendships, feel more human and connected with real people. You typically invest your time and effort in sustainable relationships and meaningful friendship. However, you can use tinder to meet new people and build your network. I love her closing, life is all about collaboration...we need the effort of both halves to make a whole

                                                          • Annie P.P.
                                                            Annie P.P.  7 месяцев назад


                                                            • DerTaktiker
                                                              DerTaktiker  7 месяцев назад

                                                              It is incredible how many comments here are downright derogatory, no matter the reason.

                                                              • alphamuc1979
                                                                alphamuc1979  10 месяцев назад

                                                                lovely, she is genuine and honest!

                                                                • Shawna Kaminski
                                                                  Shawna Kaminski  10 месяцев назад

                                                                  Jacky was a bit flat in her presentation but for all those that are leaving scathing remarks, perhaps we could assess your TED talk? It's not easy to get in front of an audience and share anything, let alone a personal story like this. She has a fun sense of humor and good message in the end.

                                                                  • Greta Brown
                                                                    Greta Brown  Месяц назад

                                                                    Shawna Kaminski I totally agree she was refreshing and funny and honest with herself

                                                                    • mjhmn
                                                                      mjhmn  10 месяцев назад

                                                                      She was good; very raw and real. And she ended it well with talking about mental health issues that are out there. Great job!

                                                                      • Greta Brown
                                                                        Greta Brown  Месяц назад

                                                                        mjhmn I agree she is honest and refreshing and I love that

                                                                        • csh2155
                                                                          csh2155  11 месяцев назад

                                                                          I can appreciate that Tinder would work for some people. Anyone open enough to enjoy relationships generally, esp extraverted types, will use whatever method they can. Tinder must work for many - but I would imagine self-pitying types and those prone to self-deprecation (whatever their reason for being so) will do less well.

                                                                          • Cristina Cernei
                                                                            Cristina Cernei  11 месяцев назад

                                                                            Loved her conclusion sentence.

                                                                            • gabriel gagne
                                                                              gabriel gagne  11 месяцев назад

                                                                              Helping people find love... how romantic:)

                                                                              • videovedo
                                                                                videovedo  11 месяцев назад

                                                                                3 minutes into this and apart from the fact that she's reading, and not in a very engaging way (but she doesn't have to be an exceptional talker or reader to potentially say something interesting,although this is, well, a "talk"), I can't stand the fact that nobody apparently told her where to stand on stage. She's so near the front row that cameras can't possibly have a good shot of her, we don't get to see her face properly, light splashes on her uncomfortably, and it all reminds me of how any stage performance desperately need at least a tiny bit of direction to work. It's challenging to the viewer's endurance, but I'll test mine. For solidarity with her evident shyness and effort and hoping she has something clever to deliver.

                                                                                • xm377Moyocoyatzin
                                                                                  xm377Moyocoyatzin  Год назад

                                                                                  What is she talking about?

                                                                                  • NightHawk
                                                                                    NightHawk  Год назад

                                                                                    This was like watching one of those presentations from school that I see from my lame classmates that don't know how to talk in public and read every word they say with the worst kind of motivation.

                                                                                    • omg hey there
                                                                                      omg hey there  Год назад

                                                                                      this is all so pathetic and sad,

                                                                                      • Brockt87
                                                                                        Brockt87  Год назад

                                                                                        TedTalks, in my opinion, should be for leading experts in specific areas to share their cutting edge knowledge that is unknown even to most of the highly educated public. This talk seems like the woman was picked at random to give a speech the next day, for her I know TedTalks has gone downhill somewhat, but this takes things to a whole new level. This is the longest TT I’ve seen out of literally over a hundred,.9Yet it says very little and the delivery leaves much to be desired.

                                                                                        • laken1804
                                                                                          laken1804  Год назад

                                                                                          Where you even present on those dates? Why are you reading from papers. Was any part of it memorable? Even the most boring date can be told better.

                                                                                          • Alan Pettyjohn
                                                                                            Alan Pettyjohn  Год назад

                                                                                            This was by far the most pathetic, sad, sorry excuse for a so called TED talk... This was simply a pathetic woman blabbing on about her pathetic life...

                                                                                            • Alan Pettyjohn
                                                                                              Alan Pettyjohn  Год назад

                                                                                              Crystal White is adorable...

                                                                                              • I Eligo
                                                                                                I Eligo  Год назад


                                                                                                • Alexander Matthews
                                                                                                  Alexander Matthews  Год назад

                                                                                                  You know there's guys out there like me ha ha I joined Tinder again but never get any matches....Oh so I'm not like you but all girls are dickheads just like the guys you met.....Oh until you meet the one good one.......?....I'm old and synicle

                                                                                                  • He, She & Cat
                                                                                                    He, She & Cat  Год назад

                                                                                                    Really like her sense of humour :) She feels like a nice friend

                                                                                                    • Niall McCarthy
                                                                                                      Niall McCarthy  Год назад

                                                                                                      WHY was she not time boxed???? Uggggh.. withered

                                                                                                      • Mister Nit Poker
                                                                                                        Mister Nit Poker  Год назад

                                                                                                        No bobs, no winning

                                                                                                        • Anilithun
                                                                                                          Anilithun  Год назад

                                                                                                          I love ted talks, but this first explanation of a guy whom was so booring, but neither of you two had any idea to spark up an real converastion. Immediatly you blame the other person, this kinda put me off your stories going onwards.

