8 Signs of a Toxic Friendship | Sharon Livingston | TEDxWilmingtonWomen

  • Published: 21 December 2016
  • There are stories of people with bullets in their head who don’t even know it.
    Many more people are living with toxic friendships without even knowing it.
    Knowing the 8 signs of a toxic friendship can help you avoid them.
    Dr. Sharon Livingston is founder and president of The Livingston Group for Marketing, Inc., a brand marketing research company that implements projective techniques to discover and strengthen the relationship between Fortune 100 products and their consumers. Sharon also wrote “Get Lost Girlfriend: How I Found Myself When My Best Friend Dumped Me”. In spite of her professional success, Sharon found herself in a toxic friendship - a friendship she treasured turned out to be deeply harmful. Turning to business principles in branding and working on her own personal brand, she learned new ways to care for herself emotionally. Sharon has determined that toxic friendships are identifiable, that you CAN heal and protect yourself from poisonous people in the future.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Comments • 1 385

  • LINDA M.
    LINDA M.  4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You may not want to use TEDX to vent.

    • Spartacas
      Spartacas  4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I feel like I can’t relate to her feelings of holding on for dear life for a friendship. I’ve never had any experience where I would spend so much time worrying about a simple friendship. Is it just me?

      • Anna K
        Anna K  6 วันที่ผ่านมา

        Your friend, spouse , parents and kids can betray you. That's the way people are, you see. The only person who loves you the most is Jesus, because he died for you; and so, he is your best friend. Read the Bible everyday particularly whenever you feel lonely because God will talk to u through the Bible because it is God's word and u will no longer feel lonely. Tell the Lord everything, he absolutely delights in hearing about whatever is happening in your life because he is our Father and he is a living God and he responds.

        • james
          james  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

          Well I’m sorry to tell your imaginary friend isn’t real

          • bdflatlander
            bdflatlander  9 วันที่ผ่านมา

            Going thru the ending of a friendship is a hard, hard thing to do. I am doing it now - someone who I had been very close (we even called each other our “best friends” and even “brothers”) for 40+ years. Starting about ten years ago something changed between us - I’m not exactly sure what it was or specifically when it happened. Maybe it was just life that happened and it pulled us in different directions. But anyway, a series of events happened that clearly told me, it spite of me trying to deny it, that our friendship had seriously degraded. Finally, in the midst of these events, a final straw event happened that caused me to have an epiphany about this friendship: we were no longer close friends nor did I want us to be. I began the process of pulling away from the friendship so as not to be hurt anymore by this guy. While I am in some ways sad that it came to this, I am actually happier that I am not regularly interacting with this former friend any more. The way I see it is that all human relationships are subject to change and even termination, even with family.

            • Dr. Sharon
              Dr. Sharon  8 วันที่ผ่านมา

              Makes total sense. thanks for reflecting here.

              • Maximus Wolf
                Maximus Wolf  9 วันที่ผ่านมา

                I have a friend that I’ve been best friends with for 20 years yet it seems to be crumbling. I’ve changed and grown as a person, yet she has remained the same, childlike behavior since preschool. I feel like though at this point it’s too late to confront her. Idk what do do honestly

                • Dr. Sharon
                  Dr. Sharon  8 วันที่ผ่านมา

                  Is it worth trying to talk to her about it?

                  • RiverRocks NatureLady
                    RiverRocks NatureLady  10 วันที่ผ่านมา

                    Fantastic talk , thank you!!

                    • Nomore Tears
                      Nomore Tears  10 วันที่ผ่านมา

                      When a friend, family member or even a stranger projects themselves onto you is a huge sign that you are in the presence of a toxic person. “ If they show you who they are, believe them the first time” Maya Angelou

                      • sexy radxroger
                        sexy radxroger  10 วันที่ผ่านมา

                        anazee ty

                        • blissfulbaboon
                          blissfulbaboon  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

                          I love me I love me I love me

                          • Shivaan Nair
                            Shivaan Nair  11 วันที่ผ่านมา

                            Thank you

                            • mreloo
                              mreloo  14 วันที่ผ่านมา

                              many times a toxic friend is a covert narsicist...and these demons can cause severe stress and. . autoimmune disease ..& cancer ...very dangerous

                              • Girls Ballet
                                Girls Ballet  16 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                I wish I had seen this six months ago when my friend did almost the exact same thing (except I friend dumped her)

                                • Ammar Saeed
                                  Ammar Saeed  17 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                  Is it me or It feels like she's gossiping about her own friend here on TED talk 🤷‍♂️

                                  • loneranger 5
                                    loneranger 5  18 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                    I spent years in friendships with narcissistic people....what i learnt the most about this was that i chose them and while choosing these kind of friendships i rejected kind lovely friendships...i did this to myself. I am responsible for the people i let into my life.

