Owning Alone: conquering your fear of being solo: Teresa Rodriguez at TEDxWilmington

  • Published: 13 September 2013
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Comments • 608

  • W R
    W R  23 시간 전

    "World peace through individual happiness."

    • mary ann carrlton

      Their is an absolutely small percentage of humans who love being alone, not lonely. They thrive on being alone. Hallelujah. Think Tesla

      • charlou
        charlou  일 전

        Amsterdam was my high street. Be.

        • Ramesh Seecharan
          Ramesh Seecharan  일 전

          Interesting therapeutic talk & travels for the speaker.... but the Speaker needs to understand that she should never rely on the validation of others to feel comfortable with herself (her hair example ) nor should she succumb to the negative criticisms of others on her life journey. Stop living in the Matrix. Do enjoy your travels and adventures...

          • John Villafranca
            John Villafranca  3 일 전


            • Sarah Pearce
              Sarah Pearce  6 일 전

              your talk is negative aginast those who seek help in the pych hospital. many mental health consumers have no choice to get treatment. You also said there is nothing worse than being metally ill in the hospital. Millions suffer from mental health issues and the bravest of those are hospital survivors. You didn't empower me with this talk whatsoever. Sounds like a priviledged pity party talk.

              • Kathleen Donahue
                Kathleen Donahue  6 일 전

                I love this!!!! Thank you!!!! Strangely, despite me being alone, I do not feel alone ❤️

                • Dark_Architect1
                  Dark_Architect1  8 일 전

                  Im 23 years old, just got divorced after 1 year of mirrage, car broke down, and lost my job all in 2 months. Being alone is scary but i think its my best chance to grow as a person and be happy with no responsibility.

                  • brian trend
                    brian trend  11 일 전

                    get a dog and get rid of the bbc works everytime oh and move out of your libtaaaard county

                    • Jim Flagg
                      Jim Flagg  13 일 전

                      I thought you had to be brave to be with someone. People are hard.

                      • Jonathan Tang
                        Jonathan Tang  13 일 전

                        Thank you, im currently going through a divorce and will be relocating to a very new location to work there. This rly has given me alot of strength and reinforcement. Thank You.

                        • Razane Jahjah
                          Razane Jahjah  13 일 전

                          🎹 👏👏👏👏👏

                          • Timothy Alan
                            Timothy Alan  15 일 전

                            but what if i already knew all of what was said..

                            • Alessandra Verduzco
                              Alessandra Verduzco  18 일 전

                              I'm full of shame and I hate it.

                              • Bea
                                Bea  19 일 전

                                well lady, good on you. but toward the end. I want to know about your experience and not you to tell me what to do alone...just tell me your history and leave the rest "up to me"

                                • pimpiyaya
                                  pimpiyaya  20 일 전

                                  "it is the space between the notes that makes the music".

                                  • Natalja Petrova
                                    Natalja Petrova  23 일 전

                                    Teresa ..dear ..So reach U are That's treasure is Urself ..U cannot be solo ..U deserve a great Him..

                                    • Terri Brown
                                      Terri Brown  24 일 전

                                      Well I'm a broke person so I AINT GOING NO WHERE so this didn't make me feel no better

                                      • ottis spunkmire
                                        ottis spunkmire  25 일 전

                                        Think about how long it would take somebody to actually find my body if I did die. I can go weeks without talking to anybody. Besides the clerk at the grocery store twice a month. Retired veteran I'm 35, an It's been empty without the army.

                                        • Lisa Edson
                                          Lisa Edson  일 전

                                          What would it matter after you are dead? I thought about that also.

                                          • Liz
                                            Liz  26 일 전

                                            Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It was beautiful and uplifting.

                                            • Lisa Guerra
                                              Lisa Guerra  27 일 전

                                              Ouch! Poor lady thank you for sharing your growth with us. You are a great lady. Bravo. I know that hurt so badly. I’m so proud of you for your victory!

                                              • My3LovesJSA
                                                My3LovesJSA  29 일 전

                                                So beautiful.., thank You 🙏❤️

                                                • Brittney Ann
                                                  Brittney Ann  개월 전

                                                  I love this chick

                                                  • Sarv Grover
                                                    Sarv Grover  개월 전

                                                    Passion for God make us real, show us the direction of bravery.Thanks for sharing

                                                    • Paula C
                                                      Paula C  개월 전

                                                      I know how she feels my whole body just shut down for two weeks..could not breathe! Never ever felt like that before. God men ain't sh--t!