                                                                                                          • delta75 75
                                                                                                            delta75 75  Год назад

                                                                                                            I think she is cute and i am vegetarian too

                                                                                                            • Peter Alvin
                                                                                                              Peter Alvin  Год назад

                                                                                                              This motivates me to do a TED talk about my trip to the grocery store.

                                                                                                              • laserleftfoot ttt
                                                                                                                laserleftfoot ttt  18 дней назад

                                                                                                                Exactly my thoughts on Tinder

                                                                                                                • Mark
                                                                                                                  Mark  20 дней назад

                                                                                                                  She should be arrested for stalking

                                                                                                                  • Kimberly Adams
                                                                                                                    Kimberly Adams  24 дня назад

                                                                                                                    LOL LOL LOL perfectly said, Mr. Alvin!!

                                                                                                                    • DarthVader20201
                                                                                                                      DarthVader20201  7 месяцев назад

                                                                                                                      Uhh sarcasm

                                                                                                                      • Thomas Joseph
                                                                                                                        Thomas Joseph  9 месяцев назад

                                                                                                                        Can you teach us how to "Win" at going to the grocery store, too?

                                                                                                                        • Vincent FK Yap
                                                                                                                          Vincent FK Yap  Год назад

                                                                                                                          I really like the talk and the last 5 minutes is the best. Good job!

                                                                                                                          • Dean Champion
                                                                                                                            Dean Champion  Год назад

                                                                                                                            Why is the camera from the side, and almost the back of her head? That's so annoying, that along with her reading off of notes, dressing like a spinster librarian, and then lamenting dating options with a nearly imperceptible and monotone drone...

                                                                                                                            • Dean Champion
                                                                                                                              Dean Champion  Год назад

                                                                                                                              I had trouble finding a date, so the men in my country need more mental health resources? Wow. Just, WOW !!!

                                                                                                                              • Julian R
                                                                                                                                Julian R  Год назад

                                                                                                                                Hey Jacky, Thank you for sharing your story. It's important to see people for who they are, flaws and all. This was like a genuine look into another persons experience. There are a ton of Ted talks feeding information on how to be "better" but there is so much value in really hearing about how someone thinks, what drives their decisions. It's not about being right or perfect in making choices, whatever perfect may be. Its about broadening perspective and understanding through others. I personally would love suggestions of other videos in a similar vein, if anyone has some to offer. Thanks

                                                                                                                                • Dominic Keeley
                                                                                                                                  Dominic Keeley  Год назад

                                                                                                                                  This isn't a TED talk - it's like a terrible Tinder date...

                                                                                                                                  • Mike Colquhoun
                                                                                                                                    Mike Colquhoun  Год назад

                                                                                                                                    Brilliant - thank for being just you

                                                                                                                                    • Tatiana Dubinina
                                                                                                                                      Tatiana Dubinina  Год назад

                                                                                                                                      I am not a native English speaker, but I usually understend pretty everything, and I can't get if it was my bad that sometimes I lost the sense of the speech or it's her manner of speaking. Seriously. But some parts were quite funny, even though the talk has no actual point

                                                                                                                                      • Mary Pac
                                                                                                                                        Mary Pac  11 месяцев назад

                                                                                                                                        It's her manner of speaking. I'm not specialist on pronunciation norms within GB itself but it has something to do with it.

                                                                                                                                        • budyn333
                                                                                                                                          budyn333  Год назад

                                                                                                                                          I'd be friends with her

                                                                                                                                          • Violet Rain
                                                                                                                                            Violet Rain  Год назад


                                                                                                                                            • driftaaa
                                                                                                                                              driftaaa  Год назад

                                                                                                                                              Has this woman not looked in the mirror? She looks like the girl that crawled out of the Well from The Ring.

                                                                                                                                              • Big Hoss
                                                                                                                                                Big Hoss  7 месяцев назад

                                                                                                                                                Lol.. She does.

                                                                                                                                                • Mary Pac
                                                                                                                                                  Mary Pac  11 месяцев назад

                                                                                                                                                  What is the Well from the Ring? :D

                                                                                                                                                  • Kim Montenegro
                                                                                                                                                    Kim Montenegro  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                    Love her ending!! Tinder is a game but life should a collaboration.