                                    • Louise
                                      Louise  18 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                      I wonder why all the thumbs down? If this applies to you , search youtube for info on narcissists.

                                      • Dr. Sharon
                                        Dr. Sharon  13 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                        I did this as an experiment. Never expected it to be so widely viewed. Relationships and friendships are so important to us. In retrospect, it makes sense that it touched a nerve. Wishing you loving friends and relationships

                                        • Dr. Sharon
                                          Dr. Sharon  13 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                          Hi Louise and thank you. A good ration of thumbs up to thumbs down is anything greater than 4 -> 1. This video scores 13 -> 1 which is excellent. There are always nay sayers. And yes. There are lots of narcissists.

                                          • Becca
                                            Becca  18 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                            Thank you for this talk. I've been through quite a few friend break-ups and it kills me everytime. I like how she mentioned that it's unfair how society undermines friend break-ups because they are just as crushing as relationship break-ups

                                            • JZWALZ51 ROBIN
                                              JZWALZ51 ROBIN  18 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                              Me: when my 'best friend' finds a significant other and starts ignoring me/us. Probably happens a lot when people get married...

                                              • Kay Paton
                                                Kay Paton  20 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                What if it your sister? Not as easy to avoid

                                                • Dr. Sharon
                                                  Dr. Sharon  19 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                  Right. AND you have to take even better care o yourself in that case.

                                                  • juniperlista
                                                    juniperlista  20 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                    The way I got the bullet out of my head was to write a letter, years after the fact, telling her what I really thought of her and enumerating her flaws, I didn't pull any punches. She never did with me. This person is a malignant narcissist so I know it cut her to the quick. It allowed me to let go of all of the toxic anger and contempt I had been carrying with me for years. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

                                                    • Darla Long
                                                      Darla Long  20 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                      Have been having this fantasy... when your with this kind of person, start digging thru your purse.... they'll say, what are you looking for?" I say... my BS detector, must have left it at home"😂

                                                      • Dr. Sharon
                                                        Dr. Sharon  19 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                        LOLOL! good

                                                        • Gillian Semple
                                                          Gillian Semple  20 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                          Ugh! Multiple bullets to the head from toxic friends. All versions of my Mother. On the road to healing. :)

                                                          • Dr. Sharon
                                                            Dr. Sharon  19 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                            Right. I understand . . . Good for you for recognizing it.

                                                            • Becca Boo
                                                              Becca Boo  21 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                              Off topic but I love her hair sm

                                                              • Dr. Sharon
                                                                Dr. Sharon  20 วันที่ผ่านมา


                                                                • Gus Alcon
                                                                  Gus Alcon  21 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                  If you have got a so-called friend who when he or she leaves you end up feeling low then you have got to get rid of that one if you are in times of need and you call your so-called friends yet nobody's there for you consider yourself lucky for you are by yourself and it's better to walk alone then with a parasite by your side.

                                                                  • Sandrine Georg
                                                                    Sandrine Georg  25 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                    This is perfect

                                                                    • Aariyan096
                                                                      Aariyan096  25 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                      I think toxic friends also reach out maybe more than you, but at times it could be to do what they want. Mood swings is the hard part too.

                                                                      • michael schinasi
                                                                        michael schinasi  25 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                        I can’t stop butting “a bullet in my head” I’m to obsessed with this person. I can’t leave him. We just got into another argument. I’m having like none stop anger and panic attacks. After all I told him all of my secrets. Help😢

                                                                        • soph galv
                                                                          soph galv  27 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                          When you cant stop thinking about someone and become obsessed with them You know something is wrong. There is a conditional aspect to the friendship.

                                                                          • soph galv
                                                                            soph galv  27 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                            I have a friend that tells you all the best things you 'want to hear' its a never ending stroking ego and when you start joking banter suddenly they become sensitive and 'i only want love' They want me in their life and do not want to come into mine? Meanwhile, this newly single friend wants *R n' R* and doesnt want to commit. I amazingly wonder to myself how much of who I am is just there to make this person feel the way they want?

                                                                            • Dr. Sharon
                                                                              Dr. Sharon  22 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                              What would help you feel the way you want in your friendships. What do you think would be better for you? You're important in this too.