                                                      • w0bblyd0inkb0ink
                                                        w0bblyd0inkb0ink  개월 전

                                                        I eat alone, and happy

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                                                          • RoomWithAView
                                                            RoomWithAView  개월 전

                                                            I solo travel often, but this video really put into words what happens when you commit to your dreams and vision for yourself.

                                                            • chana gnanesh
                                                              chana gnanesh  개월 전

                                                              Thank you 💛

                                                              • João Gadelha
                                                                João Gadelha  개월 전

                                                                What a hot mama

                                                                • Anthony
                                                                  Anthony  개월 전

                                                                  so in order for me to stop feeling alone, I need to fly to london??

                                                                  • Jessica Dead
                                                                    Jessica Dead  개월 전

                                                                    Holy sheet that's brutal

                                                                    • Karla Shoultz
                                                                      Karla Shoultz  개월 전

                                                                      Hahaha, this is for single and well off people

                                                                      • Taurus Dime
                                                                        Taurus Dime  개월 전

                                                                        I truly believe my hair is shedding because of stress as well

                                                                        • james vincent
                                                                          james vincent  개월 전

                                                                          This video only works when it comes from a woman. The message that "you don't need a man because they are the toxic gender" has been broadly accepted by our collective unconscious. From a man it just wouldn't feel right. It might even feel vaguely sexist.

                                                                          • Alicia Page
                                                                            Alicia Page  개월 전

                                                                            Easy, all it took was a gaming addict. He gamed upon life insurance with enthusiasm. Cancelled, he'll cry thinking that he'll never get that money. Motivation, he'll be looked at with much interest considering his creepy behavior patterns. Ain't even trusting doctors, ain't trusting anyone. Trust was broken by an ex-husband. Men's only divorce means let him leave, it means good riddance and an opportunity to be a stronger woman alone. Let men think their great at relationships, they're delusional.

                                                                            • Patricio The Great
                                                                              Patricio The Great  개월 전

                                                                              I would sell my soul for every woman to get cancer and die

                                                                              • setti fiori
                                                                                setti fiori  개월 전

                                                                                Excellent story and more common then anyone thinks

                                                                                • SCL75
                                                                                  SCL75  개월 전

                                                                                  Thank you for sharing your story Teresa. You are a strong woman. I’m 43 man and although my struggle is not with someone else, but a struggle with myself. I’ve lost my way but working towards finding it. This was a helpful piece to add to my stash of enlightening videos.

                                                                                  • cherubin7th
                                                                                    cherubin7th  개월 전

                                                                                    Love and trust are toxic concepts. No one ever loves anyone and trust is always build on misinformation.

                                                                                    • Marcus Ervin
                                                                                      Marcus Ervin  개월 전

                                                                                      Solitude is Truly brave and beneficial

                                                                                      • Matt Maksimik
                                                                                        Matt Maksimik  개월 전

                                                                                        Nice to be able to travel to heal your middle class woes.

                                                                                        • Elizabeth K
                                                                                          Elizabeth K  개월 전

                                                                                          Divorced 30 years with never a desire to cohabit with anyone again. Love living alone. At 71 I occasionally wonder about having no one around if I should fall ill...but still no desire to live with someone.

                                                                                          • Lisa Edson
                                                                                            Lisa Edson  일 전

                                                                                            I'm like that also. I divorced at age 30 and now I am 58 and no desire to remarry. I love my peace.

                                                                                            • John Lothrop
                                                                                              John Lothrop  개월 전

                                                                                              I have severe depression very suicidal. I can relate. I am petrified of being with "someone" than being alone. I feel more alive being alone and living in the present.

                                                                                              • KLJF
                                                                                                KLJF  개월 전

                                                                                                I LOVE ((34))

                                                                                                • Debra Jesses Mom
                                                                                                  Debra Jesses Mom  개월 전

                                                                                                  This lady has money to travel. How about the average woman who can’t travel because she works for a living.

                                                                                                  • Sarah Klein
                                                                                                    Sarah Klein  개월 전

                                                                                                    Debra Jesses Mom oh Debra.. it was her saved Wedding Money.. i hope you heal and one Day get her Message..

                                                                                                    • Carrie Snyder
                                                                                                      Carrie Snyder  개월 전

                                                                                                      Ugh that’s ALL you got from her story debra?? She took the money from her WEDDING that didn’t go through, it probably took awhile to save up for that. It’s not like she was just gifted with all this travel and was born in luxury. You know less than 5% of this woman’s life and story.