                                                                                                                                                    • Tentacles
                                                                                                                                                      Tentacles  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                      So, she throw away 90% of the guys and then complain. Maybe if she accepted she's not between the 10% most good looking women (she said it herself, it's about judge people by appearance when you first choose wich side to switch). Not suprisingle, societies best looking, top performing people are not very lenient towards us mediocre looking majority - next time, look for someone normal if you want normal behaviour.

                                                                                                                                                      • You Tube Member
                                                                                                                                                        You Tube Member  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                        She's fantastic.. love her honestly.. & such a lovely compassionate girl.. just up there winging it! One of the best Ted talks that aren't totally attention seeking & the poor me carryon. She's so funny, real & gives me hope. The ups and downs of Tinder are off the scale.. it does take over your life. Thank you so much for this. Also the unexpected twist at the end.. I love her epathy towards these men.. she truly seems like a lovely human being. xx

                                                                                                                                                        • Jesse Brodie
                                                                                                                                                          Jesse Brodie  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                          Women need to learn to communicate directly how they actually feel and take agency for their actions

                                                                                                                                                          • pkramerable
                                                                                                                                                            pkramerable  Год назад


                                                                                                                                                            • Always Himself
                                                                                                                                                              Always Himself  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                              TED may want to screen their speakers before putting someone on stage. WORST. SPEAKER. EVER.

                                                                                                                                                              • Burner Fire
                                                                                                                                                                Burner Fire  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                The only thing of value I got from this is Pleco

                                                                                                                                                                • Greta Brown
                                                                                                                                                                  Greta Brown  Месяц назад

                                                                                                                                                                  Well you got something didn’t you,

                                                                                                                                                                  • Vincent Quill
                                                                                                                                                                    Vincent Quill  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                    I liked the human presentation. The subject matter was interesting and the bravery level immense. Hope you and ur rock climbing man are still enjoying each others company :-)

                                                                                                                                                                    • Gerpir Feilan
                                                                                                                                                                      Gerpir Feilan  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                      Most boring Ted talk I've ever listen.

                                                                                                                                                                      • Occassional Vibrations
                                                                                                                                                                        Occassional Vibrations  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                        I think the fact that it's not a polished presentation makes this talk more engaging, like listening to someone tell a story in the pub rather than a Lecturer at a conference. She seems like a very interesting person despite her assertions to the contrary, also very funny with a self-effacing streak, which is always a good trait in my experience. My guess is that she probably told this story to someone, who then convinced her to do this, as she seems like an introvert, probably not used to speaking to audiences all that much. Her segue into Mental Health issues at the end was tenuous but I suppose it made some kind of sense, regardless of whether you think her assumption of her therapy sessions/dates being mentally ill actually are true, she is still discussing a very real problem, which at least brought it a little above just an anecdotal talk. At least she tried, basically.

                                                                                                                                                                        • R. Mora
                                                                                                                                                                          R. Mora  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                          She is hilarious!

                                                                                                                                                                          • missheath000
                                                                                                                                                                            missheath000  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                            I was listening to this from autoplay on a run and literally had to stop 3 times because I was laughing so hard. She is someone I would totally be friends with.

                                                                                                                                                                            • Occassional Vibrations
                                                                                                                                                                              Occassional Vibrations  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                              thought that myself to be honest, refreshing to see someone up there who is a bit of a mess in the best possible way

                                                                                                                                                                              • Frederick Noronha
                                                                                                                                                                                Frederick Noronha  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                                Interesting. Well put. An interesting, understated sense of humour. The ability to laugh at oneself too... Disagree strongly with the (condescending?) comment saying that Toastmasters could help someone speak better. This talk comes out as authentic and genuine, I'd prefer it any day to the showiness of a Toastmaster's product.

                                                                                                                                                                                • Edward Hitten
                                                                                                                                                                                  Edward Hitten  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                                  I like her look.

                                                                                                                                                                                  • Frederick FN Noronha
                                                                                                                                                                                    Frederick FN Noronha  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                                    Interesting. Well put. An interesting, understated sense of humour. The ability to laugh at oneself too... Disagree strongly with the (condescending?) comment saying that Toastmasters could help someone speak better. This talk comes out as authentic and genuine, I'd prefer it anyday to the showiness of a Toastmaster's product.

                                                                                                                                                                                    • John Kessler
                                                                                                                                                                                      John Kessler  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                                      Wow. I thought I was bad at dating. Well, I am still bad at it, but not that bad!

                                                                                                                                                                                      • Marty Neal
                                                                                                                                                                                        Marty Neal  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                                        Small nit pick, facebook was around in 2005, though it had only just started.

                                                                                                                                                                                        • Śūn yatā
                                                                                                                                                                                          Śūn yatā  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                                          What about telling the truth ? :D

                                                                                                                                                                                          • Asil Eroom
                                                                                                                                                                                            Asil Eroom  Год назад

                                                                                                                                                                                            Wait, this whole talk was about mental health?