                                                                              • Jackie Lendel
                                                                                Jackie Lendel  27 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                1.3k toxic people unliked

                                                                                • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                  Dr. Sharon  22 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                  You are so cute!!

                                                                                  • Pigeon
                                                                                    Pigeon  28 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                    she looks like the word Raddish

                                                                                    • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                      Dr. Sharon  26 วันที่ผ่านมา


                                                                                      • Snazzy Doggo
                                                                                        Snazzy Doggo  29 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                        This video; Lists everything I unknowingly do and calls it a toxic friend ship Me; oh he might be me

                                                                                        • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                          Dr. Sharon  22 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                          Toxic types aren't the ones who question whether or not it's them.

                                                                                          • adrianne sembrano
                                                                                            adrianne sembrano  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                            its sad when your bestfriend youve been friends with for over 11 years choosing to date your ex she knows your inlove with but thinks "it was so long ago" that your feelings dont even matter!

                                                                                            • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                              Dr. Sharon  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                              soooo sorry. that hurts a lot

                                                                                              • Christina Jackson
                                                                                                Christina Jackson  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                The easiest quickest way to tell is, do you feel better or worse when you leave their side? If you feel bad upwards of 50% of the times you hang out or chat, then there is a pattern. Take some minor distance and evaluate your own well-being. This also goes for romantic relationships, doctors, and therapist. Pretty much anyone and anything, including food.

                                                                                                • Kay Paton
                                                                                                  Kay Paton  19 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                                  I totally get this very well written . If they drain you emotionally step out. By looking for the red flags you might avoid being more hurt

                                                                                                  • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                    Dr. Sharon  21 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                                    Very well put Christina

                                                                                                    • liveyourchance
                                                                                                      liveyourchance  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                      I really liked the talk. But a very misleading title

                                                                                                      • Anuja Maniyala
                                                                                                        Anuja Maniyala  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                        One word for this video "Amazing" ....

                                                                                                        • rose mary
                                                                                                          rose mary  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                          I tried searching for videos like this at my shutting down phase of my depression. I'm trying to contemplate myself whether my bff is a toxic friend because we really went through tough times and now that we don't see each other it seems like we lost the connection we once had.

                                                                                                          • rose mary
                                                                                                            rose mary  18 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                                            @Dr. Sharon I do dance and enjoy music also, it's kinda therapeutic :)

                                                                                                            • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                              Dr. Sharon  20 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                                              @rose mary I'm happy to hear. Life is challenging and more so some times than others. Do you dance? It's a great way to feel connected and there are inexpensive places in most cities to learn the type you like. I'm a fan of Tango. Just started at the beginning of this year and Im now a huge fan

                                                                                                              • rose mary
                                                                                                                rose mary  21 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                                                @Dr. Sharon thanks Dr. Sharon, im doing better than last week :)

                                                                                                                • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                                  Dr. Sharon  22 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                                                  so sorry Rose Mary

                                                                                                                  • Beautiful Imperfections
                                                                                                                    Beautiful Imperfections  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                    Thats why i dont have friends lol get a dog people 😁

                                                                                                                    • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                                      Dr. Sharon  22 วันที่ผ่านมา

                                                                                                                      There's def something to be said for a dog!

                                                                                                                      • B L
                                                                                                                        B L  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                        I’m the opposite....I don’t feel the need for friends

                                                                                                                        • Mervyn Binder
                                                                                                                          Mervyn Binder  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                          How do you know.... Tht youve just lost the best friend you couldv had ever who wasn't toxic?

                                                                                                                          • Elijah Agui
                                                                                                                            Elijah Agui  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                            The hardest part, at least for me now, is whether or not I should believe what I am hearing and thinking. Because it all sounds way too familiar....

                                                                                                                            • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                                              Dr. Sharon  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                              It gets better

                                                                                                                              • Anna Steele
                                                                                                                                Anna Steele  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                I would need to do this outside Iceland. But my life has been very interesting from age 4 when my mother took my to Iceland without my father's permission. 😉thank you for this. Regards from Iceland Anna Lin Steele

                                                                                                                                • R D
                                                                                                                                  R D  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                  They call you more than you call them, they visit unannounced, they talk about their problems all the time, you delete their number, you decline all their invites, they talk about other ppl personal business, they are emotionally draining all the time, they live in the past repeating stories endlessly and forever, they ask how are you then they talk about their problems. 🤷

                                                                                                                                  • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                                                    Dr. Sharon  หลายเดือนก่อน


                                                                                                                                    • VisualxxKhaos
                                                                                                                                      VisualxxKhaos  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                      She's a terrible story-teller/speaker. I get the point, just it feels like she barely said anything coherent

                                                                                                                                      • pamela reyes
                                                                                                                                        pamela reyes  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                        The best way to identify them is when you feel anxiety before meeting them...