                                                                                                      • Teresa Rodriguez
                                                                                                        Teresa Rodriguez  개월 전

                                                                                                        Dear Debra, How do you know how much money I have? As a matter of fact, I am a single mom doing my best to show the world to my 8 year old daughter. A part of my mental healthcare is taking time off to regroup and catch my breath. I use sites like hopper that give me the lowest prices available, I don't base my travel on a place, but on a price. I use my miles, and I find places to stay that are safe and don't cost a fortune. I stay with friends. As for working for a living, so do I. Last year I had 18 different clients--that's 18 1099s I had to file! How did I do it? I managed my time, I made motherhood and travel a priority.

                                                                                                        • Wa MI
                                                                                                          Wa MI  개월 전

                                                                                                          It's the space between the notes that makes the music.

                                                                                                          • Beryl Walubengo
                                                                                                            Beryl Walubengo  개월 전

                                                                                                            Being faithful to ourselves is the most challenging part

                                                                                                            • --
                                                                                                              --  개월 전

                                                                                                              [4:17] And this is where I walk out of the TEDx Talk. I don't care.

                                                                                                              • Teresa Rodriguez
                                                                                                                Teresa Rodriguez  개월 전

                                                                                                                Hopefully you walked out and went somewhere that inspired you or wrote your own amazing story! - Teresa

                                                                                                                • Cordell Haywood
                                                                                                                  Cordell Haywood  2 개월 전


                                                                                                                  • fati fleur
                                                                                                                    fati fleur  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                    We come to this life alone we will leave it alone this is a good lesson👌

                                                                                                                    • Claire Oconor
                                                                                                                      Claire Oconor  개월 전

                                                                                                                      fati fleur. THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN GUARANTEE TO WAKE UP WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS YOURSELF, SO GET TO KNOWN YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. I LOVE THIS QUOTE BECAUSE IT IS SO VERY TRUE!

                                                                                                                      • Maya Alsir
                                                                                                                        Maya Alsir  개월 전

                                                                                                                        fati fleur big facts

                                                                                                                        • Mark Jones
                                                                                                                          Mark Jones  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                          We started off talking about being hospital sad and we finished on how to take a vacation. That was an odd video.

                                                                                                                          • Katina W
                                                                                                                            Katina W  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                            I’m in tears watching this!Going through this at this moment and it’s so devastating!

                                                                                                                            • Teresa Rodriguez
                                                                                                                              Teresa Rodriguez  개월 전

                                                                                                                              Katina, thanks for you honesty. You too will get through this. Sending you love and light. - Teresa

                                                                                                                              • Joe Billielo
                                                                                                                                Joe Billielo  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                Are you serious?!?! You bitches do this to men on a daily basis, GET OVER IT FOR GOD'S SAKE!!!!! Boy, the stories I can tell could make a movie!!!!

                                                                                                                                • Teresa Rodriguez
                                                                                                                                  Teresa Rodriguez  개월 전

                                                                                                                                  @Cordell Haywood thank you. :-) Teresa

                                                                                                                                  • Cordell Haywood
                                                                                                                                    Cordell Haywood  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                    Morning. It's her Story..Tell your Story. Do you have a you tube channel?

                                                                                                                                    • Tombrosapien
                                                                                                                                      Tombrosapien  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                      It’s not the fear I need to conquer, it’s the BOREDOM of being alone ☠️

                                                                                                                                      • N. Starr
                                                                                                                                        N. Starr  개월 전

                                                                                                                                        Feel the same

                                                                                                                                        • Bawomie Beyan
                                                                                                                                          Bawomie Beyan  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                          Tombro no

                                                                                                                                          • schmoo
                                                                                                                                            schmoo  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                            Ive honestly never experienced that

                                                                                                                                            • Yunyan Anita Gu
                                                                                                                                              Yunyan Anita Gu  2 개월 전


                                                                                                                                              • Tracy Simoneau
                                                                                                                                                Tracy Simoneau  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                The part that you said you would rather be on time then lose a bolt goes with my mother's Theory if you're stuck in traffic behind an old lady there's a reason she's preventing you from fighting the destiny that's about to hit you if you are not patient around an old lady there's going to be an accident are you get pulled over by a police officer because you were doing something my mother's theory is always kept me protected and always gave me the protection of other people and myself there's always a reason you're stuck behind your old lady

                                                                                                                                                • Fancy S
                                                                                                                                                  Fancy S  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                  This video wasn't about being alone as an individual but about traveling alone. I've been alone most of my life and I've travelled alone many times. Travelling alone never helped me get over being lonely when I returned home. Don't take advice from this woman. My sense was that she is in denial and still needs medical help. There's no shame in getting help if you're depressed or struggling emotionally, Discovering new cultures won't help you feel better when you're miserable about being lonely. Quotes too many people and if you're dropping names at least get the name right it's Claude Debussy not Deboosy.