                                                                                                                                        • irgendwieanders1
                                                                                                                                          irgendwieanders1  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                          she is her own best friend, I`m my own worst enemy.

                                                                                                                                          • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                                                            Dr. Sharon  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                            Awwwww. Time to see how good you are even and particularly if you're not perfect!

                                                                                                                                            • Baby Bunny
                                                                                                                                              Baby Bunny  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                              Emotional bully. That's what she was. Has taken 7 months to work through the pain, but I have hope.

                                                                                                                                              • Tina Lanquist Journey's n Journal's
                                                                                                                                                Tina Lanquist Journey's n Journal's  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                Tht was awesome

                                                                                                                                                • Sasukei Kun
                                                                                                                                                  Sasukei Kun  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                  its true once u cut off these toxic bonds there nothing in this world NOTHING THAT CAN DESTROY YOU your r your own best friend!!

                                                                                                                                                  • Mariah Conklin
                                                                                                                                                    Mariah Conklin  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                    I was my own best friend one time and I felt a lot more happier. I’m going to do this again

                                                                                                                                                    • Sumi Chowdhury
                                                                                                                                                      Sumi Chowdhury  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                      Thank you for your piece of advice

                                                                                                                                                      • gardintyven
                                                                                                                                                        gardintyven  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                        I had a friend who asked every week if I wanted to hang out. I didn't have time for that and I didn't want that. I got tired of rejecting her all the time. I had to let her go.

                                                                                                                                                        • dan horne
                                                                                                                                                          dan horne  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                          No comment .

                                                                                                                                                          • AnimusFlux
                                                                                                                                                            AnimusFlux  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                            I've had so many toxic friends that nearly destroyed my life. Now I see them coming from a mile away. My last NEW friendship started last year and it was just like this lady says: We connected and felt so happy around each other BUT very quickly I started to see red flags, which I would have ignored years ago. I was on high alert and was taking mental notes everytime this friend said or did something that rubbed me the wrong way or felt "wrong" somehow. Finally after just a couple months I saw the first major indicator of behaviours to come in a lie she told me (over something so unimportant) and that was all I needed to get out. This woman was actually a nice person but the red flags were everywhere.

                                                                                                                                                            • Xiao Ley
                                                                                                                                                              Xiao Ley  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                              Fact may be that u needed to improve on certain things, which the friend is telling u. Listen to the advise which may help u to be a better, likeable person. I had a friend with body odour problem. I advised him to put on the perfume or bath more but he only can feel offended. Imagine if he just continues being so smelly by not listening to the advice?!

                                                                                                                                                              • Michelle Lucas
                                                                                                                                                                Michelle Lucas  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                These Tedx talks are just getting to be bad cosmo articles........love her hair tho!

                                                                                                                                                                • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                                                                                  Dr. Sharon  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                  LOL! thanks

                                                                                                                                                                  • bigboy
                                                                                                                                                                    bigboy  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                    She said it was over, and then I realized it was over .....sure you did Yeah that's what happened....

                                                                                                                                                                    • Yoonchiya
                                                                                                                                                                      Yoonchiya  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                      starting at 5:24 Exactly the same situation I had when one friend. We're not friends anymore, and honestly it's a good thing. Learning to love yourself is the best thing you can do.

                                                                                                                                                                      • William Hutchinson
                                                                                                                                                                        William Hutchinson  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                        i give toxic boyfriend.🥰

                                                                                                                                                                        • Rose Troub
                                                                                                                                                                          Rose Troub  หลายเดือนก่อน


                                                                                                                                                                          • Madison Ochs
                                                                                                                                                                            Madison Ochs  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                            Who else secretly wishes that they were the weird people at school that no one talks to, just so that they dont have to worry about friends a d toxic relationships??

                                                                                                                                                                            • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                                                                                              Dr. Sharon  หลายเดือนก่อน


                                                                                                                                                                              • Anna Steele
                                                                                                                                                                                Anna Steele  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                How does one get to become a motivational speaker?

                                                                                                                                                                                • Dr. Sharon
                                                                                                                                                                                  Dr. Sharon  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                  Just take a shot at having something to say and start telling people, offering to speak at local places. . . .

                                                                                                                                                                                  • Oktay Menevişli
                                                                                                                                                                                    Oktay Menevişli  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                    karı için geldim gidiyorum

                                                                                                                                                                                    • Anna Steele
                                                                                                                                                                                      Anna Steele  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                      I had a best friend like this, she managed to get my husband to give her a brand new car a fully equipped kayak, and secret meeting and phone calls. Well I did divorce both of them and her husband too This was a really good talk. Thank you. Regards from Iceland

                                                                                                                                                                                      • susannahXD
                                                                                                                                                                                        susannahXD  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                        'a really good friend is a good egg that's slightly cracked'

                                                                                                                                                                                        • Growlerstone
                                                                                                                                                                                          Growlerstone  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                          *This woman is a kook*

                                                                                                                                                                                          • Sherrie Livingston
                                                                                                                                                                                            Sherrie Livingston  หลายเดือนก่อน


                                                                                                                                                                                            • Max K
                                                                                                                                                                                              Max K  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                              I think male friendship relationships are less emotional/dependent than what this speaker described herself feeling...but still, I can relate. A co-worker with whom I had a good amount of laughs for many months eventually came around with projecting too many of his insecurities on me through needless aggro-competition, which, in the realm of the workplace was unacceptable. He was more of a social butterfly than I, so after a short while of me terminating our 'friendship', I decided to quit that job, as the environment had become too toxic against me. Social dynamics, ugh..

                                                                                                                                                                                              • Amy Kline
                                                                                                                                                                                                Amy Kline  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                                I think because men tend to express their emotional world only to the women in their lives, maybe from cultural training, or maybe because of physiology and hormones. I don't know. But I have found that the women whom men are connected to take the brunt of a man's emotional world, and also the blame for his emotional insecurity or unhappiness. I am fully committed to do that for my son, but not for a grown man. Mothers need to know that boys and men are not allowed to be emotional in the world, so they are the only outlet. And men need to learn to demand room for their emotions in their relationships with other men, including their own fathers. Sadly, women take the hit when men are forced to restrain their emotional lives, and even sadder, men have no appreciation or acknowledgment for the way we buffer the emotions they are too restrained to express. I think it is one of the foundational causes of conflict between men and women.

                                                                                                                                                                                                • Ll Gz
                                                                                                                                                                                                  Ll Gz  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                                  She's so sensitive and sweet.

                                                                                                                                                                                                  • maillaarni
                                                                                                                                                                                                    maillaarni  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                                    The weird thing is I already know this since I was a kid. I don't understand why people gets suicidal when they don't have friends. I am fine if I have friends but I am perfectly fine as well if I don't have friends.

                                                                                                                                                                                                    • eden lane
                                                                                                                                                                                                      eden lane  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                                      I ask my narc friend a question and I notice a pattern. she gives me a negative answer about me and a positive about her.oh my shoes are killing my feetbuy a descent pair like mine. my feet never hurtI can't meet you later my car is in the garage being fixedI'm so glad we have two carsetc you get the picture

                                                                                                                                                                                                      • XeaRae
                                                                                                                                                                                                        XeaRae  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                                        I have one of these. I had many over the years but this one still lingers. It became normal to me to be criticised, mocked, ridiculed and insulted. When I start talking about something new I am really into and she isn’t she tells me to stop talking about it. Or just tells me she has to go and hangs up. I pretend I am ok with it. If someone new talked to me that way I would likely walk away, but here the patterns have been established for almost a decade. It became our dynamic. She talks about her other best friends a lot. I hide my hurt and jealousy.

                                                                                                                                                                                                        • George Mallory
                                                                                                                                                                                                          George Mallory  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Reminds me of Spaceballs. John Candy was a mog. He was his own best friend.

                                                                                                                                                                                                          • Susan Buckley
                                                                                                                                                                                                            Susan Buckley  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                                            My cousin was toxic.. always, always made everything about her.. and would call me to “vent “ for hours and never asked how I was during the vent session.. lol I now keep her at arms length.. and it feels wonderful:) Great video.. and I’m glad this woman became her own best friend... that’s what I did :)

                                                                                                                                                                                                            • Hamin Choi
                                                                                                                                                                                                              Hamin Choi  หลายเดือนก่อน

                                                                                                                                                                                                              I'm in a toxic friendship and I know it. The thing is I go to school, and I see her everyday. I don't know how to finish our relationship...

                                                                                                                                                                                                              • Martha S.
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                                                                                                                                                                                                                I think rejection is important for our growth. You learn not to depend on other people's opinion. Of course when your best friend says to you she doesn't need you anymore - it's painful. But we learn see things with from others view, but also not to take them too seriously. It can be very liberating. BTW who needs a friend who criticises us?