                                                                                                                                                  • mmaxud
                                                                                                                                                    mmaxud  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                    Everybody is alone... All forms of relationships are just an illusion...

                                                                                                                                                    • Flow3r Girls
                                                                                                                                                      Flow3r Girls  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                      Litteraly my thoughts on life

                                                                                                                                                      • bryan casallas
                                                                                                                                                        bryan casallas  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                        We are all one, no one is alone, we are all the same 🌟

                                                                                                                                                        • Aysa, R
                                                                                                                                                          Aysa, R  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                          I do everything alone.

                                                                                                                                                          • martysk8r
                                                                                                                                                            martysk8r  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                            Women want to travel, but men have to work. So, they're alone.

                                                                                                                                                            • Nik
                                                                                                                                                              Nik  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                              As an Australian female I can affirm Australian men are ALL ASSHOLES !!!!!!!!!!!

                                                                                                                                                              • P R little B
                                                                                                                                                                P R little B  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                I have NO CHOICE but to do things alone.

                                                                                                                                                                • Claire Oconor
                                                                                                                                                                  Claire Oconor  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                  P R little B.

                                                                                                                                                                  • Egle Davidsoniene
                                                                                                                                                                    Egle Davidsoniene  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                    Being alone so sad story, sad sad sad peoples life should be. In my case while I am waiting my couple I am razing daughter alone. After some time I hope I will have my other side and more children. I wish all solitary people to hope, waite and achieve to have wife or her housbent. Thank you.

                                                                                                                                                                    • NHJ 210
                                                                                                                                                                      NHJ 210  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                      Absolutely love this.

                                                                                                                                                                      • Michele Docherty
                                                                                                                                                                        Michele Docherty  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                        This all sounds great, but what if you can't afford to travel somewhere else?

                                                                                                                                                                        • elaine abreu
                                                                                                                                                                          elaine abreu  2 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                          She said even going to the movies. You would be surprised how little we actually see our environment. Explore your own environment the way a child does.

                                                                                                                                                                          • Marz Attarwala
                                                                                                                                                                            Marz Attarwala  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                            Nice talk👍🏽. Things happen for a reason in our life and a positive attitude can make all the difference! Thanks for sharing!🙏🏼 Marz

                                                                                                                                                                            • monchichiyoshi
                                                                                                                                                                              monchichiyoshi  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                              When the guy saw an American woman plan a wedding he changed his mind.

                                                                                                                                                                              • mynameisnat1
                                                                                                                                                                                mynameisnat1  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                                Did she just say Deboosy?

                                                                                                                                                                                • The Crown Podcast
                                                                                                                                                                                  The Crown Podcast  3 개월 전


                                                                                                                                                                                  • rasto
                                                                                                                                                                                    rasto  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                                    i am crying and feeling better now

                                                                                                                                                                                    • Angel Rose
                                                                                                                                                                                      Angel Rose  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                                      Wow! This video truly inspired me. It’s funny how sometimes we judge things too quickly. At first I wasn’t very interested in keeping the video rolling but a few minutes in and I felt very connected to what she was saying. Beautiful words.

                                                                                                                                                                                      • Teresa Rodriguez
                                                                                                                                                                                        Teresa Rodriguez  개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                                        Thank you Angel Rose. :-) You made my day. - Teresa

                                                                                                                                                                                        • LornaSNSP
                                                                                                                                                                                          LornaSNSP  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                                          This was about travelling alone. Not about being alone.

                                                                                                                                                                                          • Kiran Grewal
                                                                                                                                                                                            Kiran Grewal  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                                            Thanks Teresa....Xoxo....🌻🌻🌻🌻

                                                                                                                                                                                            • C. Smith
                                                                                                                                                                                              C. Smith  3 개월 전

                                                                                                                                                                                              It's wonderful. Don't be afraid.